moderating to fail...failing to moderate

[Rocky]

Well it appears that moderating may not be for me.

I have not tried the topa cause I do not want more med. then I already take...(may need to re-evaluate that)

The last two weeks I have had more drinks then I know is good for me,,,

So I may go back to abs...

"That which I want to do...I do not...That which I do not want to do...I do" ///curses///

Rocky

[gabby]

moderating to fail...failing to moderate

Rock,
For me I think moderating would be hard. I'm scared to have even one beer.
Not to sound pushy, but with the mood thing in mind and all...I wish you would give topa a try. What the heck. Could just be the missing link for your chemical makeup.

hugs and more hugs.....

[YoungAtHeart]

moderating to fail...failing to moderate

Hi Rocky,

Abs is easier, it really is. Oh there are times when I wish I could have a glass or two of wine, and if I could have just a glass or two, I wouldn't be here now. Topa is definitely worth a try, I think. Some people don't need much, either. (I need 150 mg to stay sober.)

Good luck to you friend!

XXXXX
Kathy

[CAPRICORN1]

moderating to fail...failing to moderate

ughhh!!!! i know the feeling rocky...moderation is hard work for me sometimes too. just when i think i've "got it down" something happens...like stress, a party, a breakup, or just because i just make something up.

i must say that i understand about the meds part because i've been on a bunch too, and decided to still try the topa because what the heck...how much more can i hurt my liver? well, i am glad i did...i t has help curb my appitite for alchohol and has helped with getting me off other anxiety/depression meds...maybe you should ask your doc about your concerns...don't mean to preach....

last night...2 glasses of wine...not bad...night before...3....tonight i will go without.

i find that my job makes it hard for me sometimes. i am a singer in a (don't laugh) lounge act and i am in some kind of bar or party type atmosphear 4-6 nights a week...ugh!!!

[CAPRICORN1]

moderating to fail...failing to moderate

oh, and i would switch avatar, but i really like this one because it really looks like me...even though i don't wear a mask all the time...starting to feel like bootcampbarbie

[beatle]

moderating to fail...failing to moderate

Rocky, I think u should try anything that might help u achieve your goal. Why are u so worried about the meds if u take a lot already?

Capricorn, it might b a good idea to change the avatar... I do think it's bootcampB every time I see it. But it's ok, if u don't want to.

[southernbelle47]

moderating to fail...failing to moderate

I also think abs is much easier....less work and the descision is just already made and you don't have to go there emotionally every time...wears me out...

"That which I want to do...I do not...That which I do not want to do...I do" ///curses///

Well how about this????
"I CAN do ALL things through Christ Jesus who strengthens me"
I can't do anything on my own...only through His power....

:l Nancy

[Rocky]

moderating to fail...failing to moderate

southernbelle47;166038 wrote: I also think abs is much easier....less work and the descision is just already made and you don't have to go there emotionally every time...wears me out...

"That which I want to do...I do not...That which I do not want to do...I do" ///curses///

Well how about this????
"I CAN do ALL things through Christ Jesus who strengthens me"
I can't do anything on my own...only through His power....

:l Nancy

That's the ticket...Nancy!!! cause we can't do it, we need to let Him.

[beatle]

moderating to fail...failing to moderate

pls let me know the trick to letting Him do it.

[IAD]

moderating to fail...failing to moderate

Rocky,
It's better not to be tempted than to fight temptation. But what do I know,,,I've failed enough times,,,,,,,IAD

[Mags]

moderating to fail...failing to moderate

Rockster

I think I have to go abs. Mods will never work for one like me. Maybe a few years from now, but why even take the chance. We are all different, I think. Some can do mods, and some cannot - it is too dangerous for them. Only you can decide which you are.

I have not tried Topa either because the only way I could get it is to order online. That means more money, questions from Mr. Mags who is supportive but doesn't understand how difficult this can be - not his fault.

I really think I should try Topa even though I don't like the idea of more meds either. Things have been difficult for me lately. But I am starting to feel like what the hell? It's got to be better than drinking.

I'll let you know what I decide. Please keep us updated. Let me know if I can help.

[zincityzen]

moderating to fail...failing to moderate

Hi Rocky, I think I'm with you on this one. There were some threads a few weeks back about people having insurance problems because of being prescribed Topa - something to look into - I've found that my drinking has crept up quite a bit, almost to where it was pre-MWO after my first month of abs.

"Total abstinence is easier than perfect moderation." Saint Augustine, On the Good of Marriage (he was probably talking about sex, but it resonates for booze)

[Guest]

moderating to fail...failing to moderate

Rocky, my friend you know you and your own true heart. If it isn't for you it isn't. It is like saying goodbye to an old friend. But you know that road, you have done it it before, we all have afflictions and sometimes fail. I have been successful with moderation. But this isn't about me, try the topa. Trying to to get your quite time for your prayer closet would be ideal too. As I worry you don't get enough time for Rocky. Take care, life is to be savored as a meal bite by bite, in other words enjoy each precious moment. I love ya!!
Hugs
Mar

[bear73]

moderating to fail...failing to moderate

Think I may need to do AF myself, since I started again I am drinking in the week, and it's just ramping up more and more.

I'm drinking more than 14 units a week more like 21/28. I feel tired all the time, unhealthy,a bit low and am wasting my money! Also conscious of how often I've seen people and complained about being hungover, especially one of our friends who isn't a huge drinker.

Friend's birthday is on Sunday and I am dreading work on Monday as I don't want to be hungover/tired at work again - I've just realised that I do have a choice about that and can say no to the booze!! I'm skint and had to extend my overdraft limit again - partly because of the extra ciggies and booze consumed. Not clever..

Will be seeing you Sunday back in abs land for a week if that's ok, I need small steps and 30 days is just too long for me to consider at the moment.

[Rocky]

moderating to fail...failing to moderate

Yes...moderation is like opening a door an inch and suddenly a flood from the other side bashes in and drown you...

At least for some, this appears to happen...