WELL.....THE COPS ARE AFTER ME

[lushy]

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By the time I get done bitch slapping the crap out of him, Magic has her way with his pubes, and the MWO mafia has threatened him within an inch of his life, what's left?

[Accountable for Me]

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I think we should seriously tie him up in a chair and mentally abuse him first for a good long while. Make him feel like the small shi* he is.

Then the bitch slapping, pube pulling, and finally, the rest of us can have our way with him!

Gabby, thinking of you and hope you are OK.

[eustacia]

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Gabby--

I have a feeling that your ex never called the cops. In the unlikely event that his lawyer told him to call the cops on you, it was out of exasperation and wanting to get your ex off the phone. Or, at most, it was to prevent domestic violence from ensuing. Does your ex have a history of playing mind games? I won't be looking for your picture in the post office anytime soon, hon. Still, I can imagine that this situation is nerve-wracking!

:heart: E

[gabby]

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Well....as you all guess the cops never showed up.

What a joke. Yes....he does play mind games. Has for a long time.

Accountable, you couldn't be more right. HE IS A REAL WHACK JOB!

He is always tryin to scare me and make me worry. It wasn't that long ago that he had this whole huge story cooked up that it was my fault that my son smoked pot and I providing it for him. RIGHT! The only thing that was my fault about him getting in trouble is that I didn't lock him in a closet to keep him from goin anywhere.

So he was tryin so hard to blame me for it that he came into the house (without my permission no less) went through my personal belongings to get a prescription bottle. (topamax - lol just kiddin...actually it was prozac) and then goes and gets some pot on his own...leaves my name and everything like my address and all on the bottle - puts the pot in it and then keeps it.

This was for evidence! Likeall true pot smokers actually do this. "here's my weed.....here's who I am.......here's where I live......if lost or stolen please return it" Right! or there's this one. "If your a cop and you find my stash....here's who I am please come arrest me".

So here he is savin this up and God knows what else he was going to collect to frame me. He had been threatening me for ever that he was going to plant crap all over the house and say I was dealin as he was sayin that I was a detriment to the kids and their environment. (can you believe that guys....me that is alcohol free for 14 months and totally workin on myself - you guys know as you have been getting to know me and my heart for that last year).

Now you all gotta know that none of this bugged me cuz first of all.....its not true. And secondly my attorney knew all of this and we had so much crap on him that we ended shutin him down before any of this hit the courts.

But anyway what ended up happening first is before any of that even went to the judge is.....my kids found that pot in the pill bottle with my name. They were so mad at him cause they saw right through it. They knew what their dad was tryin to do to me. So not that this is good but.......first they smoked up the evidence and then they confronted him. And he just started this pathetic act with cryin and sayin "oh you guys just don't know what I have been through with your mother". He is insane!!!

an style="color: navy;">The kids know it but they still support him cuz he has the $$$$$$$.

And sadly....its very possible/probable that he still ends up screwin me in the end financially. Why....cuz men just get away with that crap and he has more money to pay attorneys longer then I do.

That's what I get after a 25 year relationship and 3 kids. (notice I don't use the word marriage? I don't know what that is.) I was a stay home mom, not working, stayin home raisin the kids bein the perfect trophy wife, great mom, perfect house - inside and out. He never had to lift a finger. I did everything. Kids, school, runnin, nurse, cook, cleanin, laundry. Gorgeous landscaping, beautiful lawn. Shoveled the snow. etc. All the while he climbs his business latter and success. All of our savings and retirement is in his business that he is XX'in me out of completely and leavin the personal debt to come out of our house equity. He threatened to "send me off in the street with nothin" if I left him and I think he has a better chance of doin that then me fightin it.

The only thing I can tell myself is that I am re-gaining me back again. My freedom from his control and abuse. And my sanity.

I will end up walkin away from my luxuries. And for a while even lose my kids - to a degree. Only cuz they are gonna pick the money in the end. I just know it. Not my youngest tho. He is 14 and for some reason doesn't suck into dads crap. He sais he would rather have my love then dads money. I will get child support for him at least. And I would for the 16 yr old but I think he is gonna choose dad's money till its all over. Then end up getting sick of him and be with me anyway. But without the financial support.

