MAD, BUT I DON'T HATE MYSELF

[Arial]

MAD, BUT I DON'T HATE MYSELF

Gabby I am so impressed by the strength you are showing, not only dealing with everything but also keeping AF - my hat is off to you.

My heart is also going out to you at such a difficult time. I went through a divorce about 3 years ago so know how difficult it is, - and we tried to keep ours as 'amicable' as possible for the girls. Not sure if that really helped actually, as they found it very traumatic regardless. Don't underestimate the affect on your boys - my girls are now 18 and 16 as well and we still are working through issues - maybe they need your support as much as you need theirs at the moment. I did have to really work at making the girls realise that their Dad was leaving me not them and there were a huge number of other issues that don't get magically resolved by the divorce settlement. In fact my eldest daughter ended up needing psychiatric help for a year to help her through - and that was despite all my best efforts not to involve the kids!

Reading your post was just gut wrenching and I so hope you can stay strong and can look to the day that this is behind you and life is good again - Believe me, it will be. I have never felt better about myself after having several years to find myself again and focus on me rather than him. So fingers crossed that your attorney can help sort this out as promptly as possible and in the meantime you can focus on what is really important - you and the boys.

Thinking of you... :h

[InnerStrength]

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Gabbs
You are one of my biggest inspirations.. I hope you know how much I admire you.
You are so strong -- and dont underestimate the power you have, my friend. You are a warrior.
I can't wait for you to get through this - and you WILL get through it - sober and happy. Your ex will do anything to try to bring you down but thats because he is miserable with his own life. Let him be. You just keep being you and doing what you're doing - and remember, always, that we love you.
Love jen

[Rocky]

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Gabby...

Wish I was there to give you a big Hug!
Stand by your beliefs and principels...Stand strong.. This will pass and life will go on.
Love ya!

Rocky

[Happier]

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God Gabby, can't you get a Pit Bull or something that will attack him for breaking and entering? You need to start setting traps in the house if he starts coming in.
Or you need to do something like Jullia Roberts did in the movie Sleeping with the Enemy.

I am a true believer in karma just like Earl in the show "My Name Is Earl".
Your husband will have bad karma coming to him.

I'm praying for good karma for you Gabby!

Happier

[gabby]

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:l thanks guys

[Mags]

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I too admire you so much - for your strength and your guts. What a horrible mess you have to deal with. Just remember to take care of yourself and stay AF - that is also a great thing to do for your kids. I know you worry about them and know this is very hard on them. You are and need to continue to be strong and they will see your strength. It will help guide them through this. Believe it or not, they need your strengh very much right now. They will see you are the strong sober one and he's the piece of crap hanging out at the bar. It will take time, but they will sort things out eventually.

I wish I could rush over and give you a big sloppy hug. You will get through this.

Remember the mafia is behind you (and we don't take prisoners!)
:h

[Saint Jude]

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:l Oohh Gabby Big hugs to you!
I can't believe what an Ass your ex is! Well, actually . I can, I think I might have dated him a few decades ago.. or his brother!
I'm so sorry you're still dealing with all of this. But you know, they say, we're never given more than we can handle.. You go girl! Kick some BUTT!
Sending you strength & prayers...:h

[CAPRICORN1]

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Hi Gabby...You are an amazingly strong woman, and getting stronger! I've been reading about your ex-jerk...don't let him take ANY power away from you...so obvious he is trying to knock you down!!!

You are my hero...staying af throug all this, but then again, the alternative really wouldn't help either right now...stay focused and let him do the drinking...he is EVIL!!!

MY prayers, and heart go out to you and your boys right now. I do agree about karma...you've got plenty of good coming your way sweetie!:l

cap

[wwbarb]

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:h :h

Hang in their Gabby. He'll get his, and it will all work out. That being said, it sucks that you have to go through this.

I admire the hell out of you. I know it's hard, but you just take the next step, do what you need to do and come here and vent when you need to.

[Guest]

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Gabby,
We knew he'd get the order of protection...GOOD...now that means you can't contact him, but he can contact you...they did tell you that right???? SO, DON'T MESS UP. He is evil. He will try and make you mess up. He is so F-up I wouldn't put it past him to say something happened to one of the boys to make you call him. NO MATTER WHAT, do not call him or his house. Be cautious.
Change all the locks on your house so he can no longer get in and if he has any thing ...anything left there, gather it ALL up and set it by ther curb for trash pick up..ALL of it. Be done with him. Enough is enough. It is time to ward yourself of all evil spirits. Don't discuss it with the boys, just gather it and set it out with the trash. I know this hurts you Gabby, but it is time to move forward and love yourself! Tell the boys you love them, but stop discussing their Dad with them at all. Make his name a topic you will not have mentioned in your home. They love him, that is fine and you respect that but they in turn must respect you. And in order for you to respect them it is best to just not mention their father. Just a thought...I am not expert...you can trash the whole post..just trying to help ya. Love you and I hate you are having a hard time!!!!!!!

[Paddy]

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Gabsters, a big hug from me, too. Doesn't make me feel proud of the male species at times. My fianc?e's ex is a similar piece of crap and worse. Also bears the label 'Made in Hell'. Mamma Mia. Some people, frankly, should be strung up by the short ones. And then have the nerve of putting a restraining order on our Gabster?? OK guys, let's gang up and go and show him!

[Guest]

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I do have to add he is lucky I am AF...I am been known to act a fool Gabby...I personally know about burning in the barrel for a reason...LOL. AND drinking gives me COURAGE..I suddenly become 10 ft tall from 5'6"......watch out now. LMAO. AND jail aint nothing but a thing ...HA HA HA, I will get out tomorrow.....of course, ALL WHILE UNDER THE INFLUENCE. Thank god I am AF. I am with Paddy though, he is about to push the MWO Mafia out!

[gabby]

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Ahhh, thanks again guys.

Luv, he has a restraining order not a protection order. There is a difference I guess. A Protection is much harder to get. (I dont get it) And also my attorney is doin one right back on him stating the fact that he has threatened to kill me and such. (actually a whole bunch of other stuff too) The reason I cant get a protective order is that he like didnt do that last week instead it is an older threat.

Thanks guys, I love you all so much

[gabby]

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Also Paddy and Rocky, its nice to be reminded that not all guys are icky. Thanks for bein so sweet.

[lucky 2.0]

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I agree with getting everything of his out of the house because if you do not, law enforcement will look @ it as you giving mixed signals. I learned a lot about this recently with a family member. Even changing the locks is problematic. Is his name on the title to the house? Even if it is not, if you change the locks and he breaks in, but still has anything in the house, it is not considered a break-in. He is considered @ the very least a tenant if he has items in the house. And restraining orders can be a joke. My family member got a temporary one and then went to get it turned into a permanent one and it was denied-Even though he had spent time in jail for hurting her and she said she was afraid for her life. She should have included the police photos and the police report but did not. That is where she went wrong but you would think saying you are afraid for you life is enough but it was not in her case. It was all a very exasperating experience. I am so sorry you are going through this.