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[betty boop]

Hi all, sorry to be so down .........

I used to look forward to getting up in the morning to see what had happened here ......... and to get home in an evening to log in again to check things out .........

Now I seem to dread logging on ...........

All there seems to be is constant bickering, nastiness, and point scoring .......

I really am at a loss these days about some of the posts, I thought that we were here to support each other UNCONDTIONALLY .........

BB xx

[Beaches]

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We are Betty. Sometimes things or people come here to stir it up a bit but I also see a lot of the encouraging still going on! Hang in there.

[lushy]

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Betty, I know how you feel. With the amount of people joining, there are bound to be lots of different personalities and opinions. I still think there is a lot of fun and love around here and hope you can focus on that, because you contribute to all of that good stuff too.

[betty boop]

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Thanks Beaches, I'm trying to encourage too, but it's getting hard to know what to read ...........

BB xx

[Accountable for Me]

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Ditto, ditto, ditto. I felt as you are a couple of times. Emotions run high at times. You are a wonderful attribute here. Try to focus on the good stuff that is what I try to do.

[betty boop]

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Lushy and Accountable, you are two of the members that keep me here, I'm just sooooo fed up of the nastiness ...........

Thanks, BB xx

[Beaches]

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I agree Betty.

[Accountable for Me]

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So do I. It is a shame how the focus of what matters here at times is placed upon the nastiness and the bickering. I have seen a couple of newer members cry out for help in more than one thread that they had initially started. Unfortunately they were passed by because the focus was on the threads of pointless arguing or whatever it you want to call it. I have seen it a couple of times since joining.

I also think we need to expect it from time to time with the amount of the members increasing.

[Happier]

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I'm fun Betty!
I don't think we have officially met.
My name is Happier.

The one thing that I have gained from this site is a stronger backbone. I don't know if that makes sense but I can never take criticism. I can't worry what everyone else thinks. That is my biggest problem in life is that I worry what everybody else thinks.
My thinking now is who cares!!!!! I should just worry about myself and my family!
Thanks for taking care of us Betty!

[betty boop]

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Happier I can't believe we never met, for that I am sorry .........

You just made me cry ................

BB xx

[Guest]

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BB, I agree. I have pretty much isolated myself to the 30 day thread because I feel "safe" there. I read the other threads but I don't post nearly like I used to. When I first came here I posted like a mad woman...I became a senior member in 3 months. I love so many people on here. It really saddens me to see the shift because this site literally saved my life. There was a thread yesterday that I saw and I just thought if today was my first day...it would have been my last ...they were talking about bar hoping and doing cocaine...if I had been a new member, I would have kept right on drinking. I would have never logged on this site again. And you know ...I am tearing up...that could have ended my life, because this site saved my life. I was at the end of my rope when I came here. I needed what you all were able to support me and give me. We need to get that back...

[betty boop]

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Luvuall & More2life ..

Why should we have to go to sections where we feel safe????

After all, as new members we didn't go to the safe places, so how do we support genuine new members ............

Thanks ever so much for your replies ..............

Sorry but i'm jist feeling really low at the minute .........

BB xx

[Preciouspinot]

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I have been around for a while and I have seen members come and go and ALL kinds of dynamics inbetween. This site is morphing once again but, I do not intend to go anywhere because of it. I will continue to be positive and the negative tends to cancel itself out.

[Guest]

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I agree BB, we shouldn't HAVE to, but I HAD to STAY sobber. I have enough emotional issues without added craziness from this site. I come here for support and I get support there.

[Mackeral]

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I'm with PP...And so is Mrs Macks...I used to dispair at what was going on...But normality soon returns..