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    #1

    Confession time

    Dear friends,

    On Saturday last I told you I was going to live with my nan.

    Well I had every intention of doing so before my mom put a spanner in the works. I told her what had happened between me and my fiancee, and although she cried and was really upset, she didn't quite grasp the severity of it all.

    Same as his parents didn't really flinch. I don't want to make light of my situation, but if anything I wish it would all go away, so I can get on with becoming well and helping others. But really, if I turned up at his folks place with one severed arm in my handbag they would really not flinch at all! I thought my own mom would be horrified, and she was, saying "we'll come and get you whenever". Problem is though I have a history of what they would call "hysteria" Thing is though, as well as having a drink problem I have been really nasty verbally to them all, so no wonder they have had enough.

    I know I don't ask to be beaten up, but this has happened with 3 seperate guys. I feel so desperatly for those of you with children. I can imagine what it's like, because I can't leave my 16 week old kitten. He's so hung up on his food and love (my partner really loves him)
    I can't take hime to my nan's, she's 90 and he runs round your feet and might trip her up.
    And my mom has a brand new house and says I can't bring him. I'm totally piss3d, off. so sorry guys, I know you will think I'm crazy staying for a kitten but I can't leave him, knowing what my partner may do. I was horrid to my mom and she hasn't spoken to me fort 2 deays so I', alone,

    Kitty
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    Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.
    Confucius
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    #2
    Confession time

    I didnt' read what you posted on Saturday but is there a shelter that you can go? I don't think that you're the horrid one but rather yourmum for letting you back to him even though I don't know what happened. It says something about why you put up with whatever the situation is where your at and why you put up with it. Do you have any girlfirends that you could hang out until you can get on your feet - do you have a job?

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      #3
      Confession time

      Kitty, can you get a friend to take your kitten in? Please don't stay because of your kitten. You are in a bad situation and you need to get out. I know you love your kitten but you need to think of your own well being. This man is a nut job and he doesn't deserve you. Violence typically escalates. Even if you have to leave the kitten there, get out and clear your head. Just my 2 cents.

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        #4
        Confession time

        What happend to your arm? Sorry, I missed that.
        Gabby :flower:

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          #5
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          Kitty - Accountable has a good suggestion. Do you have a friend that can take your kitten temporarily. You really can't stay and leave yourself in danger.

          :l

          Marcie
          Marcie

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            #6
            Confession time

            Gracie, and AAFM,

            I know I should go, but I'm so afraid I'll get that call with my Kitty crying for help. I'm srewed. My lovely kitty is so happy, and I know now that is why he bought it for me. I haven't got a penny. I've hurt so many menbers of my family, even my Mom.

            I'm trully very sorry for all those without a mom, but we have a difficulkt timer so'
            Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.
            Confucius

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              #7
              Confession time

              Kitty

              I know you love your kitten, but that is really not the reason you are not leaving is it? I hate to be so tough on you, and maybe you will hate me forever - but the kitten is just an excuse. You are not ready yet. You haven't gotten to the point of saying I must go. But you know you must leave - deep down you know you do.

              This man is violent towards you. You cannot take that and should not have to. He may love you, but who knows where his violence will lead him next time around. He will not stop until he hurts you very badly.

              Go to your nan's house right away.
              Take the Kitty in a Kitty box to stay out from under Nan's feet. You know you can do this. It can work out. You have to say no to the violence.

              Sorry if I upset you. Just saying what I believe.
              :l
              Rest in Peace, Bear. We miss you.

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                #8
                Confession time

                Kitty, I think you are very smart and YOU know you are using the kitty for an excuse not to leave. We all crave the familiar, even if it is bad. You need to find your kitty a home and get out. And you know that. I hope this will be the time you care about yourself enough to do so. You are not disappointing us as much as yourself. You will get hurt very badly or worse soon. Take a deep breath and make a plan.

                Hugs.

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                  #9
                  Confession time

                  Ducky, I know but my mom is blind all of a suddden to how men can be ( sorry MWO guys)
                  Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.
                  Confucius

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                    #10
                    Confession time

                    It really doesn't matter what your mom thinks. Get out of there.
                    Rest in Peace, Bear. We miss you.

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                      #11
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                      Kitty, let's not be concerned about your mom. If she is blind she is blind. But you know the situation and what will happen. You can find a way to leave and take care of your kitty too. I guess that is a double entendre? Not sure if I spelled it right. We all support you and will continue to but you know what to do. Do it. You will feel so much stronger. Wish I were close.

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                        #12
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                        Leave. Take your kitten with you. Have a friend take care of him or take him to your Nans and keep him in a room with you where he can't get in the way. You know what you have to do.
                        Sometimes I wonder...."Why is that frisbee getting bigger?"...and then it hits me.

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                          #13
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                          Kitty:

                          Maybe the fact that your mother isn't concerned about this is part of the problem, in terms of the way you were raised. she seems to think it is ok for your boundaries to be passed and for you to be abused? I am sorry, that is crazy!!! and why do you need your feelings validated by her if you don't have a good relationship? we will validate your feelings and your kitty's feelings.

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                            #14
                            Confession time

                            Everyone is right, you can even keep the cat in a room away from your nan. An animal shelter might even donate a cage large enough to accomodate the cat, food and water, and a litter box if they know the kitty is in danger if you leave it.

                            There is always a way to figure things out, Kitty. Don't give up. Try to think of a way that you can take care of you and kitty too. I'm sorry that your mom can't think of your needs right now, but you MUST!

                            Please listen to everyone here--we care about you.
                            AF as of August 5th, 2012

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                              #15
                              Confession time

                              Ok....MAGS IS RIGHT. Thank you Mags... you said what I was gonna say for me.

                              Kitty, take your kitty with you and just keep it in your room with you. If your nan was expecting you what is stopping you.

                              You are just asking for more trouble.

                              And by stayin your giving him the green light to do so.

                              Its like, "hit me some more" cuz your doin
                              NOTHING TO CHANGE IT.

                              Please listen to us. You will feel so much better after your done. Then you will be safe.
                              Gabby :flower:

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