What should I do?

[Guest]

What should I do?

Hablur..........not even teensie weensie little white lies?? lol

Much love,

Starlight Impress

[rachel28]

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hablur y cant all men b like u, xxx my bf does not even know hoe to turn computer on, he hears the keys clicking an assumes im having an affair, i ve mentioned the site but he does not belive in issues such as depression, etc etc, its all black or white, i just pretend that im looking things up, 4 him, i have told him some of the advice i ve received, he doe s seem to understand the extent of my problem a little better, it s hard explaining to some one who dos ent hear,,

it was said maybe sue s partner dosen t want to loose a drinking buddy, i think this is true of my bf, he wants to help but isant ready to give up, so im doing my thing, when i get af it s up to him, its up to me at mo to sort my shit out, if he wants to continue then i think it will b end of the road, drunk people r so aggravating when u r sober !!!!!

[sheshe]

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Well, my hubby knows what I'm doing and all about this board. I don't let him read my posts, though; I kinda feel like this is mine, if that makes any sense!

We have some control issues, they got worse when I was busy losing my mind and drinking too much - and he still doesn't really GET how his trying to control me really both undermines my own confidence as well as just P's me off! I took it for a long time - but now I just say "I'm not a puppet!" (as in, you can't just shove your arm up my a$$ and wiggle me around!). He's trying, though, half the time he doesn't realize he's doing it. But he gets the message pretty quick these days, when, for example, he's "supervising" in the kitchen and I just walk out and leave him to finish the cooking!

[sheshe]

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"drinking too much"

Actually, that should be revised to: "my drinking getting completely out of control"!

[hablur]

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LOL, Rachel I am no Saint, I still tell my wife how to drive 'cause she scares the shit out of me!

[julie001]

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Sue,

I logged on for quite a while before I talked to my husband about MWO. He knows that I am working on my problems with drinking too much. I read a few posts to him, and talked up all of the positive help this site has offered me. I didn't want to feel secretive about what I was doing on the internet every day. Also, I would want to know what it was all about if he was chatting online with people. I know that he is glad that I am making positive changes in my drinking habits. Maybe it would help if you selectively chose a few posts to share with him. Whatever you do, don't some coming here if you find it benefits you in your struggle with alcohol. Good luck.

Julie

[Sue Can Do]

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Thanks Everyone,

He wont tell me exactly why he doesnt want me on here just that he doesnt and thats it, ned of discussion.

PS: Hubby doesnt drink at all now, not that he ever drank much in the first place, i asked him not to have any in the house and he hasnt, he even poured the beer he had in the fridge down the sink, he is very supportive in many ways, just not with this site for some reason.

[ScoobyDoo]

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Control freaks make me sick. I'm so sorry you are dealing with one, particularly in the face of the demon you are trying to beat.

*hug*
Scoobs

[ScoobyDoo]

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Sue, I just read your psot above mine and it's changed my perspective... perhaps he thinks we are a bunch of drunks and you are better than that. I think it sounds like it could be a bit of ignorance about the drinking issue as a whole. Know what I mean?

I do still think if you want to spend your time on this non-destructive/helpful site, that should be your decision to make and yours only.

Scoobs

[chrysa]

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hablur...you are wonderful!!!!

[gabby]

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sue can do,
this is always my advise.....when it comes to dumb husbands or stupid bosses - give them dog licked people food and smile.

[hablur]

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Chrysa,

Why am I wonderful? hehe... just saying what I think.

[happycamper68]

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There should be no "end of discussion", period.

Show him the site- there is nothing wrong with it. Then tell him it's your site and you are trying to get better. Ask him if he'd rather you disappeared to a rehab for a month or two?

[chrysa]

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hablur....just because, because, because, because, the wonderful, wonderful lion you are!!!!

....just because, because, because, because, the wonderful, wonderful heart you have....

...WE are off to see the wizard...the wonderful wizard of............

(I'll work on a real response hab)

[diamond]

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Hi Sue,

I told my husband and he has not said he has problems in fact in this area he is pleased because I have stopped drinking completely since visiting this site.
I think someone mentioned already - he may think we are all P*** heads from the gutter instead of mature intelligent people doing something to improve their health ?

Maybe? Can you let him see the posts etc THEN change your name and password?