When ever the boys have a problem with a girl or anything that clearly they want love and nurturing - they always call on me. Just a few nights ago my oldest that is 18 called me at 2:30 in the morning just to talk about his girlfriend.

Anyway this is getting absoultly way to long.

Thanks for listening my MWO Mafia friends. (notice we don't have any men in our group)

Ya know.....you all are more then friends. We seem spiritually connected to each other. We all really do have an amazing link to one anther. Thank you all so so much. Love you all.

[Popeye]

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:h

[gabby]

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Thanks Popeye.

[Guest]

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Gabby, next time do what a true southern gilr would have done...find yourself a barrel a dn a gasoline jug and burn his shit!!!!!!! It ia very therapeutic. Invite a friend over....don't return it, if he's been without it longer than a week he can clearly live without it. Love to you!

[Accountable for Me]

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I can't even imagine what you are going through. I have to give you an A+++ for coping skills.

No matter what you are giving yourself something no one else could ever and that is sobriety. This will give you the continued strength to keep on going. You are a fighter, there is absolutely no doubt about it.

I generally hate men so much. (Sorry to you good men here). Some take and take and take until there is nothing left emotionally, physically or financially. It is however the emotional abuse that leaves the biggest scars.

You keep on fighting Gabby. You are doing so well and he can't stand it! Control freaks need to feel powerful by belittling/playing games/emotionally & physically bashing. You are standing your ground and it is killing him. (too bad not literally). You will prevail because I know you have it in you to do just that!

[gabby]

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Thanks Accountable. That makes me feel more encouraged.

[Happier]

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Sorry I'm so late Gabby! It's too bad that your going through all this crap with this monster but I bet it really bothers him that you have your act together.

And Popeye, you are so just darn sweet!!!!!!!

Anyways, why don't you donate his clothes and other belongings instead of burning them. I think that would make you feel a lot better. You gave him plenty of time to get rid of his stuff.

Isn't it amazing how much energy some people spend trying to bring other people down?

Hang in there Gabby :h

[Newyear]

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Hey Gabby - hang in there.

happier is right - The best revenge is success!

:l :l Lisa

[Jacy]

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Gabby, I don't think you will go to jail. You may be charged. I am hoping for you that is not the case. Take care.

[Beaches]

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Gabby you are a very strong person. In time the money won't matter to the kids and they will realize who has always been there for them. Just like your son who called you in the wee hours to talk about a girl. They can count on you and you've got your life back. You are sober and you are in control. YOU have the control, your ex has nothing and that's why he's freaking out.

I hope for you that in time he will get tired of his games and just go on with his life and leave yours alone. Hugs to you.

[gabby]

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The whole thing was a roose.

The ironic thing is that I truly kept him from goin to jail a few years back because he was stealin from his partner. Which is how we lost all of our retirement and savings and also how he became sole owner of his business.

I never knew about any of it and it was all a shock. One day he just said you gotta help me stay out of jail cuz I have been stealin from so-n-so and he found out so I gotta buy him out or he is pressin charges. The whole thing was a mess with embesselment and extortion.

My kids and I were unknowing and unwilling victims. I cried and drank for weeks. But went along with bailin him out.

Now he has the business and I am the financial loser. He did promise me the divorce and to be financially "takin care of" if I backed him then. Well I got my divorce. But none of the rest. I know I was stupid. But I was backed against the wall and not thinkin straight. He wins the lotto.....but he is drunk and lonely. My kids are screwed up. I hope they recover. So am I financially but I did get free of him the hard way....but poor.

Life is crazy isnt it.

Most improtantly I have my sobriety, it feels good......but it wasn't for free.

[Accountable for Me]

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The only thing I can say about that is; it isn't your fault. You stood by him no matter what obviously. He is a horrible human being.

You are right your sobriety did not come for free. You have worked very hard at it and each and everyday you should be proud of yourself. I know with my lack of coping skills I would of drank myself to death being with that monster for 25 years.

You are not responsible for his manipulative brainwashing when it comes to your kids. They have some time to see the light - they are still young. If anything you are setting a GOOD example by taking the higher road when dealing with him and quitting the booze. All is NOT lost. Keep having faith!