Hiya :new:
I am new to the site, and would welcome any advice you have. I believe my partner has a drinking problem, but he doesn't. It often results in arguments etc, and as I hate it when he has a drink we end up in different rooms in the evening. When he doesn't drink, he is the most wonderful, caring man you could hope for (taking into account that we have our normal ups and downs like anyone). The reason I think he has a drink problem is that he hides cans etc around the house, and drinks everything in sight, including sherry! His dad was a big alcoholic, and was divorced from his mum. His Dad really is now suffering the effects, with very poor health, and is only 62. My husband is 39, and we have just had a lovely little baby girl thorugh IVF. When he drinks, he is not aggressive etc, but his personality changes and I really hate it. We are meant to be trying for another baby naturally, but haven't had the opportunity as most nights he drinks, and I don't want to go anywhere near him. I can tell a mile off if he has had a drink, so hiding the evidence is pretty pointless. He does come on to this site occasionally, as he says he could do with drinking less, but it doesn't seem to have any great effect. I don't drink hardly at all, due to the fact that I was doing IVF for years.
Basically, confronting him has not worked at all, and it probably wasn't the thing I should do. So I would really like to understand the problem, and know how I can support him both in terms of accepting he has a problem, and the journey thereafter..... or do I just have to sit tight and wait......
Any advice would be gratefully appreciated.
I am new to the site, and would welcome any advice you have. I believe my partner has a drinking problem, but he doesn't. It often results in arguments etc, and as I hate it when he has a drink we end up in different rooms in the evening. When he doesn't drink, he is the most wonderful, caring man you could hope for (taking into account that we have our normal ups and downs like anyone). The reason I think he has a drink problem is that he hides cans etc around the house, and drinks everything in sight, including sherry! His dad was a big alcoholic, and was divorced from his mum. His Dad really is now suffering the effects, with very poor health, and is only 62. My husband is 39, and we have just had a lovely little baby girl thorugh IVF. When he drinks, he is not aggressive etc, but his personality changes and I really hate it. We are meant to be trying for another baby naturally, but haven't had the opportunity as most nights he drinks, and I don't want to go anywhere near him. I can tell a mile off if he has had a drink, so hiding the evidence is pretty pointless. He does come on to this site occasionally, as he says he could do with drinking less, but it doesn't seem to have any great effect. I don't drink hardly at all, due to the fact that I was doing IVF for years.
Basically, confronting him has not worked at all, and it probably wasn't the thing I should do. So I would really like to understand the problem, and know how I can support him both in terms of accepting he has a problem, and the journey thereafter..... or do I just have to sit tight and wait......
Any advice would be gratefully appreciated.
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