I have been with MWO for nearly 8 months now, haven't been drunk for 7 months. THank You RJ!!! My Husband for the first 3-4 months was so supportive, and still is. But since I stopped getting drunk he is drinking heavier than ever! I know it's some mid life crap, because of the things he says when he is drunk. He gets very depressed and dark, I cried all night because he told me I cannot make him feel loved. That I am incapable of giving attention. He asks me questions like "how does it feel to be you?' I say what do you mean/ He says to have every man want you. (Trust me, I am not that sexy or attractive) He suggesy I am self asorbed, which I readily admit and I am trying to work on it. Last night I find out mind you, that after being married 15 years that he and my best friend who I have known longer than my husband, slept together when they worked together. It happened, before we met, but damn that hurt. Couldn't someone have told me. I mean I have a sexual past. I could Understand. But this friend a few years caught wind that my husband was in a strip club (he never told me about it) She learned about it from a 3rd party. She told me I was hurt. She said if it were her husband she would want to know, so she told me that why couldn't she say oh and I slept with him before you met him.I feel like I am hanging on to the end of a rapidly fraying rope. I have asked my husband to seek help for depression, but he won't. Man thing. I don't know. How long does this thing last? or am I at the end of marriage #3. I lay in bed last night thinking how I could support myself and keep my 5 dogs. I just feeling so damn helpless
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) was very much critcal and hurtful in his comments. I coudn't seem to do anything right. I recognized it as depression and mid life stuff going on, and managed to hang in there. He was stressed in work, finaces were tight, and we had lots of kids at home. He wouldn't go to the doc either. I signed us up at the local gym when he was in his late 40's and at 1st he would just go and take a steam bath, sit in the hot tub, etc..., but he began meeting other guys that were fit and motivated, and he started doing classes and working out regularly. He lost weight, and his mood improved 100%. Maybe you hubby needs a new external focus/release to help him out? Just a thought. Anyway, well wishes and positive thoughts winging their way to you:h
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