Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker
Hello to all ~
I been posting all over the past few weeks and I never seem to get time to check in here, so today I figured this thread would be my first stop. I usually like to save the best for last and then I end up being too drained to post here. Lol
Liv ~ Congrats there Motorcycle Mama! What a great feeling of accomplishment. It?s fantastic to hear you sounding so happy! And the lyrics to ?Falling Slowly? - wow. I can?t wait to listen to it. Music means so much to me. I have songs that have really helped me through some rough times too. I completely understand how this can move you so.
I also really understand what you mean by ?putting ourselves at the bottom of the list? of people to take care of. But I am really beginning to put myself first lately. That is truly a work in progress and it feels very strange to me. But I simply have to. I raised my niece. She is preparing for school in the fall and will be out on her own. As for the rest, I am done trying to care of people that don?t care about themselves. They are suppose to be adults for crying out loud! I fell into the ?middle child syndrome? and thought I could take care of everyone when my mom passed, but I want my life back now and I am determined that 2008 will be my year. That?s what I keep telling myself anyway. And sober living is giving me a renewed strength that I always knew was there, but haven?t seen in a very long time.
WW ~ What an amazing thread you?ve got started. I can?t believe how fast it is growing. It was breaking my heart to see so many new people get few responses and seem so lost as to what to do on this vastly growing web. That was part of my complaint in the ?Tough Love? thread. You should be very proud of what you created. New people seem to be getting more attention now and I love it.
Speaking of ?Tough Love?, thank you all for the support and kind comments. I was desperately trying to keep the tone civil and just let it be a healthy debate without drama, but for some it was not to be. I was just waiting for a neutral comment to end on and I thought it best to close it before it got ugly. I appreciate your support just the same.
Kate ~
Wow these 3 words really hit me. It really is what it?s all about isn?t it? Good post!
Believe ~ Welcome back, buddy! I hear you about those ?friendships?. My friend calls me about once a week and asks if I?m still not drinking. When I tell him yes, I swear I hear a sigh on the other end of the phone. I think deep down he wants his drinking buddy back. Then, yesterday I told him there was no sense in asking me anymore because I consider myself recovered and I am a non-drinker period. I heard yet another sigh, and then he said he has seriously been considering quitting. But ironically, I think if I told him I was drinking again, he would be asking me over for cocktails and nothing would change with him. I have to tread lightly with him for a while. I?m not sure what he wants me to tell him, so I am going to leave him in his own thoughts for a while. I don?t want to seem preachy about being AF.
Med Mama ~ I hope you will be feeling better soon. You sound like you really need to slow down girl. You will be in my thoughts and prayers Friday. Extreme self care, love!
Determined this is going to be a week of better health for me. Yes, I know!! I keep saying this don't I! lol Primed myself pretty good with cutting back on caffeine last week. But the eating more often is still falling to the wayside. I am trying so hard to get myself to eat something before noon but it?s so hard. I just rarely get hungry. I try to keep those breakfast bars on hand just to get something in my system, but I still could be a lot better in this department. But am I am going to give myself the credit for cutting back on the caffeine and will do better with the other aspects this week. If I could get myself to eat more (and sleep better), I?m sure I?d find some energy to workout. But in the meantime I ordered the "Get Motivated to Exercise" Cds Friday night with the gift certificate I won. I?ve tried a subliminal tape years ago but it never worked. I am hoping that the ones from here are of a higher quality. It really would stink to spend that much money for 2 Cds to find out that I am not a good candidate for hypnosis. Wish me luck!
And just where has everyone else disappeared too? Hope everyone is healthy and happy.
Love to all ~
Love, Me
:l
Hello to all ~
I been posting all over the past few weeks and I never seem to get time to check in here, so today I figured this thread would be my first stop. I usually like to save the best for last and then I end up being too drained to post here. Lol
Liv ~ Congrats there Motorcycle Mama! What a great feeling of accomplishment. It?s fantastic to hear you sounding so happy! And the lyrics to ?Falling Slowly? - wow. I can?t wait to listen to it. Music means so much to me. I have songs that have really helped me through some rough times too. I completely understand how this can move you so.
