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**slightlysuze** · October 13, 2007, 11:00 AM

I WAS ARRESTED LAST NIGHT

GG.....a big :l for you. What a desperate thing to happen. How did the police come to be at your house...did you ex call them? You didn't cause an accident or hurt anyone...surely there couldn't be a jail sentence for this?

Look....maybe this will be the real wake-up call for you? Maybe you will look back and see this as the turning point. Every crappy thing in life can be turned to good.

One step at a time......lots of water and rest today. Try not to drink this evening. I know it's not easy....everyone here knows that too, and we're all rooting for you and sending you good thoughts to get you through this. You will get through :l

Suze x

**Bella** · October 13, 2007, 11:01 AM

I WAS ARRESTED LAST NIGHT

Oh GG, I am so sorry. What can I say? I used to drink and drive and there was always that fear of getting caught. Try...if you can ...to make this incident into something of a learning curve. Maybe now, your life might turn around for the better. If people wonder why you are not driving, you can say it was a speeding ban. You have been through the mill and need some TLC. Do you have anyone who you can talk to and not be judged? A good friend is what you need. Keep posting here and you will get every support we can give you. My thoughts are with you. Be strong and you WILL get through this. Bella xxxx

**memarcie** · October 13, 2007, 11:09 AM

I WAS ARRESTED LAST NIGHT

GG I'm sorry that this happened last night. All you can do is learn from it, be thankful no one was hurt by you driving drunk. Was this your first offense? It would be in your best interest with the courts to get in rehab before court and try to get as much help as you can. They look on that favorably here in the US.

Take care and I hope things get better for you.

**Determinatrix** · October 13, 2007, 11:13 AM

I WAS ARRESTED LAST NIGHT

GardenGirl,

Wow, what a tough lesson to learn. You are very lucky you ended up in jail and not in the hospital severly injured, or apologizing to someone's family member who you hurt, or worse, losing one of your own children. Bella is right - use this to motivate you to not repeat this.

Draw your family and friends close - these are the types of things they are there for. Be honest and humble. It will be hard to tell the story and to hear their initial reactions. Reassure your husband and hug your children.

Time for a new lifestyle change. MWO will help you along your path.

Dx

**betty boop** · October 13, 2007, 11:20 AM

I WAS ARRESTED LAST NIGHT

Oh GG - how strong you are for telling us that ......

Be strong love for your family and hubby .........:l :l :l

**wonderworld** · October 13, 2007, 11:37 AM

I WAS ARRESTED LAST NIGHT

Oh Garden Girl-
My heart goes out to you too. I've had 2 shamefully embarassing incidents with drunk driving. The first I was in a blackout and don't remember any of it - I "came to" standing in a cage in the police station at 2 a.m. wearing 2 different shoes. I had to go to court and was lucky enough to just be sent to drunk driving classes. Had to read the police report to find out what happened - I was weaving back and forth on the road after midnight - I have no idea where I was going.

The 2nd time, I also don't remember getting in the car, I was in a blackout. I "came to" that time in the hospital and again had to read the police report to find out what happened. I drove straight into a fence outside a house in my neighborhood and an ambulance took me to the hospital, though I was fine - just a little blood on my lip, but the car was totaled - had no idea why I was on that street or where I was going. Thank God I didn't kill myself or anyone else either of these times. Truly. That's the most important thing. You and your family are okay and you have an opportunity to keep working on things.

My 2 incidents set me on a path of 5 yrs completely alcohol-free. I relapsed about a month ago, which has brought me here. Your story is very meaningful to me personally and I thank you for sharing it. It's a very poignant reminder on this, my Day1 AF.

You WILL get through whatever consequences come to pass, though it will take time. Be gentle with yourself if you can. I know how deeply ashamed and embarassed and scared a public incident like this makes you feel. And remember - you, and none of us here, are "bad" people. We have an affliction that is treacherous and extremely difficult to manage much of the time. You are not alone and there is no judgment here. Time WILL heal.
Big hugs and Let us know how you're doing .........

**jane jane** · October 13, 2007, 11:43 AM

I WAS ARRESTED LAST NIGHT

Garden Girl, I (and many others) thank you for this cautionary tale. Could have been me, so many times, but by skin-of teeth or grace-of-God was not. Could be me one day still, if I don't get back to being AF soon. Best of luck, and may this be the beginning of a better life for you!

**hart** · October 13, 2007, 11:48 AM

I WAS ARRESTED LAST NIGHT

(((GG)))

I too have drank when I drove one time. I had no bad consequence from it, but I know I COULD have easily. I used that scare to vow never to drive drunk again.....and I haven't. I think Detx's suggestion of getting into an alcohol treatment place BEFORE going to court is an excellent one. It will look very good for you, and, let's face it, it can't hurt.

I'm so glad you are okay.:l

**Determinatrix** · October 13, 2007, 12:01 PM

I WAS ARRESTED LAST NIGHT

Credit passed to memarcie.

