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[Keepon!!!!]

Hi all

This will be nearlly 34days AF for me.......and Im feeling positive.....actually the thought if drinking alcohol...makes me cringe.....the taste the smell and the feeling dont appeal to me anymore.....dont know why it feels different this time...possibly because the last time I binged I hurt my family and I had horrible mental and physical withdrawals......it just dont seem worth picking up a drink to get a buzz......more hassle than its worth....although I have not been tested on the social side of drinking because I dont go out at all.....would I still stay AF???? who knows being around people who are drinking and on the same level of humour......would I feel miserable and left out would I convince myself to have a couple (which would turn out a disaster) because I carnt have just a couple I have to get drunk

And my other trigger is when I get annoyed or upset about things I instantly crave drink is this normal? In the past Ive got a drink got drunk etc etc etc Would I still be AF if i had been upset or pissed off in these 34 AF you see my point is im ok when things are going fine and Im plodding along by myself in life but its when it comes to family get togethers ( I carnt not go) Ive always been shy and used alcohol when I was younger for confidence......

Anyway just typing how I feel right now !!!!

Also Im 31 got an 8yrs old son and ive been single for 3 and half years and because im pretty new where i live I have no friends and I dont go out to let my hair down etc and Im getting a bit fed up of bein alone when my sister is on her fourth child and she is younger and my sister in law is also on here fourth child same age as me.......I think to myself am i just one of them women that will neva find anyone.......well actually I stop looking...because they say stop looking and he will come .......WHEN LOL.....you see drink has been my partner for a long time and now ive dumped the drink I want to find a nice companion......soz if I sound desperate lol I just want to share the nice things in life with someone.

Right am going to end this post before you slip off your chair asleep hehehehehe

Takew care Luv Keepon:h

[Almostfamous]

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Oh you should feel SO proud of yourself and try to focus on the positives. You ARE VERYyoung!!!! Here in the U.S. many people don't marry or have kids til the are well into their 30's. Age is a number and the fact that you are sober will make you FEEL and look better.
I stopped drinking last summer for 6 weeks and had to go to couple family parties. I thought it would be hard not to join in the drinking. It actually bacame fasinating watching people who thought they were so damn hysterical when they were NOT. I kept telling myself I didn't want to look like them. I started to become a moderate drinker and now am working on more af days. You will feel ready one of these days to show people the new and improved sober YOU. Keep up the great work for your 8 year old! : )

[diamond]

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Hi Keepon,

I'm so glad you are doing well. Keep on !! Sorry for the pun !

I used to think I would never find the perfect man for me and get married, I was so miserable etc

Until a friend of mine told me that 'not everything in other people's gardens are rosy'. When i asked her about it she explained that to me I see couples walking down the road, hand in hand, madly in love, having babies, a house etc. BUT it is not always as it seems, on the outside looks great but inside may be misery.

It turned out she was having an affair and was miserable.

So this kept me going in the belief that 'what is meant to be is meant to be'. The right person will be there for you at some time. Just try and be happy, look happy when sad and try and do your best, is all I can say (even though I can't always do that myself !!! LOL)

I do wish you success and all the best in everything,

Diamond xx

[boycie]

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hi there, know totally where you are coming from. i can hold it together all day through the most stressful of days. Come picking up the kids I can't cope, totally loose it, Kaoss just kills me, can't do it. I am single and have been for a while. Nowbody wants the restriction of kids. You are doing great with AF days keep it up, you are worth it. Kimbo

[Almostfamous]

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Diamond- So true! I had a neighbor/friend (before we moved) that looked like she had the perfect life from the outside and she was absolutely miserable. You never know what is happening behind closed doors.

[boycie]

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sorry mate my post read really badly I didn't mean it to be negative. Just think they haven't discovered us yet we are a great package. There is somebody out there just waiting you will see, sometimesw we look so long at the closed doors that we don't see the one that is open!!!. Keep up the af days and it will all come together when you least expect it. Kimbo

[Flip]

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My view is a little different to most. I don't have the pre-destined and optimistic view that "there is someone out there" just for you. I think there are potentially hundreds that we might meet in our lifetime, but we may or may not meet them at the right time etc.

I also think that I might NOT meet a person I want to spend quality time with. I've been single for 10 years now, and everyone always says " when the time is right" etc etc, but what if I don't meet someone??

If I don't meet someone, I'm ok with that. For the past ten years I've been learning how to live on my own, take care of myself and my children and I am now at the point I'm not even sure I want someone else in my life.

I'm not just saying that because I haven't found someone. I really have a great life and Im not sure what someone else would add to that. They certainly have the potential to STOP me from doing all the things I want to do (if I let them).

The trick to this stuff is learning to live your life the way YOU want to and not expecting someone else to make it better in any way. do all the things you want to do without them!

[diamond]

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Good for you Flip,

I admire your strength.

Diamond xx

[lucky 2.0]

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A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.

[Keepon!!!!]

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Hi all thanx for the feedback......I know what your all sayin about men etc.......because im always listening to family members moaning about there partners.....and I think to myself im glad im single......I do enjoy my life without a man because i can do what i want when i want.....lazy around in my cumfy baggy bottoms and slippers.... watch all girly stuff on tv.....not footy etc.....hehe.......And all my belongings are mine that i have saved up and bought.....my ex used to smash up my stuff....asshole....in fact ive never lived so comfortable before....BUT.....i miss the hugs and kisses and snugglin up watching a dvd...and sharing my opinions of the day......lol......and also the other physical side wink wink you get from a man......hehehehehehee and no I dont use hmmm hmmm a vibrator lol hehehehehehe soz but had to be said lol:anon: before someone suggests it lol

[Niblet]

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Congratulations to you Keepon !! Your name is correct "Keepon"... I wish you all the happiness and all the peace in the world.. Do you find now that your mind is "quiet".... Wonderful eh? It just " Feels" Right eh? Kudos to you !
Hugs, ~Niblet~

[Keepon!!!!]

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Hi Niblet I know what you mean my mind is quiet....and its the best feeling ever......

[Flip]

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Keepon, I get my hugs from my friends and my daughters. Not quite the same, but it sure helps. Sometimes I have to ask for them and nobody ever knocks me back :-)

I miss sex too, but when I weigh up the options, it's not a bad thing to give up when I get all the benifits of NOT living with a wanker!

Besides, I keep a couple of 'buddys' that I can call on if needed in desperate situations! lol

[Determinatrix]

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Ha!

[Guest]

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Hi Keepon,
Glad you`re feeling so positive about having quit drinking.........your enthusiasm is fantastic.
This will be my 3rd Christmas as a single woman.........a time like so many others, when I do miss having a significant other in my life.
However, I really think as time goes on, we begin to appreciate that we can live our lives just as we wish............that`s a definite bonus!!!
There are pros and cons to both being single and being attached.

Flip`s idea about having `emergency men` made me laugh...........am all for it, but think double standards still prevail to a certain extent!!! LOL

Starlight Impress