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[AMELIA]

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Hey Maxine, I agree that all men look at other women. If some gorgeous hunk walked my way I would have a little look (not blatant) and wouldn't do it so my man could see.
I remember years ago, when I was feeling very insecure and had a gorgeous man,.... whenever I saw a goodlooking woman coming towards us, I would watch him to see if he even glanced....he nearly always did (very briefly), but I took this the wrong way.
I was setting myself up to be hurt, when he actually wasn't doing anything wrong.

Confidence is attractive - as someone else has said. When you are out with your man, don't try to spot him having the odd look at people walking past. He can't keep his eyes shut can he??
Go out and by a new dress and get your hair done......do stuff to make yourself feel better.

Take care
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[memarcie]

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Maxine, it sounds like you need to work on your self-confidence. I'm sure that the booze contributes to that. Hubby and I are pretty open with each other and if we see someone attractive, we can openly tell each other about it. Yea, most are stars that aren't a concern anyway.

I hope you can work through this with BF and please remember suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

Take care :l

[beatle]

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wow, marcie, I have thought about suicide, definitely, both drunk and sober, but I will always remember that what you said..a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

I've never noticed that my guy is goggling others (not sure why... makes you wonder!) but he sure is a flirt and I have learned to love it actually. He likes to flirt and that's actually a little funny, cause it makes me want to flirt too, which I do. I guess it's harmless, when it stays that way, and much like taking a look at the pretty bums. Just looking, you know, nothing more. Maybe it's even healthy? But of course, I understand it bothers you, especially if he is so blantant. Maybe he wouldn't even mind if you gave him a good smack on the neck as Mack suggests? Show him it bothers you.

[Happier]

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Hi Maxine,
Me and my husband like to joke about women being like cars.
He may like to look at all the new models and sometimes he'll tell me to check out the huge air bags but that doesn't mean he wants to test drive them.

I think we all feel insecure from time to time Maxine. It's human nature. Just try to focus on all your positive aspects.

Hang in their Maxine! You are the the most beautiful car in the parking lot. Inside and out!

[Accountable for Me]

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Yeah, men suck and they only think of themselves! Don't let it get to you!!!!

[Finding My Self]

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Hi Maxine - how are you doing now? Really hope the confidence is on the up still.
All I can say is that I have felt like you loads of times and been on and off with my man more times than I can count in the last five years... The thing is, after 78 AF days (or just a change of mind set as well) I am more 'with him' than I have ever been. He's not a great romantic (!!), never uses endearments, brings flowers, takes me out (we are both broke...) or has ever told me I am beautiful.... but I can see how much time I have wasted with him...he is soooh loving, always there, cooks for me loads, drives me around, lifts and carries, holds my hand, sleeps in my bed (we don't live together) and not another girl's and is my partner in so many ways. He's stuck with me through all the booze and the stopping and I wish I had seen that before - it would have saved me many a drink I'm afraid - but at least I can now.

Good luck to you and your bf and I hope you feel more confident really soon. Yes, I still panic if my guy's tired or tetchy but I can hold some sense in my head sober and know that's all it is! The booze really, really, really didn't make me feel any more confident - deep down I always knew I was still insecure and until I was sober I didn't realise just how not so insecure I was compared to how much I dreaded I was....!!!

Hope you find the same, lass!

Love
Feet x

[Finding My Self]

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Maxine - been thinking about you...us!

Such confidence so easily shattered; my man and I split last night... Just wanted to let you know if you see this rather than read it elsewhere that I am sorry to post such 'soothing' stuff when it seems it was as strong as a wet paper bag....

All I can say is that you have a buddy here knowing what it feels like...AGAIN!

WE WILL GET THRU THIS! AND IT CAN BE AF!!

Love Feet x

[SK8RGRL]

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Sad to hear your news FMF. we just dont know what is around the corner do we. You can "think" your together forever, but it can all fall apart so easily. its part of the reason i am like i am. nothing is ever for ever. I am hear if you need me xxxMax