**Suzanna** · October 13, 2007, 12:02 PM

I WAS ARRESTED LAST NIGHT

Garden Girl, it is hard to say anything that will comfort you but maybe you have saved somebody else from doing this. I am no innocent, have driven a couple of times drunk and scared, taking back roads etc, vowing never again. Now I drink at home alone. Show them that you are proactive, I think Detx's suggestion is a great one, some kind of rehab or AA meetings will make an impression on your court date. I am so sorry you are going through this. :l Suz

**wantrealmeaning** · October 13, 2007, 12:21 PM

I WAS ARRESTED LAST NIGHT

i'm so so sorry garden girl. i too have driven whilst drunk....... in some ways i wish i had been caught.........i know you wont be feeling that right now, but i truly hope and pray that this turns out to be a massive blessing in diguise for you.

i admire your strength and courage in posting, try and draw on that to get you through what is ahead of you.

i also think getting yourself into a treatment program is wonderful advice. not just so it looks good at court but for YOU.

i'm so glad you didn't hurt yourself or anyone else.

your NOT alone. :l :l :l

**Finding My Self** · October 13, 2007, 12:41 PM

I WAS ARRESTED LAST NIGHT

GardenGirl....I just soooh know how you're feeling...I think I do. I was there 2nd December last year... stopped 100yds from my house, in the UK, 10.55pm. To the police station. All the blowing and puffing and form filling and being warned that if the printer didn't start working to print the release form I would have to go to jail the other side of the county.... (It worked TG) All the time acting so normal and polite - they said they'd never had such a charming and undrunk drunk in the station before and comended me on my careful driving...(they could just stop me because it was December but they still had every right to...of course.) God, did I act the nice person that night such was my fear....

I had to call my ex too, to get me home and for them to let me home....

I have never felt so ashamed about anything...I still do. I don't tell people unless I would have to lie. I have to use taxis and buses and trains...and actually it's just fine. I get a 'kick' out of 'saving the environment'.... But when I can't get to see my son at boarding school cos he's miles from any station I feel *%@# inside... When I have to go where the lift's going even if it's opposite to my plans... well, I'm getting used to it.

When I have told people they have amazed me with their support...there are a lot of people out there knowing there but for the grace of.... not necessarily in trouble with drink but sailing close to the wind. I have never told anyone the levels and they haven't asked. I don't condone DD (DUI) - I am still appalled at myself...I just wanted to go out dancing that night even though I had had enough to drink...so I did...and I got what I deserved..and TG, I didn't have anaccident...I remember the whole drive, but does that let me off any hook? No and rightly so.

It was in my local freebie paper delivered to every house in the city. And yes, it was chip wrapping very soon but not before lots of people read it. And I don't necessarily know who - some have been open but some leave me with a paranoid feeling that I, and only I because only I can, have to deal with....my address, job and full name got printed on page 3...not in my life plan at all. Ask your family to be as discreet as you want them to be - you need a little cushioning and belief in your ability to change...not to be humiliated any more...we did that bit to ourselves GG.

I tell you all this not because I want to make you feel worse but because it's going to be OK.

I had to go to court...friends came with me. And my middle daughter. I had the solicitor the courts suggested - I met him an hour before and he told me what to say. He was nice and deals with hundreds of folk like us each year. I had to say very little (just confirm my name and address and nod that I wouldn't do it again) from a sort of glass box in the court room...I cried throughout even though I tried to have some dignity..there were two women 'judges'...less scary...again I tell you this coz I'm in England too and I hope it helps you...I was more scared because I didn't know anyone to ask what to expect...

Please don't do what I did which was to think, well, if I'm a useless person and I can't drive I'll drink myself senseless....it was then that I went crazy, drank stupidly for 4 months and then miraculously found myself here... AF since May 26th now. Now, AF, it really p's me off that I still have until July next year...I have to do the Alcohol Awareness Course (!?!?!) next year and that means I'll get my licence back in July and not September - I got 21 months...extra because it was December and I was to be 'held up as an example to society'....It'll just cost the earth to insure a car...but the course tells you the companies that do it. 33 years driving with not a single incident...sullied in one evening...hmmm.

I too, was so, so, so scared about jail....even this house I am very not fond of looked the most beautiful thing in the world when I'd thought I wouldn't be coming home to it....and my kids...oh, GG, I wish I could give you a hug just now. You must be feeling awful.

It's going to be OK - remember what my dear cousin said to me when I emailed him every day through it all.... "Just remember you're not shit, just IN the shit." I hope it helps you as much as it helped me...

And think about the time in the future when, if a cop stops you for any reason and says, "When was your last drink?"...you can say something along the lines of, "2.5 years ago" or even, "three weeks ago"...!

No matter what a lot of folk will say, I can understand the passing out out of fear....I remember it well...I hope you mend from that very quickly... it's the bruise on the inside. Shame. Take the time it takes...

You've had one hell of a lesson. The possibles DIDN'T happen - don't run scenarios in your head... plenty will do that for you. You're Ok and nobody got hurt. You've (we've)learned your lesson. Keep focussed on feeling better from a bit of a bender by the sounds of it...keeping your energies up for the hearing...fear burns up energy very quickly. Get all the suport you can around you. No car = freed up money for cabs... it's not as impossible as it sounds to get about...not everybody (in fact, not many) will actually beat you up about it... you may just find out who your real friends are... You'll find a way of getting on with no car...and remember it's not really anyone's business as to why you're not driving... medical reasons, back problems, money, even hormones are things that will come to mind in other people other than this...keep your counsel. You need friends and not people with long noses.

YOU get YOURSELF sorted....focus on your family and I send you so much love... If this is your wake-up call you'll be feeling a lot better about it in the future...about everything!

Love and a big, big hug...
FMF xx

**Guest** · October 13, 2007, 12:43 PM

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**MyHeartIsDrenchedInWine** · October 13, 2007, 12:43 PM

I WAS ARRESTED LAST NIGHT

Sorry this happened! If you lose your license you can say you had a seizure and you are temporarily banned until you are seizure free for one year. There is no sense in having your children embarassed and it's nobody's business anyway. I would get counseling for your suppressed issues regardingyour ex, he was a trigger and you should get rid of that trigger, counseling can do this. Take Care

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