Men Who BULLY.

[janka]

Men Who BULLY.

Well ... I have not expressed anger in a long time. I have every right to express my anger with my husband, and recently, when I do ... I am the "abuser" or suffering a "mood swing." Go figure, after 20 years of abuse and diminishment, j

[Ripple]

Men Who BULLY.

yUP, he says your having an anxiety attack. NO, you want me to lose control, not anymore. Relationships change when we become strong. My recovery is about no-one pushing me around. :rockband:

:new: Ripped.

[MyHeartIsDrenchedInWine]

Men Who BULLY.

janka;223559 wrote: Well ... I have not expressed anger in a long time. I have every right to express my anger with my husband, and recently, when I do ... I am the "abuser" or suffering a "mood swing." Go figure, after 20 years of abuse and diminishment, j

God I can relate to that :l

[morrison]

Men Who BULLY.

Wow, that really sucks. I guess there are reasons you keep in a relationship like that. There must be good things. I'm a guy, so I can't relate. However, I'll never ever love again. That is for sure. My attitude is, you piss me off, hit the bricks. You cheat on me, hit the bricks. I know that sounds cynical and jaded, but really, I know I'm better off. So, why do women stick with guys that abuse them? I'm not putting this on you at all. It just sounds like you're being manipulated into thinking you can't leave him, or he'll fall apart. Maybe I'm off base, but I know people that brainwash their significant others like that. Like, tell you you're a bitch, but if you say you'll leave, he'll cry that he'll kill himself. Does that stuff happen? I know this is none of my business. Just wanted to say, if you're in a shitty relationship, get the hell out. Too many fish in the sea.

[cowgal]

Men Who BULLY.

yeah

I agree, there may be female bullies too, but personally dealing w/ my male A**Hole, bully whatever you want to call him, he just loves to keep me in my place, drunk, and weak, so personally, I am not liking the male counterparts of the bullying types

MA:h :l

[Ripple]

Men Who BULLY.

Morrison you are right. My husband says the same thing, I'm gonna shoot myself. He hasn't done it yet. Although once a BULLY always a smart ass. Getting out of a relationship is not easy. Being alone for a woman is not easy. We can only cry so long and then we must take control.


Have a good day!
:h Rip.

[Guest]

Men Who BULLY.

Ripple, I was bullied by men most of my life starting with my Dad. dad was loud with a mean streak King of the Castle and always "right". So that taught me to be subserviant to men, which lead to frustration, that lead to drinking. I had to find a man that reminded me of my Dad to try to change him, that relationship nearly ended my life and escalated my drinking. Then, the good man I married had to suffer through all my baggage and drinking until just this past year. He should have left when he met me 16 years ago. I really put him through Hell. I think so much starts in early life how you are taught to deal with relationships and the household you are brought up in my Mom had low self esteem, and somehow that was transfered to me. crazy vicious cycle.
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[sammys]

Men Who BULLY.

I when drinking in the past had been bullied by my now husband, he thought that cause I drank I deserved to be verbally attacked. I have cut my drinking down at least by 2/3rds and in turn I told him he had to stop it or I am gone. I will say it was not easy or anything going thru all of this but we are happy now, he respects me and we are ok.


I know the crazy cycle of drinking, bullying et and you have to stop it or you will never be happy and we do not want that for you.

Sammys

[Ripple]

Men Who BULLY.

Well girls I am being good and my husband is still acting out and being mean! I can read you both understand the abuse we endure. Simey my dad did not boss me around, he did it to my brother and I witnessed that constantly. Bullying affects us with post tramatic syndrome. Since my sobriety I am learning more and more about the man I married and he knows I see who the REAL him is! We are not stoopid as women. Once we fix us the rest just falls into place.

Have a good day girls...
Luv.:h
Rip.:l

[IAD]

Men Who BULLY.

Coward,
I'm sorry to here that all you ladies have been through such abuise. I'm a gentle giant and suffer on my own. Of course my Lady suffers too. Let's try to help each other out.
IAD

[trixietrack]

Men Who BULLY.

hi Iad we are helping each other out, first we vent then we feel relief, then we grow strong.
once we are strong we can appreciated that we are here to help and support each other.

[morrison]

Men Who BULLY.

Simey, do ALL women think they can change men? You see that a whole lot. It doesn't seem to be the other way around. Sadly, people have to do it on their own. Just like drinking/drugging, that person has to want to change and take all steps to do it. Most true jerks aren't going to even attempt to change. I've know guys that were just "man whores." They would just leach on to women that wanted to change them. I couldn't imagine going through life like that. Then again, maybe I couldn't be a "man whore" if I wanted too. :H I had to lighten it up a bit. And it does seem like it is much harder for a woman to be single than a man. However, like I said, there are a lot of fish in the see. Oh, and I was with a girl for 3.5 years that I just lost interest in. Hey, it happens. Everytime I wanted to end it, she would make me feel so guilty, I couldn't get rid of her. I just had to be cold to the point where she left me. So, I know the guilt you're talking about when having to ditch somebody.

[MyHeartIsDrenchedInWine]

Men Who BULLY.

I'm beginning to really REALLY understand now why my husband never ever complains about my drinking. Hell, he's extra extra nice to me when I'm drunk.

[Cashregister]

Men Who BULLY.

Bullies prey on weakness - male or female. Bullies like you to be down - they would happily assist your drinking to make themselves feel better than you. Bullies suck.

moody cashy

[Cashregister]

Men Who BULLY.

oh yeah, friends can do it to you too and be so destructive - had a few of those toxic idiots in my life - one too many really. Watch out for them, they are not so in your face and sneakier. They just happily undermine you steadily until your confidence breaks, you drink and then they just get to feel so superior - took me nearly 15 years to work one of them out - cow.

Cashy should take her lie down meds now she's getting narky