Chat is Hard.

[keeper]

You know how you want to talk to members in chat, but they don't reply? That's hard.

I feel like it's someone out there who is reaching out their hand, but I can't grasp it.

I don't know who died and made me queen, but I sure feel bad for the members who join chat and can't find the path to talk.... I feel like I'm letting them down.

I love all you guys who venture into chat. Please don't feel bad to reply. No one will see you except those of us in Chat. Keep reaching out, will ya?

[beatle]

Chat is Hard.

I often log into chat and there's nobody there. Then I revert to another window without logging off. Then I check back later. It is easier than logging on and off all the time. Could I be one of those difficult people you are talking about?

[Flip]

Chat is Hard.

I'm not sure what you are talking about Keeper. Did something happen today?

Do you mean that people are going into chat but are unable to talk?

Or that there is nobody there for them?

[kpuk]

Chat is Hard.

Also, some members could be having a "private chat" between themselves. Another window pops up so you can just talk to one person instead of having to hold a conversation in a busy chat room - it can be so hard to follow.

In this case, it shows you as logged into chat but you wouldn't necessarily respond to what's going on in the main room.

We don't mean to be rude.

[Flip]

Chat is Hard.

"We dont mean to be rude" ....I find that hard to believe coming from you K! lol

[kpuk]

Chat is Hard.

Flip! I can't believe you don't know I'm all sweetness and light after our chat the other day!

[Flip]

Chat is Hard.

umm, yeah, right..... is that what you call it?

[charlee]

Chat is Hard.

Keeper
Chat was a busy place last night, and I know it can be hard to be "heard"..Is this what you are referring to? Most nights chat is very light....but please know if there is something going on that you really need to talk about..the chatters will be there for you, just have to let us know...Welcome to MWO

[go2goal]

Chat is Hard.

Lots of discussion all over the board about ways to do chat..........you can set up a new room if want to talk about something or someone (Other than private chat). You go to 'Roam' and "create room' - maybe ask others who are able or want to talk about such & such to join you.....another thought is all.

It can feel rude when you are in chat and the others are having a private chat while you wait for replies. I would suggest when people want to have a 'private chat' to Create a new Room - then they appear in that room and not in the Lobby public area where others may come who are new.

Go2Goal

[kpuk]

Chat is Hard.

go2

Good tip, I didn't know that.

Thanks

[beatle]

Chat is Hard.

I'm in chat now but nobody is there. This happens quite a lot. So I just stay there a while and keep checking back.

Other times, when there are a lot of people in chat, I sometimes feel out of the loop, and it can seem like there are "inside" jokes going on. It can be a little lonely, in fact, but I don't think anybody means to do that, so I don't take it personally. I'm sure sometimes I can be perceived that way too.

That was very good advice Go2... I think it will help a lot of people.

[keeper]

Chat is Hard.

No Char, it was later on that I was in Chat. For just a split second I was in there by myself and then a member came in - now I can't remember their name. But, I tried to talk to them and they wouldn't reply. I felt bad for them, like maybe they were trying to reach out, but they wouldn't reply to me.

No, it wasn't you, beatle. LOL And, after reading everything here it's possible that they really weren't in Chat anymore, but had forgotten to log out.

So now I'm thinking it was kinda funny......I was in Chat talking to myself!

[charlee]

Chat is Hard.

Keeper
I am glad you are looking at this from the humorous side...I talk to myself all the time!! It is possible that someone forgot to log out, or maybe it was someone new to the chatroom and was just testing the waters......It was nice meeting you and again a big welcome..

[southernbelle47]

Chat is Hard.

Good idea Go2goal...
Chat is not for the "fainthearted" or shy....)
Thanks for bringing this up maybe it will help us all be more thoughtful in the future.
Love you all.
Nancy "Belle"

[KateH1]

Chat is Hard.

Go2, I agree with the private room for private chat. To everyone, do not assume that a private chat is the rude ignoring of others, many times, private chat is about a member having a difficult time and needing to talk to just one other member without others looking on. Please do not take this situation negatively or personally. Consider that a fellow member is getting what they need at that moment.

Also, if you come into chat and a conversation is going on, but you need to talk about something, just say...."I need to talk about something".......I guarantee you will immeditately be given the floor to speak. Also, there are times, where it may appear that there are "private jokes" or "insider chat", please consider that many members do know each other and are quite comfortable chatting and yes, kidding each other, much like goes on in real life. Just join in, change the topic if you like, the more you join in the more comfortable you will feel.

As Beetle said, if you go in to chat and no one else is there, hang out for a bit 10-15 minutes and allow other members to join you, or pm somone and ask them to join you.

Remember, we were all new at one time. It is up to you to join in.

I hope this helps!
KateH