I hate Christmas

[Flip]

I hate Christmas

I have done just that Suki, and they are all wonderful, handpicked friends that love me and cherish me, just the way I am. Warts and all. My beautiful friend Starlight Impress sent me a gift the other day, and inside of it is written, "it's time to make new friends, old friends"....

You can rebuild you life and surround yourself with the people you chose to be with. Just do what you love to do and spend time with people who love the same things.

[Flip]

I hate Christmas

And Capt - how about trying "I" phrases, it may seem less confronting for us.

[wwbarb]

I hate Christmas

Wow. I have been walking around preaching about how much I hate the day, how much work it is, how expensive. Monday, I just decided to stop it and enjoy the day. Instead of focusing on the fact that my mom likes my sister better, I focus on the fact that she loves me. She doesn't pay as much attention to me because I am stronger than my sister. Instead of focusing on the fact that the house is a mess and I didn't even get to sit down and eat, I focused on the fact that both of my boys and granddaughters were sitting at the table and spent the evening together. Instead of focusing on the fact that there weren't enough chairs, I focused on the fact that my youngest son was proud enough of his family and my cooking to invite a friend. Instead of focusing on the fact that I am probably unemployed, I focus on the fact that I have time to do everything that needs to be done.

It's okay to feel bad, even feel sorry for yourself. I can't imagine the horrors that some of you had gone through. As for myself, I try to set a time limit for my wallowing and just stop at a certain time. For me, it's hard work to do that, but well worth it.

From now on, I am going to try and make every day a good day and not look at the calendar to see if it is or isn't.

[Cinders]

I hate Christmas

Flip and Barb,

Lovely words and the way to live.

I am so grateful you are part of my life. New family, new friends and learning to enjoy what is worth enjoying.

Love,
Cindi

[Suki411]

I hate Christmas

Flip, thank you for your post!! You too db.

Once the estate is settled, then I can start a new life, without family. My dad was a surgeon who came down guillian barre syndrome from a flu shot. Was paralyzed from the neck down for almost a year, until I bought him a 8 week old newfoundland puppy. While paralyzed he used to say, you can pick your friends, you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your family.

Can't wait to pick my friends.

Thanks Flip, thanks db.

[Guest]

I hate Christmas

I love christmas.

[Lunapro]

I hate Christmas

I think Christmas is sometimes more difficult because of the expectations surrounding it - that it "should" be this special, wonderful day. Sometimes it seems that it is for everyone but us, that our own experience is not the Hallmark card it should be, all full of warmth and joy.

My Christmas has its ups and downs, like any other day.

[lucky 2.0]

I hate Christmas

Yes, Jesus was born in the spring. My bf says he and Jesus have the same birthday! LOL

And he does not say Merry Christmas- he says Happy Jesus Day! I swear, I think he is so funny. Guess you had to be there.

And if he happens to be @ a wedding and is inspired to go up for communion, he takes the wafer and puts it in his pocket and then feeds the birds with it.

[Ripple]

I hate Christmas

Touchy...

some people get offended about christmas (when some hate it). it is a matter of opinion as bad memories may be the reason? personally i can deal with it, although to me the hole thing is a pain in the ass. sorry, but thats just me.

Merry to all.

Ripple~:h

[Helensback]

I hate Christmas

Lucky -

Feed the birds.

Perfect.

Helen

[Victory]

I hate Christmas

Bah Humbug

X-Mas can be a painful time for many of us, too many bad memories. First X-Mas sober in 4 years and yep all painful feelings came out to play!!! Sober tho' so that's the main thing.
A friend sent me this she is very religious, and it did make me think how X-Mas has been hijacked by the advertising agencies.

The Letter from JESUS
As you well know, we are getting closer to my birthday. Every year there is
a celebration in my honor and I think that this year the celebration will be
repeated.

During this time there are many people shopping for gifts, there are many
radio announcements, TV commercials, and in every part of the world everyone
is talking that my birthday is getting closer and closer.

It is really very nice to know, that at least once a year, some people think
of me.

As you know, the celebration of my birthday began many years ago.

At first people seemed to understand and be thankful of all that I did for
them, but in these times, no one seems to know the reason for the
celebration.

Family and friends get together and have a lot of fun, but they don't know
the meaning of the celebration. I remember that last
year there was a great feast in my honor. The dinner table was full of
delicious foods, pastries, fruits, assorted nuts and
chocolates. The decorations were exquisite and there were many, many
beautifully wrapped gifts.

But, do you want to know something? I wasn't invited.

I was the guest of honor and they didn't remember to send me an invitation.

The party was for me, but when that great day came, I was left outside, they
closed the door in my face .. and I wanted to be
with them and share their table.

In truth, that didn't surprise me because in the last few years all close
their doors to me. Since I wasn't invited, I decided to
enter the party without making any noise. I went in and stood in a corner.

They were all drinking; there were some who were drunk and telling jokes and
laughing at everything. They were having a grand time.

To top it all, this big fat man all dressed in red wearing a long white
beard entered the room yelling Ho-Ho-Ho! He seemed drunk. He sat on the
sofa and all the children ran to him, saying: "Santa Claus, Santa Claus" as
if the party were in his honor!

At midnight all the people began to hug each other; I extended my arms
waiting for someone to hug me and do you know no-one hugged me.

Suddenly they all began to share gifts. They opened them one by one with
great expectation. When all had been opened, I looked to see if, maybe,
there was one for me. What would you feel if on your birthday everybody
shared gifts and you did not get one?

I then understood that I was unwanted at that party and quietly left.

Every year it gets worse. People only remember the gifts, the parties, to
eat and drink, and nobody remembers me.

I would like this Christmas that you allow me to enter into your life.

I would like that you recognize the fact that almost two thousand years ago
I came to this world to give my life for you, on the
cross, to save you.

Today, I only want that you believe this with all your heart.

I want to share something with you. As many didn't invite me to their party,
I will have my own celebration, a grandiose party
that no one has ever imagined, a spectacular party. I'm still making the
final arrangements. .

Today I am sending out many invitations and there is an invitation for you.
I want to know if you wish to attend and I will make a reservation for you
and write your name with golden letters in my great guest book.

Only those on the guest list will be invited to the party.

Those who don't answer the invite, will be left outside. Be prepared because
when all is ready you will be part of my great
party.

See you soo n. I Love you!

Jesus

[cuckoosnest83]

I hate Christmas

I don't mean to be rude but I don't understand this mind set. If you don't believe a certain dogma then you are damned. Personally, I can't believe a god who supposedly is omnipotent and loves unconditionally would condemn those he/she "professed" to loving to a hell. Can you enlighten me?

[Victory]

I hate Christmas

Not sure

Not sure cuckoo am not really religious, my friend sent it to me. Just thought I would prefer to celebrate something more than what the add agencies force down our throats. Agree with you God is supposed to be one of unconditional love and the eternal hell stuff may have originally been made up by priests to keep people in line, what ever that means????

[nancy]

I hate Christmas

I hope this doesn't turn into a religious debate!

I think we all need to respect each others' opinions.

[Victory]

I hate Christmas

Respecting each others opinions

Nancy, I do respect my friend even if she is a zealous born again Christian and has turned her life around [not alcohol related, lucky her]. It?s not for me tho?, but I respect her opinions and yours. What ever works for anyone is my philosophy.
Do understand your fear tho? as have seen some threads can turn quite badly, pretty quickly, hope this one won?t. Last year end of Jan we had all the Easter stuff in the shops, those marketing guys don't waste any time. And just in case "aplogies to anyone in marketing".