HOW TO BE NICE....

[hart]

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I'm with you Lorilei. I don't know how to react when someone is pain in the arse except with sarcasm. Of course, I sort of react with sarcasm in most situations anyway. But Only with the people I luv the most do I use the most sarcasm. Unless a person doesn't get sarcasm...there are such poor souls.

Seriously, I do try and keep in mind that most people who are mean have had something in their past that has soured them and they cant get over. Of course, it would be nice if we could dump soured people like bad milk...... Did I mention I use sarcasm?:H

[Guest]

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Since when did you turn sarcastic, Sweetie? LMAO

[Lorelei]

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hart;209847 wrote: I'm with you Lorilei. I don't know how to react when someone is pain in the arse except with sarcasm. Of course, I sort of react with sarcasm in most situations anyway. But Only with the people I luv the most do I use the most sarcasm. Unless a person doesn't get sarcasm...there are such poor souls.

Seriously, I do try and keep in mind that most people who are mean have had something in their past that has soured them and they cant get over. Of course, it would be nice if we could dump soured people like bad milk...... Did I mention I use sarcasm?:H

I use sarcasm alot too, esp with my loved ones. Most of my family also uses sarcasm, its a family trait. Sarcasm is so ingrained in me that if I were forbid to use it I would effectively be mute......

[Accountable for Me]

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I use sarcasm with family and friends only.

My first suggestion to you is simply ignore them. Some people are just so irritable and negative they are the one with the problem not you. I worked with so many bitchy people in the Government, you learn to nod and walk away.

If the difficult or negative person at work is spouting off about someone to me; I let them say what they have to say. I take a deep breath; and usually say something like: "You are entitled to your opinion...." or "Thanks for the advice, I will ponder over it... " or my biggest one is .... "I don't know what to suggest to you, sorry I can't be of any help."

If there presence is bothering you, just ignore. What else can you do? Nothing. There are always going to be those whom you work with, you cannot stand. Chin up, stand tall and convince yourself they aren't worth your time or energy to be feeling like this.

[trixietrack]

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it depends on how far that person goes. I am generally nice and fair with colleagues.
If someone mistreats me and I know it's on purpose, I let them know nicely but firmly.
If they are just miserable and have no self control, I communicate with them only when necessary.
I tend to treat people at work (no matter who they are) professionally and make a point of not letting my emotions take over. it's hard to control sometimes but it makes life easier.
if you don't feel like being nice, don't fake it just keep comments to a minimum, nothing worse than a person faking that they are nice.
if a person is nasty and abusive, I ignore them. it totally works.

[lushy]

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Okay, okay the bitch is here. I am afraid I am not much help because I usually make it far too clear when I do not like someone. Something I need to work on. I work at home and annoy myself on a daily basis. Wish I had a supervisor to go complain to.

[Saint Jude]

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Don't worry Lushy.
I work with the public... waitin' tables ya run into plenty of A-holes that need a good B*TCH slappin'!:H

Keep in mind that- "SOME PEOPLE ARE LIKE A SLINKY-NOT REALLY GOOD FOR ANYTHING, BUT YA STILL CAN"T HELP BUT SMILE WHEN YOU SHOVE THEM DOWN THE STAIRS." (of course all ya really have to do is keep that in mind..- no real "action" necessary!-it's the thought that counts!)

A few quik little "come-backs" to keep in your back hip pocket...

"I don't know what your problem is, but I'll bet it's hard to pronounce."

"I can see your point, but I still think you're full of sh*t."

I'll try being nicer if you'll try being smarter.

I'm out of my mind, but feel freee to leave a mssg.

I'm already visualizing the duct tape over your mouth. (one of my favorites!)

Thank you! We're all refreshed & challenged by your unique point of view.

I'd love to see things from your point of view.. but I can't get my head that far up my a$$.(another FAV!)

Hope these help!
:l
Judie

And of course... remember, everybody has those days. just some have more than others.

[Accountable for Me]

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Saint Jude;209921 wrote:
"I can see your point, but I still think you're full of sh*t."

"Thank you! We're all refreshed & challenged by your unique point of view."

I cannot stop LMAO! These two are soooooo funny! I will have to use them on someone I know in the very near future! Thanks Jude!

[Saint Jude]

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Don't mention it AFM...

See what 31 years of being a "public servant" will do for ya?:H

I remember a bar tender I used to work with in Colorado...(years ago) said, "You look like this innocent little thing... and the stuff that comes outta your mouth!"

[Determinatrix]

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Oh, and for that catty chick - You're not that pretty, so I thought you'd be nice.

I love Try being smarter, I'll be nicer! Got the tshirt!
(They would not let me wear that to work. Hmmm...)

Dx

[Saint Jude]

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Or how about,

"I like you. You remind me of myself when I was young & stupid." (or ugly, disgusting,...etc..)

"You are validating my inherent mistrust of strangers." (co-workers)

"I will always cherish the initial misconceptions I had about you."

"I have plenty of talent & vision; I just don't give a Damn."

"If I throw a stick, will you leave?"

"And your crybaby whiny ass opinion would be...?"


Ain't we SWEET! ?

[Determinatrix]

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Or, love ya like a cold sore.

[Lorelei]

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Several years ago my good friend from high school was working as a bar tender. Like me she has quite the sarcastic streak, so for Christmas one year I gave her a shirt with this cute little cartoon bunny that said:

Your Anger Makes Me Happy

[trixietrack]

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oh my st jude. I need to print those out. duct tape yeah that'll take care of the job

[tea]

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Grin, thank's all, knew you wouldn't let me down. Going to be nodding and mmmming most of today with a wee smirk as I think of us all on here. What a team.

Lxx