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    WHAT FEELS GOOD?

    Some people here ask me - how have you done it?. What's your trick? How do you stay AF this long?

    Guys....I ask myself the same question. I think its the topa. Yet I see some of you fail while takin it. I think its my mind set, yet I thought I had the same mind set before and failed miserably. I really don't know the answer.

    Sure...GOD has brought me along. Though my walk with the Lord isn't the greatest, I know he is there helpin me along the way.

    Doggiegirl - you PM'ed me the other day and asked,

    "What are your top words of advice to newbie abbers like me who really want to get as far as you have gotten?

    Sorry I haven't answered you hon. Not only have I been stressed (har har) but its also cuz I haven't known what to say to you.

    Well just now it occurred to me readin a post by Java in long term abs. Its titled "Advice". I think this is a huge part of the answer.

    Java was thinkin about changin her 5 month af stretch to mods. And then she had a post about makin it to 6 months.

    So I could show her that she could look into her own questions of self doubt and answer it with her own proven strength of makin it to 6 months.

    And its that feelin of accomplishment that is the answer. THATS WHAT KEEPS YA GOIN. At least for me anyway.

    Ya know I get to writin on here and then I wonder do I make any sense at all to anyone. I so feel like I am rambling on and on.

    But Doggiegirl that sense of accomplishment of quittin beer is so strong for me. And has so much power that I never want to give it up. (at least I hope not) But see.....even tho I still have some self doubt....stronger than that is knowing that I can do it. Because.....I HAVE    .

    And that just feels so good!

    (even tho I am on the 10 most wanted list and have a pic at the post office) lol


    Thanks Java and Doggiegirl for lettin me talk about you in front of everyone.

    And thanks everyone for lettin me take up space for anther one of my stupid posts. :new:
    Gabby :flower:
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    #2
    WHAT FEELS GOOD?

    Thanks Gabby! Very well put and I agree it's something we have to pull out from deep inside ourselves to succeed.
    "Keep your eyes and heart focused on the end goal at all times, and never settle for less."

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      #3
      WHAT FEELS GOOD?

      Gabby is right, I started off doing 30 days AF and thought after 30 days I would do mods..even though I know I can not do mods....have tried many times and failed miserably. I did 30 days and thought...I will do another 30 days, did that and thought, well mine as well do another...I am now on my 4th set of 30 days...4th month...when you start and you accomplish that goal, you are so proud and your family is SO proud. My children are SO proud. You just keep going. You just feel you can't let yourself down, I can't let them down either. We are all smiling, laughing, we are all so happy again. We have had such unhappiness in our house...we need HAPPY again. AND we are! DRUNK is UGLY!

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        #4
        WHAT FEELS GOOD?

        Gabby & Luvu...:l :l :goodjob: You guys are awsome!
        The only thing worth stealing is a kiss...:flower: zwink:

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          #5
          WHAT FEELS GOOD?

          GABBY thankyou, thankyou - you aren't rambling you have said it exactly, it is that feeling of not wanting to spoil the run of af days, the sense of achievement after years of booze filled nights, I now got af days !

          I never really thanked LUVUALL, it was her 30 day thread that got me here - thanks, a MASSIVE thanks LUVUALL, because without that thread I wouldn't have reached 3 months af - and you also summed it up, after 30 days i followed you to make it 60 days, then 90 days - and i know I can't moderate too, but toyed with the idea, if I had tried I wouldn't have made it here.

          THANKYOU EVERYONE FOR GETTING ME HERE

          Diamond xx
          I feel as though it's all happening to someone right next to me.
          I'm close, I can feel it, I can hear it, but it isn't really me.

          Marilyn Monroe

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            #6
            WHAT FEELS GOOD?

            You guys rock.
            Sunny days, sweeping the, clouds away. On my way, to where the air is sweeeet!!! Can you tell me how to get, how to get to......LOL

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              WHAT FEELS GOOD?

