HOW TO BE NICE....

[tea]

No I don't know, I am asking!!! Okay then, certain people at work are really irritating, I try to just avoid them but they irritate me even then. How do you be 'nice' to people you don't like but have to work with??

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[boycie]

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Very good question, I find it extremely hard at points to be "nice" to anybody I dislike. With work I try to just get done what I need and stay out of their way but extremely hard if you have to work directly with them. The other thing I do is not give them permission to effect me in anyway, no matter what they do or say I let it be like water off a ducks back. Just the way I coupe hope it helps a bit. Cheers Kimbo

[southernbelle47]

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We had a lady at the church we used to go to that just irritated EVERYBODY.
We finally decided that SHE was in pain so she let everyone else have it.
She had a rough childhood and her husband (a Policeman) was killed.
It's never easy...
Some people just live to make others as unhappy as they are!

Hope that helps.
:l Love you Tea....
Nancy "Belle"

[Guest]

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Hi Lorna,
When I used to be hungover and stressed, I used to be one very "nippy sweetie"........I would just open my big gob and let it all tumble out when someone got on my nerves. Now that I`m sober, I strive to be a lot kinder to negative people, so I just count to 10 before I speak and that few seconds is usually enough to quell any sarcastic retort from me........it works 99% of the time........I mean.......I`m not infallible!!! LMAO

I think it`s very true what Nancy says, that nasty people often are so as they have a miserable life and seek to make everyone else suffer because of their circumstances.

Starlight Impress x

[Beaches]

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I have a few people here at work that really send me over the edge.

I stay focused on what I need to accomplish and not let their agendas get in my way. If they do get in my way I take the issue to someone who can "make a change" meaning my supervisor. I don't gossip because that only adds fuel to the fire.

Like Star said I also take deep breaths before I speak which really helps.

[Guest]

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lorna, I just think of what my mother always told me "treat others the way you want to be treated" Not easy, but less costly than the assault charge. Seriously, just smile and bob your head a lot.
smiles
Mar

[gabby]

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I should be abel to answer this question easy. I have problems being mean. I am like accidentally nice. Wish I could be meaner. hummmm

[gabby]

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Ask lushy

[wwbarb]

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Gabby - that is exactyly what I was thinking - looks like it is time for one of Lushy's bitch training sessions. You couldn't be mean if you tried - you are one of the sweetest people I know.

What do they do to irritate you? Maybe we could help if we had more specifics. Honestly, the best you can do is avoid them, and if that's not working, let us know. We're a pretty clever bunch when it comes to this sh*t but do better with specifics!

[gonegator]

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Well, like Neil says

"A little love and affection
In everything you do
Will make the world a better place
With or without you"

[Flip]

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here you go, try this. If it doesn't work, kill them.

How to Be Nice to People - wikiHow

[Lorelei]

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I am lucky at the moment because no one at work irritates me, but then again there are usually only 3 people here in the office at any given time.

There was a time when I worked with many irritating people. I guess it really depends on how you define irritating. I have several different classes of irritants: gossipers, incompetants, and me-me-me-rs. When someone exhibits only one of these qualities I can usually tolerate their presence. Occasionally I run across that special person who exhibits two or even all three of these endearing qulaities. While I am generally a nice person, I do have my own inner bitch that sometimes cannot be repressed. This bitchiness usually manifests itself in a great deal af sarcasm. I try to avoid people that irritate me, especially if they have irritated me so much that they irritate me on sight. If I have to interact with them I keep the interaction to a minimum lest they come to bodily harm.


-lorelei

[Niblet]

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I'm the same as Gabby,,, My Sistaaa !!!
Actually I truely feel sorry for people that are so miserable, trying to ruin somebody elses day... They must be so unhappy inside... Sad... I can turn any conversation around to be a nice one 95% of the time... Here's the trick, " Listen to them, look into their eyes (their soul is hurting)... empathize, and then on a positive note carry on the conversation lightly... Don't hit on anything that will raise hackles... As I re-read this I'm thinking, boy I'm such a wimp... but I only have "balls" here at home... giggle !! giggle !!!
Also try taking soothing omega, 3, and also Lithium Orotate.... It is a natural way to help us cope... I wish you all the best.. Smiles to you !!

[Gumby]

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although it doesn't exactly answer how to be nice I have always liked this little saying.....
A little more kindness and a little less creed,
A little more giving and a Little less greed,
A little more smile and a little less frown,
A little less kicking a man when he's down,
A little more "we" and a little less "I",
A little more laugh and a little less cry;
A few more flowers on the pathway of life,
and fewer on graves at the end of the strife
-Anonymous

Try to remember we all have our burdens, everyone responds differently, try feeling sorry for those individuals and try forgiving before looking for ways to get revenge it is alot less mental energy.!!

[Lorelei]

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Wow, reading all these responses I think I might be bitchier than I thought..... come on Lushy don't leave me in here alone!!!