My husband has been out of town for the last 7 days, and I am discovering silence. I can do projects and many things without interruption. I have started cleaning the house from top to bottom. I also may be spring cleaning my mind.
Since my announcement of my leaving my husband to spend the winter in Texas - and then longer, my son has been deported from the U.S. due to a lack of judgement when he was 17. He complied with all necessary judicial requirements, but had the unfortunate circumstance when flying back from the Galapagos (meeting his girlfriend who was working with Doctor's without Borders) on 7/7 - the day of the London bombings.
Since he still travelled on a Canadian passport they took all NON-Americans aside and as Homeland Stupidity turned up the level to orange, they went back 10 years. Bang, he was caught. He was submitted to intensive scrutinity, placed in an air chamber for terrorist emissions, and was so exhausted that after 24 hours he fell asleep standing up. Of course, they found nothing, But his passport was seized. As part of his just being committed to Doctors without Borders and what he had witnessed in Quito, and their efforts,
started a fund for Doctors without Borders and raised a lot of money. Also, as part of his probation in 2000, he chose domestic violence against women as his cause (maybe remembered me and his dad). He did a magnificent job and still remains committed to this day.
During this time he had to quit school to earn enough money for his legal fees and worked at Smith & Wollensky and when they realized his talent he became a sommelier, after the necessary schooling.
He will be deported as of October 31, - the very day I was planning to leave my husband so I could spend more time with him and my daughter in Texas. He is choosing either B.C. - so close, oh, so close to me, or Montreal where he wants to study at McGill.
I am having to make enormous decisions in my life now, a choice between husband/Texas daughter/son.
It is surely a time of inner thought and imposed silence to help me along with this decision.
I love all of you. Thank you so much for your friendships, you will never leave me, and I will check in when I have the energy, and check in to see how the loved ones here are dealing with their own crises.
Thinking mostly of Luvuall, Betty Boop, and so many others.
Love, Hilary :h
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