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[sujul]

Hmmmm....

Yesterday's posts, especially those on the "something to think about," have indeed got me thinking....

I posted a lot last year when I first got out of rehab...then I got very involved in my academic work for 9 mos and I didn't post for quite some time, although I would pop on to read every now and again just to keep up with newbies and find out how people who I had come to "know" were doing.

I started posting again in June, after I graduated from seminary. I wanted to share what I had done in my new AF life in the hopes that I might be able to share something of what I had learned about staying abs (15 mos today!).

But I HAVE suffered from depression and I am receiving treatment for both bipolar disorder and ADD. So the comments about "mad drunks" and mental problems hurt. I wanted to just ignore them but that's not what happened.

Instead, it all started me thinking and I think now that I'm probably just working out my psych issues rather than helping either myself or anyone else stay sober. I probably spend way too much time here, developing a new "addiction" and procrastinating on getting on with my "real life." I've been here too long.

Thanks, everyone for helping me to the next step. I feel sad about ending something that has been so meaningful to me and so incredibly helpful. But I DO have a lot of positive things I should be doing and yesterday's posts made me realize that I need to get on with them.

So, this is it. I wish everyone all the best~~
xx
susan

[tryingsohard]

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im prob not the best person 2 say this sue, u dont have 2 go, u can still do positive things an post, u r an amazingly clever woman, xxxxx

[eustacia]

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Dear Susan,

I read your story and I hope that your decision to say farewell is, at most, temporary. It has been wonderful to watch your progress. Although I haven't read the comments to which you are referring, I can see why they would aggravate you. You are a good person and I will miss you if you go.

:heart: (Dr.) E who has ADD and treats depression and bipolar disorder

[Chaaku]

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Good luck Sue

I have recently joined this site and read your response to 'idiot wind' and this one.

The fact that you have been AF for 15 months is truly inspirational to me.

As Eustacia says, I too hope that your departure is temporary.

K-M

[cassy]

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Hi sujul..you sound a very sensitive person and you have certainly inspired me to at least moderate........good luck in your ministry.

i dont think David meant to hurt people in his post..just sounding off possibly whilst in a dark area of his life. I hope he doesnt give up coming on here too as its not easy to go it alone.

Regards and good luck to you...Cassy

[Scarlet]

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Hi sujuul,

I know that you must feel really disheartened at the moment. OR, mabe like ME, you just wanted to distance yourself from all of THIS for a while. Whatever the reason, I am sure that is is well understood. To each his own, eh?

But just to let you know, we are all here for you if you choose to join up again. I have been MIA for almost 6 months now, but am almost certain that everyone here will welcome me back with open arms. Realize that everyone has different motivations for joining/re-joining.

Anyway.......wish you all the best,

Scarlet

[magic]

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Hi Su,

I wish you nothing but warm winds as you continue on your journey through this life.

Fifteen months AF is a tremendous accomplishment, a miracle. You are obviously a strong and wise woman. I know you will be well.

Blessings,

magic xx :flower:

[tawnyfrog]

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Maybe this is exactly what I needed to say "Goodbye" and to thank you all. I cannot handle, this. There is an on-going theme of "we're 'not judgemental'". Bullsh*t. David has been crucified.

Thank you to everyone who has touched my heart, my soul and my psyche.

What a wonderful journey it's been ....

(As a non-user of emoticons, I really like this one. For me and my long-time-ago-friend, it was a term of endearment.)

Be well, peeps. I've loved my time here.



:yuk::yuk::yuk:.

[beatle]

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I'm kind of shocked by all this reaction to the "Something to think about" thread. I mean, that's just what he meant and he was right-- it sure gave us all something to think about.
And I feel a lot of people took it too personally. (the mad drunk remark was aimed at himself and also I'm certain it was meant to be toungue in cheek).

