Hi All-
I'm not much into starting threads but Hart wanted some new threads so that was my push.
I read this article this morning & it reinforces what I had already used while deciding to go AF. I changed my mindset from blaming & bitterness to enjoying all the small things that life has to offer me now that I'm sober. It's taking those "why me" and turning them into "happy me". Never again do I say "look at all I've missed" to "wow-glad I didn't miss that". I have been a pessimist most of my drinking life & it's probably due to the fact that I viewed that vodka drink as always being half empty.
Here are 4 suggestions to make your thoughts work in your favor:
1. Retraining your brain!
"Focus on what you want instead of what you lack" says Traci Wood, PH.D..
For example, instead of saying "I'm tired of not being able to quit drinking so much" say "Today I want to not drink".
2. Dreaming Big!
Imagine your ultimate goal-being AF or moderating-jot it down on a card and post it in a conspicuous spot. Folks who write down goals & re-read them achieve successes sooner!
That's a hard one since we have visitors who would see it but what I did was get a notepad for the fridge that has a tree on it & it says "Don't Quit!". It's my secret reminder to never give up.
3. Following the Golden Rule.
You wouldn't call your best friend clumsy or slow, so why say similar things to yourself? "Positive self-talk can actually make good things come true," says Wood. Tell yourself you are strong and good person and that you can do it & deserve it. Pretty soon you'll start acting that way.
4. Filtering out the negative!
Lots of us are in the habit of dwelling on what went wrong-which makes us feel bad! To break out of negativity, pick a word that makes you happy and repeat it over & over whenever you catch yourself being pessimistic. "This is 'thought switching' pushes out the negative, allowing the positive to come in" says Woods. It's best to learn from our mistake & move on. There is no point in dwelling in the past, it's gone & done. Each day brings forth new opportunities. So think of a positive word & repeat it.
Don't worry be happy!
taken from Woman's World. Attached files [img]/converted_files/11965=1686-attachment.gif[/img]
I'm not much into starting threads but Hart wanted some new threads so that was my push.
I read this article this morning & it reinforces what I had already used while deciding to go AF. I changed my mindset from blaming & bitterness to enjoying all the small things that life has to offer me now that I'm sober. It's taking those "why me" and turning them into "happy me". Never again do I say "look at all I've missed" to "wow-glad I didn't miss that". I have been a pessimist most of my drinking life & it's probably due to the fact that I viewed that vodka drink as always being half empty.
Here are 4 suggestions to make your thoughts work in your favor:
1. Retraining your brain!
"Focus on what you want instead of what you lack" says Traci Wood, PH.D..
For example, instead of saying "I'm tired of not being able to quit drinking so much" say "Today I want to not drink".
2. Dreaming Big!
Imagine your ultimate goal-being AF or moderating-jot it down on a card and post it in a conspicuous spot. Folks who write down goals & re-read them achieve successes sooner!
That's a hard one since we have visitors who would see it but what I did was get a notepad for the fridge that has a tree on it & it says "Don't Quit!". It's my secret reminder to never give up.
3. Following the Golden Rule.
You wouldn't call your best friend clumsy or slow, so why say similar things to yourself? "Positive self-talk can actually make good things come true," says Wood. Tell yourself you are strong and good person and that you can do it & deserve it. Pretty soon you'll start acting that way.
4. Filtering out the negative!
Lots of us are in the habit of dwelling on what went wrong-which makes us feel bad! To break out of negativity, pick a word that makes you happy and repeat it over & over whenever you catch yourself being pessimistic. "This is 'thought switching' pushes out the negative, allowing the positive to come in" says Woods. It's best to learn from our mistake & move on. There is no point in dwelling in the past, it's gone & done. Each day brings forth new opportunities. So think of a positive word & repeat it.
Don't worry be happy!
taken from Woman's World. Attached files [img]/converted_files/11965=1686-attachment.gif[/img]
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