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[Hannah]

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MyOwnWoman;241280 wrote: I feel it. I feel the warm hug of your coat, a solitary comfort you gifted to yourself because you deserve at least that much. And I feel the betrayal of having that comfort stolen away by the demon you yourself have been fighting so courageously to expel from your life.

And I feel so very proud for you that you went home to cry and rage and rant about it, and did not take a drink.

If there is always some good to be found in every experience, no matter how enraging or despairing, then I think that the good in this one is that you have demonstrated to your Self that you have such immense strength and resolve and goodness within you, even when you feel so thoroughly shat upon.

You are a blessed woman, and I hope to someday soon find the strength that you have tapped into within yourself.

Here I am, hugging you (pretend my hair is the fur collar).
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MOW, you've got it in a nutshell. You are very wise. And I am VERY sure that someday you will find this strength within yourself, as you hope.

[Finding My Self]

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Guys .....:upset: :h Thank you so much......thanks for 'getting it' that it isn't really the coat (although I'm p'd off indeed!) but what it symboliseS for me....'S' and not 'd' because I'll not let the b's get me down....I shall find another (hopefully the same) and put it behind me...let it all go and they can have the coat. If it is returned it shall go to charity for someone else... anything else and there'll be no one will suffer other than me. (and you poor lot!!!)

I need a coat - walking and all that...and even if I put a lot of time and effort into finding it (hard!), I shall just do it again.

But I am so touched by your words....MOW I am speechless! WOW.

Daughter 2 and I are off to eucharist and then just a final search of the bars....as it wasn't theirs, in their pissed-ness they might just have forgotten to pick it up again.... except the night club opens again - who knows!?!? I sure don't!! And I'll go to the store and see (Per Una at M&S for the UK-ers!!) if I can get one ordered down before Crimbo... (Wont have the felt heart brooch I was made in a craft market on it.....but the heart willl win out.....no one can steal a heart....I'll go get another one!!) (BTW - they were nurses....apparently....hmmm, trustworthy...?)

Anna - Daughter#2 or son can't get much out of D#1 either. Son nothing and D#2, well, just three pretty curt emails in 3 months.... and they used to be inseparable. D#2 is really gutted. But thanks....

I will come back to this as I am sooooooooh touched by your words. But I'm going to miss the service....!

Blessings to my lovely friends and I'm hugging you back!

FMS xx (aka 'Mahatma Kote'!!!)

[Guest]

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Hey FMS........chin up.
It`s almost New Year and somehow I think 2008 is going to be a great year for you.........you so deserve it.

Starlight Impress x

[betty boop]

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FMS, I understand the need for a hug ...............

The entire boop family are sending a huge one right now, good luck with the hunt today.....

Love & Hugs, BB xx

[Mags]

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FMS

What a stinking horrible thing to have happen on you night of freedom and celebration.

Since you don't have your warm coat to hug you today, take a Magsy hug with you in your search. :l

No, just make that a great big MWO hug. :groupluv:

[Niblet]

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Awwwww FMS, that is just plain CRAPPY !!!!
I'm truely sorry that you have been wronged by those girls... Is there anyway you could place an add in your classified section of a local paper? Describe your coat, the date, location etc... Maybe , just maybe one of those knobs will have a remaining braincell left and get your coat back to you...
If not, then continue to believe in yourself and your values... " To thine ownself be true "
xxx

[Theme2be]

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I am sorry Finding

I just spent time with your words and I felt the saddness of your experience.
I understand, beyond the words, of the family cutting you off. I went through this and now that my drinking is limited , as best I can , to behind the closed doors, it is not the same.

It is about "loss".
That you had something to bring you comfort that was not alcohol, is tender and sacred.
Alcohol in itself robs on many levels. Now you have had to experience this.

These girls did not rob you of the comfort you brought to me and I am sure many others as you sipped only your spritzer.
How are you doing that? Are you taking Topa.
Please share some more, you are helping many.

Bless you as you offer comfort to others.
Karen

[AMELIA]

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FMS, I got angry just reading your post. I have had my coat stolen before and it is so frustrating!!! I am so sorry that it spoiled what sounded like an otherwise lovely night at the beginning of the festive season.
Thinking of you honey.xxxxx

[Saint Jude]

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Mean people SUCK! And I HATE thieves!
I had a coat stolen on a cold snowy night back when I lived in my tipi & had about a 2 mile hike up the mountain. I was pissed!

I'm so sorry this happened FMS.
I hope you get a new favorite, cozy comfort coat for Christmas:h

I know this time of year can be especialy hard with families... sending you big HUGS.
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[tawnyfrog]

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Dear Mahatma Kote Magun,

I hope your day is getting better. Much love.

[beatle]

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I am so sorry FMF.

But your posts have shown me again, and again, how strong you are.

I have had similar experiences. It is almost like being raped, to have something taken from you that is so very special.

[Tigger1]

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Finding, hi... I hope the person that picked up your coat will realise it was wrong and return it.
Sending you a furry hug, until you get your coat back. xx

[MyHeartIsDrenchedInWine]

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That stinks! I'm so sorry that happened to you : (

[Bluebell]

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FMS, I really feel for you. That was a horrible thing to have happened to you. I hope something really good happens to you now to make up for it.

I know what you mean about seeing people drunk and thinking how bad it is. I took my son to a birthday party on Saturday and it was only 11am and the Dad of the birthday boy was already drunk. It was just horrible. He was rubbing his hands together with his red face and googly drunk eyes asking me what I would like to drink, then he stumbled backwards and almost into the pool (it was a pool party and their were lots of little 7 year old kids in the pool). I said I didn't want a drink, but it took a lot of convincing him. He then went on to ask some of the other parents if they wanted a drink. There were a few adults not drinking but some of them accepted, and when I went back 3 hours later to pick my son up, most of them were out their box too. Just seeing the women stumbling around holding on for dear life to their glasses of wine just really did something to me. That was me not long ago. That same night (Sat) I went to a bbq at a friends house and drank two glasses of wine and had a lovely time. If I hadn't have seen what I saw at the kids party in the daytime, I would have been one of these drunk women, stumbling about, I'm sure of it.

There's lessons in every situation I think. In your case, just got to work out what the lesson is.

I hope you're feeling better.

[nancy]

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Hi Finding

I have to say that I would not trust leaving my coat out in the open in a nightclub or under some table but I am pretty cynical having lived in a big city where your purse gets stolen from under your feet. I don't think it's that unusual to have a coat stolen in that siutation so you need to be careful the next time where you leave it.

This doesn't seem to me to be about a coat. In two emails you mixed an incident for which you feel blameless and others which you probably feel some kind of blame or guilt.. Maybe you identify with these girls and don't like that part of yourself. You seem to really be upset about your family relationships and I am not surprised. It must be really painful. But you know, it is going to take some time to repair the relationships and time for people trust you again. You have struggled a lot with the alchohol problem and you probably have done some things you are not proud of in the past. you should just plug away with your sobriety and wait for people in your old life to take notice of the new you.