Anyway, all possible reactions have already been shared and expressed on the thread, so what I really want to say is that for all of you who have decided you need to move on, I respect your decision but YOU WILL BE MISSED. You have been of great great inspiration and help to those of us who joined after and I'm sure I speak for many other members in saying we hope you'll tune back in sometimes and share your invaluable experience, advice and humour with us as often as you feel inclined. Thanks.

(p.s. I'll miss my half brain, Sujul)

[Pisces]

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I will have to go back and read this thread that seems to have started this exodus...

But I'm happy and proud to finally have dragged this sorry carass to a psyciatrist and been given the best validation of my life in my diagnosis... get this...

Chronic Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder manifesting into Borderline Personality Disorder, lol, scary hey!

But I'm wrapped, I knew I was a screwed up bag of shit, but at least now I can get the right treatment, and I'm keen as Mustard!!!lol

42 Week course to retrain my mind, it can't hurt, and it's sposed to be successful, it will be for me, I'm determined.

The first 41 years of my life have been crap, here's to the next 41!!!

Love to all, and I still want to hang around for a while, hope that's ok?

Luv Jas xxx

[Doggygirl]

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sujul, congratulations on 15 months of sobriety!! You are an inspiration to new people like me and I have enjoyed and learned from your posts while spending hours and hours reading here. I wish you well in your life journey's, and I hope your journey brings you back here on some level. But if not, you have certainly contributed to my efforts to stop the alcohol madness, and for that I thank you.

DG

[Guest]

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Sujul, I find yor opinions very enlighting, and would be very dissapointed to see you go. I didn't agree with the thread either; my solution to those I don't agree with is not to respond (in particular if it is a personal issue) We are not mad or crazy; we are people with drinking issues . Plain and simple. In fact we are bright over achievers in most cases. This website and program has changed and more than likely saved my life. Being A/F for 15 months is amazing! You should be so proud!! please stay around with your insight to encourage the rest of us.
Warm Wishes & Hugs
Mar

[nancy]

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Hi Sujul

I always find your comments enlightening so you add a lot here. I guess when I see your posts I see reason a lot of the time.

It can be addictive

Do whatever you want but if you went we would miss you...


Nancy

[YoungAtHeart]

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I sure don't want to see either Sujul or Tawny leave, I'd rather it be a leave of absence or a vacation or such. Both of you are strong souls, and I know you will do what you have to to be well.

I will miss both of you so much if you go. You will be sorely missed.

Very tender hugs,:l :h
Kathy

[42cat]

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Newbie here, so still getting my feet wet with regard to the boards..... but just wanted to say re. yesterday's post by David, that I found it really interesting, and not in a bad way. Just in a something-to-think-about way... another opinion tossed into the pile. That's all, an opinion. Maybe I'm overly easygoing (probably), but IMO there's no way a whole room of people are going to agree on absolutely everything, or see everything on the same level, or feel the same about everything .... and I think that's OK... The world would be a boring place if we all thought the same way!

And I think that in any forum, but especially one such as this -- where (1) we're all fighting an alcohol addiction, (2) many of us are dealing with other life or family issues, and (3) some of us have diagnosed or still-to-be diagnosed disorders of another kind [and there's probably a (4), (5), (6) too] -- there are always going to be people having good days, people having bad days, emotions, frustrations, moods... as we try to figure ourselves out ... and maybe some posts are going to sound yucky... not always easy to "talk" with just words.

Of course, I'm still very much a newbie .... but so far, this is my "take" on this wonderful forum.... and I like it. A lot. I feel good here. And that's a postive thing!

For those thinking they need to leave, or take a break ... I think that's OK too. Guess I'm pretty easygoing that way... I just like to be happy, or I always try to be anyway. You gotta do what you feel is best, imo. That's the bottom line. You all found this place, and it helped you, maybe made some buddies along the way... that's great. I do hope that if you leave, and then find yourself slipping back to old habits, you'll get back in and find the support again that helped you in the first place.

And if not, maybe even pop in and say hi once in awhile to let those of us struggling know how great you're doing... which is always a source of inspiration! Take care, and nice to meet you.

~Catt