I feel like a scratched record

[Lotus]

Hi ya all.

After feeling really optimistic that this year will be MY year I have only managed 1 day AF so far. I'm feeling tired, depressed and paranoid. Last night I spoke to my husband and he said that he will not drink during the weekdays (yes heard this every week last year and it never happened). So I asked him to do 30 days AF with me, to which his reply was "oh I don't believe in that sh*t.".

I've just read Last post re "failed" and there is so much good advice there. But why am I still "considering" what I want to drink today.

BTW we've also got a puppy and she has so much energy I'm having problems keeping up with her. I know I could if I gave up the drink, but keep finding excuse after excuse.

[meditation mama]

I feel like a scratched record

Hi, sweetie...

Sorry you are feeling so beat right now.. Man, do I know the feeling. I think you finally have to get to a place where you are just frickin' fed up with it. Is it because you feel you need hubby support? I know that can be hard. Do you do the "no drink during the week" thing with him? It sounds like he has a hard time with that, too. Is there some new activity you guys can get into to switch things up a bit?

Don't give up!!

xooxo

MM

[nattie]

I feel like a scratched record

Hi

sorry to hear you're having a frustrating time.

As you know - I've been seeing a counsellor for a while now and at first I was finding myself in the same situation - all good intentions to stop & then "something" would scupper that. I had a list full of excuses or reasons why I had not managed to get through the front door without a bottle of wine.
He did say one very good thing to me the other day & that was that I need to believe that alcohol can have no part in my life........once I do that I also take away the feeling I have of whether I choose to buy it or not (I hope this makes sense).
He has been very helpful & most succesful in getting me to quit - 2 slip ups since 13th Nov. I cannot remember the last time I had gone that long.
But in the back of my mind I still pictured it.......still thought whether I should/could or not......it was still niggling away in the back of my mind.

I think you need to make a plan & stick to it - I know from chatting with you that hubby has not much intention of cutting back.......making even more tempting.
I can't say I much like AA but I do agree with their "one day at a time"...........that has really helped me in getting started & I reckon once you have a few days under you're belt it'll be just what you need to spur you on.
I hate to say it but I think it'd gonna have to be you on your own doing it & then maybe working on hubby later along the line to stop or cut down.

Are you a member of the gym or anything? Is there something you can do to get out the house or keep occupied?

love
Nattie
xx

[hart]

I feel like a scratched record

Hi Lotus. Been there done that myself. In fact all the way to my hubby agreeing to go AF during the week. Are you taking any supplements? I'm taking Campral and for me, it works well with no side-effects. There's lots out there, rx and natural. You know once I get AF 2 day over it's a lot easier, at least until the weekend.

Don't beat yourself up hon. You are trying and you are here. That's a biggy! :l