This is about as low as I have ever been....

[diamond]

This is about as low as I have ever been....

IAD,

ditto what everyone is saying, we are all here for you, lots of things going on at once can make even smallest stress feel like a ton of weight on your shoulders, he probably picked up on your stress and got worried about the drinking... that's kids.

Keep strong

Diamond

[Guest]

This is about as low as I have ever been....

I understand how gutted you must feel by your son`s outburst, IAD.

It goes with the territory.........alcoholics will always feel guilty for raising our kids in such a fragile environment. And, letting an adult down isn`t particularly nice, but our behaviour letting our kids down just makes us feel so low.

Feeling as you do is a tremendous impetus to turn this thing around...........we can all do it if we REALLY try.

C`mon IAD...........I`ll REALLY try with you!!!

Much love,

Starlight Impress

[cassy]

This is about as low as I have ever been....

Hi IAD

Glad to hear your son loved you enough to be honet with you too.
Maybe you can for today work through the hurt and dont drink. Maybe do something with your son..cook, sport, watch a film ..anything that you both enjoy.

Give him some of your sober time and enjoy the day......dont worry about sustaining tomorrow just do today.

tell him you love him too BUT you need to be the adult in the relationship and not over burden him. enough fior him to see your love in action today by being sover if possible.

Maybe tell him briefly about the help and suport tou are accessing to change your habits.Maybe have some special time each day when not "under the influence".

Mty father was alcoholic and he never made any sober time for his 4 kids because he just couldnt get to that stage and refused all help.... a pity..as he never knew his own kids.

He lost his family , friends the lot over a 25 year period and died of alcoholic dementia..not a pretty sight.

Take heart..we all are here with alcohol related problems and want to support you too.

Have a good day and live the day in joy and hope..

regards Cassy

[beatle]

This is about as low as I have ever been....

well golly. i have had similar feelings but my kids are not old enough to "know".

anyway, I agree with everything that has been said here except one thing and that is that we are not born this way. we are. sorry and it sucks. but it doesn't change anything. we still have to be the ones to take control. (who am i to talk, yeh?) we have to, somehow, and this is one of the ways (MWO).

[Beaches]

This is about as low as I have ever been....

IAD, I am glad your son cared enough to say something to you and let you know that he loves you as well. I often think that about my kids as well. They are young right now and I am thankful I found this place when I did. Stay strong, get sober and be the dad you know you can be!! Take Care.

AFM, your daughter will come around hon.

[Guest]

This is about as low as I have ever been....

IAD, I can't add anything that hasn't been said here. My own child has said very similar things to me when she was 15. At least your boy said he loved you, which means he cares. Just do your best to explain what your doing and how you are progressing albeit only if it's a small amount. Parenting is tough. My daughter is now 29, and I feel manipulates me because of the guilt I feel from all the heavy drinking years. Just try your best my friend. Accountable, my heart goes out to you, it hurts when your child rejects you, I so know this!
Hugs to all
Mary

[IAD]

This is about as low as I have ever been....

Thanks All !
Have some soul serching ahead of me. As well as a big battle with that beast - Alcohol.
Thanks again for your support. I will make something possitive from all of this. IAD:thanks:

[Popeye]

This is about as low as I have ever been....

About a year and a half ago, my son (21) came in with a good drink in him and tried to beat me up.
I let him hit me a few times and wear himself out. Then he just started crying and blurting out all sorts of stuff that he'd kept bottled up for god knows how long. I put him to bed.
The next morning he couldn't remember much about it.(he says??). We had a talk and he said he was sorry and we just got on with our day.
I felt really bad because I knew the stuff he had said while he was drunk was right.
I was a 'fu***ng a**hole'....'a drunken c**t. I found this place shortly afterwards and have never looked back.
The point I'm making is that I still love him and he still loves me. It just built up for years until he couldn't keep it in any more. He's a good lad with a caring heart and I had let him down once too often. I don't want to let him down again.
Hope this helps.

[hart]

This is about as low as I have ever been....

My husband's 12 year old son has seen his father and I drink too much a lot. He never says anything but I have seen him counting the bottles. It's a big incentive for us. I would be very hurt too if my son said that, but as a child of an alcoholic I would totally understand his frustration and anger. Hang in there hon.:l