stupid question hehehe
Hi again
I think the message from Kate probably did sound harsh. I guess there is sometimes a tendency for people to question the sincerity of those with alcohol problems when they say they want to quit or do something about it. In my experience, I have known those who go to AA are more likely to have this skeptical, aggressive point of view. So sorry if I inflame the old AA debate here. But hey that is my opinion.
I noticed on another thread that a woman was told she wasn't taking her drinking and driving seriously enough. And the person who posted seemed genuinely baffled. She responded that she was taking it seriously.I don't think the comment questioning her was fair.
On the other hand, let me be wishy washy. I hope people feel free to post here and also to take some of the harder points of view that come up from time to time. To be sure, some people respond to tough love, though I am not one of them and I wince when I read it.
Now back to you 'ME'. Your boyfriend doesn't sound that knowledgeable so be cautious of taking advice from him. In years gone past, people would tell me I seemed fine for a long time and then was gone. I took that to mean that something special or magical was going on, something that needs a special diagnosis. BUT, looking back on it, it wasn't rocket science. The buzz was probably just not that apparent to others. And I simply had too much to drink. For example, if you drink two-three bottles of wine you are probably going to black out. In a party situation, others may not be aware just how much you are consuming so the drunken thing may come as a mystery to them. Also, no doubt your boyfriend thinks he might have protected you if he knew how bad you were getting.
My advice is to look at your total consumption in an evening and in how many hours and that probably will explain the blackouts.
Hi again
I think the message from Kate probably did sound harsh. I guess there is sometimes a tendency for people to question the sincerity of those with alcohol problems when they say they want to quit or do something about it. In my experience, I have known those who go to AA are more likely to have this skeptical, aggressive point of view. So sorry if I inflame the old AA debate here. But hey that is my opinion.
I noticed on another thread that a woman was told she wasn't taking her drinking and driving seriously enough. And the person who posted seemed genuinely baffled. She responded that she was taking it seriously.I don't think the comment questioning her was fair.
On the other hand, let me be wishy washy. I hope people feel free to post here and also to take some of the harder points of view that come up from time to time. To be sure, some people respond to tough love, though I am not one of them and I wince when I read it.
Now back to you 'ME'. Your boyfriend doesn't sound that knowledgeable so be cautious of taking advice from him. In years gone past, people would tell me I seemed fine for a long time and then was gone. I took that to mean that something special or magical was going on, something that needs a special diagnosis. BUT, looking back on it, it wasn't rocket science. The buzz was probably just not that apparent to others. And I simply had too much to drink. For example, if you drink two-three bottles of wine you are probably going to black out. In a party situation, others may not be aware just how much you are consuming so the drunken thing may come as a mystery to them. Also, no doubt your boyfriend thinks he might have protected you if he knew how bad you were getting.
My advice is to look at your total consumption in an evening and in how many hours and that probably will explain the blackouts.
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