I also really understand what you mean by ?putting ourselves at the bottom of the list? of people to take care of. But I am really beginning to put myself first lately. That is truly a work in progress and it feels very strange to me. But I simply have to. I raised my niece. She is preparing for school in the fall and will be out on her own. As for the rest, I am done trying to care of people that don?t care about themselves. They are suppose to be adults for crying out loud! I fell into the ?middle child syndrome? and thought I could take care of everyone when my mom passed, but I want my life back now and I am determined that 2008 will be my year. That?s what I keep telling myself anyway. And sober living is giving me a renewed strength that I always knew was there, but haven?t seen in a very long time.
WW ~ What an amazing thread you?ve got started. I can?t believe how fast it is growing. It was breaking my heart to see so many new people get few responses and seem so lost as to what to do on this vastly growing web. That was part of my complaint in the ?Tough Love? thread. You should be very proud of what you created. New people seem to be getting more attention now and I love it.
Speaking of ?Tough Love?, thank you all for the support and kind comments. I was desperately trying to keep the tone civil and just let it be a healthy debate without drama, but for some it was not to be. I was just waiting for a neutral comment to end on and I thought it best to close it before it got ugly. I appreciate your support just the same.
Kate ~
Today I heard Dr. Oz, speak a bit about addictions, he said that we choose addictions to releave the "discomfort and anxieties" of daily living. But, that anxiety and discomfort are part of living. It made me think that for most of us, for far too long, we have adopted an entire catagory for such feelings and labeled them, negative....uncomfortable, yes, annoying at times, even troubling, but are they truly negative? Or are they, as Dr. Oz says, just another part of life?
I think that Dr. Oz is right! What do you think? What do you do now, without alcohol, to relieve these uncomfortable times?
This is so insightful. I totally agree with you. Life is life and we have to take the good with the bad. It?s so much easier dealing with the bad sober than it is buzzed or hungover. The bad is going to happen anyway, so why make it worse? Took a lot of years for me to realize that.
BCB ~ survival strategy "transformation".
I think that Dr. Oz is right! What do you think? What do you do now, without alcohol, to relieve these uncomfortable times?
This is so insightful. I totally agree with you. Life is life and we have to take the good with the bad. It?s so much easier dealing with the bad sober than it is buzzed or hungover. The bad is going to happen anyway, so why make it worse? Took a lot of years for me to realize that.
BCB ~ survival strategy "transformation".
Believe ~ Welcome back, buddy! I hear you about those ?friendships?. My friend calls me about once a week and asks if I?m still not drinking. When I tell him yes, I swear I hear a sigh on the other end of the phone. I think deep down he wants his drinking buddy back. Then, yesterday I told him there was no sense in asking me anymore because I consider myself recovered and I am a non-drinker period. I heard yet another sigh, and then he said he has seriously been considering quitting. But ironically, I think if I told him I was drinking again, he would be asking me over for cocktails and nothing would change with him. I have to tread lightly with him for a while. I?m not sure what he wants me to tell him, so I am going to leave him in his own thoughts for a while. I don?t want to seem preachy about being AF.
Med Mama ~ I hope you will be feeling better soon. You sound like you really need to slow down girl. You will be in my thoughts and prayers Friday. Extreme self care, love!
Determined this is going to be a week of better health for me. Yes, I know!! I keep saying this don't I! lol Primed myself pretty good with cutting back on caffeine last week. But the eating more often is still falling to the wayside. I am trying so hard to get myself to eat something before noon but it?s so hard. I just rarely get hungry. I try to keep those breakfast bars on hand just to get something in my system, but I still could be a lot better in this department. But am I am going to give myself the credit for cutting back on the caffeine and will do better with the other aspects this week. If I could get myself to eat more (and sleep better), I?m sure I?d find some energy to workout. But in the meantime I ordered the "Get Motivated to Exercise" Cds Friday night with the gift certificate I won. I?ve tried a subliminal tape years ago but it never worked. I am hoping that the ones from here are of a higher quality. It really would stink to spend that much money for 2 Cds to find out that I am not a good candidate for hypnosis. Wish me luck!
And just where has everyone else disappeared too? Hope everyone is healthy and happy.
Love to all ~
Love, Me
:l
ray:
I have a lot of practicing to do - but it's feeling more natural .... when I advance out of the parking lot - I'll give everyone a fair warning in case you are coming through the State .. :H
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