              AWW Diamond, you brought tears to my eyes! No thanks needed...YOU did the work not me. We ALL struggle the struggle! Leaning on each other is what we all need. I could not do it with you. This is HARD, some days harder than others. But, with this awesome group, I have managed to remain AF, which as you all know is mega important to me as I am caring for my Mama. Which I can not do stumbling and throwing up. So THANK-YOU all so much!!!!

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                #8
                WHAT FEELS GOOD?

                That was way sweet Diamond. I am glad Luvs 30 day thread has helped so much.
                Gabby :flower:

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                  #9
                  WHAT FEELS GOOD?

                  Gabby,
                  We need all the help we can get ! Though a lot of us talk the big talk we welt in our daily lives. this is why we are here ! Your support is so important ! Help Us If You Can ! IAD
                  ?Be who you are and say what you feel because
                  those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.?
                  Dr. Seuss

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                    WHAT FEELS GOOD?

                    IAD, we all help each other!
                    Gabby :flower:

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                      WHAT FEELS GOOD?

                      I agree that the time AF is a goal setter itself. To me the first 30 days are the hardest. I could not have made it without Luv and her thread also. Today I am at 103 days and I am feeling so good mentally it is Indescribable. I also have found happy again. I thought it was lost a long time ago never to raise its head again.

                      The other thing I think made a big difference this time was my determination. I had such a disastrous last drunk; every time I even thought about a drink I would remember the last one and why I was determined to not drink. I am still finding alcohol I had "put away" around the house. Every time I find a bottle it brings up the question (not the desire) of drinking again. I am by myself, and no one would know. The devil raises his little head and screws with mine. But so far I have been able to pour it out; which I would not have been able to do before.

                      I am rambling so I will shut up.

                      God Bless
                      Bear
                      What St. Frances of Assisi said of himself is true for me.
                      ?If God can work through me He can work through anybody.?

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                        #12
                        WHAT FEELS GOOD?

                        Gabby, thank you so much for starting this post in an effort to answer what I'm sure seems a nearly impossible question. I appreciately your insights, and also those of everyone else who has contributed on this thread. I'm glad you posted this in "General" so many people will see these words of advice.

                        I'm so happy to be starting Day 19 AF today. My "wiring" is such that with each additional day, I feel like I would be "giving up" so much more if I were to take a drink again. I like the way that makes me feel - never wanting to turn back the clock - ever. I just want to hang onto this feeling of resolve and never let my guard down.

                        Thank you so much to Gabby and everyone here for your support. MWO and all of you are changing my life.

                        DG
                        Day 19 AF Loud and Proud * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * (my gold stars )
                        Sobriety Date = 5/22/08
                        Nicotine Free Date = 2/27/07

                        One day at a time.

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                          #13
                          WHAT FEELS GOOD?

                          Way good job Bear and DG! Both of you are doin so awesome. Your right that first month is the hardest but then sometimes it sure flares up again too.

                          DG, just keep on working we are all here for ya when you need it.

                          Love ya Bear!
                          Gabby :flower:

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                            #14
                            WHAT FEELS GOOD?

                            Great topic for a post, Gabby, but if you don't stop putting yourself down, I may have to come find you and well....I don't know...hit you with a stick and then hug you?

                            I'm about to hit 7 weeks, longer than I've ever gone since I developed a drinking problem, and it's true--the longer you are sober, the more motivated you feel. It just feels like there is more to lose if you drink. I feel PROUD of my accomplishment, and I want to feel even PROUDER!

                            Maybe someday I'll feel differently, but at this point, I wouldn't trust myself to do Mods at all! I can't imagine ever being able to "control" my drinking. It ALWAYS controls me!
                            AF as of August 5th, 2012

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                              #15
                              WHAT FEELS GOOD?

                              Big Congrats on your AF stretch Kath. I love ya!!!!!!!

                              Please no stick hitting. Only hugs allowed. :l :l :l
                              Gabby :flower:

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