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    #841
    Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

    Okay the feeding can wait another few minutes...

    Thankful, you are right about her drinking. She and her husband drink a lot. When we were together in January, I tried to tell her that I knew I had a problem and was ready to face it. I didn't get very far as she got defensive and said that people who quit one bad habit just pick up another - like smoking or overeating. You think I should tell her about my 4 mile runs and eliminating sugar, caffeine, meat and dairy?? LOL. Should be an interesting conversation: I'm betting she evades
    Beck

    Sometimes you get there in spite of your route, losing track of your life and what it's about, the road seems to know when to straighten right out...Mary Chapin Carpenter

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      #842
      Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

      Beck, sweetie, all you can do is be there for her. We have all been in that denial phase of our lives and no one could talk us into quitting until we were damn good and ready for ourselves. And who knows, may be she'll surprise you and say that you have already inspired her! Would that be great?!? But in being there for her, you MUST protect yourself at all times. You have to come first.

      She may still be defensive. But if she sees you standing firm on your new convictions, then maybe you will inspire. As long as she feels that you are not preaching, she should not be that upset. And if you don't want AL in the house, she certainly should respect your rules. If you don't mind if she drinks while she is there, then just accept that she is not ready yet. Maybe by the next visit, she will be.

      And I repeat....take care of you first!!! Good luck.

      Love, Me
      :l:l
      Alcohol is simply the device between success and failure.

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        #843
        Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

        You think I should tell her about my 4 mile runs and eliminating sugar, caffeine, meat and dairy??
        BTW ~ Awesome friggin job!! Wow!! You are now my inspiration! :kudos:

        When I think back on all the PMs we traded a few months back, it boggles my mind at how well you are doing now. You've come a long way, baby!!! I hope you are very proud of yourself. You certainly should be!! I know I am!!

        Love, Me
        :l
        Alcohol is simply the device between success and failure.

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          #844
          Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

          Thankful, when my not drinking comes up I'm just going to be straightforward and honest. But the truth is she will probably cut me off...b/c if I've acknowledged a problem then perhaps she has one. That's just defensive. If she wants to talk about her own issue then that is up to her. I wouldn't preach to anyone - I also won't drink for anyone. Yep, me first.

          Yes, I remember those PMs. I am in a much better place now. I struggled through the move but still couldn't feel good about myself. Last week in a blinding flash of the obvious I decided it was time to FORGIVE MYSELF for all of my past misdeeds and for ending up in this position. Feeling MUCH better now. Moving forward without the weight of the guilt, etc.

          And about eliminating all those things from my diet - I quit drinking b/c I felt so bad. After the quit I still didn't feel great. About 2 weeks ago I just got fed up of not feeling as good as I thought I should. I figured it was something I was eating - so I just said to hell with it - Ill be a vegan. I feel fantastic now.

          I do appreciate the support - most of those I quit with have fallen by the wayside...

          Beck
          Beck

          Sometimes you get there in spite of your route, losing track of your life and what it's about, the road seems to know when to straighten right out...Mary Chapin Carpenter

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            #845
            Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

            Well HOWDY-DOODY!!

            WW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so glad to see you are back! I can't wait to catch up with you and hear about your project and how it all went!!

            I know, I have been away TOOOO long..., but I have been SWAMPED with work and DD's summer schedule. That, the puppy, gardening, and yes, a bit of a social schedule have kept me hopping. In addition, DD was with me for a month - which is not normal. She ususally spends every other THURS-SUN with her Dad and one day on the alternating weeks, but with his wedding and a new job - well I cut him some slack. I WON'T do that again, though! I am used to my "down-time" and did't realize how spent I was until last night when I fell asleep on the couch at 8pm! BUT now I'm up in the frickin' middle of the night (well 4am) because I went to be too early...

            Had a great SOBER 4th and LOVED it! Even saw my STBX with his new girlfriend and that didn't even spin me... It did spin DD, though. We are still working through a lot of issues with him, but getting stronger and more normal everyday...

            I have a crazy week, but will catch up on the weekend. I saw Sunday may be a chat day! I would LOVE it. I am so glad to see everyone, I would love it if we could set up a time to all catch up!

            I LOVE YOU ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

            I will check in as much as I can this week, and let's REALLY try to set some time aside on Sunday if we can...

            xoxoxoxo

            MM
            Face your deficiencies and acknowledge them, but do not let them master you. Let them teach you patience, sweetness, insight.

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              #846
              Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

              hey, what the heck was this thread doing on page 3 ?????

              MedMama, glad your good and had a great AF 4th! you remember more fireworks that way.

              well, air quality today in Reno is the worst in recorded history...no wonder I feel like a wolf ate me and crapped me off a cliff. ugh. wheeze. thud.
              nosce te ipsum
              (Know Thyself)

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                #847
                Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

                OMG! I have never heard that! LMAO! I'm about peeing me panties! I will use that one! "Feel like a wolf just ate me and crapped my off a cliff". Funny! :H
                "It wasn't all I wanted, but all I could stand!":bigwink: Alcohol free since April 8, 2008

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                  #848
                  Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

                  LOL - Det is it the fires blowing smoke your way?? Seriously. You need a gas mask from Believe. He will hook you up.

                  MM --- Am I ever glad to see you!!! It looks like everyone is checking in and out as possible. I am so glad to see you here and hearing that you are running the race!! Give us the update on STBX - How dare he hurt DD - the jerk. She is at an age where she may think all men are that stupid. He needs to be a better role model. Jerk

                  Ok - This is short - I've gotta go - I'll be back later
                  AF since Jan. 1, 2008 .... It all began right here


                  Raise your hopeful voice, you have a choice, you made it now.


                  (from the Movie "Once")

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                    #849
                    Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

                    Hello everyone,

                    I'm supposed to be vacation planning but...

                    My company left yesterday and all went well. I never thought I would see the day when I'd be cooking for 14 people (10 of them kids!!!) and I would not be drinking. I did have one of those "this would be a great time to see if I can handle just one glass of wine" thoughts. But I didn't act on it.

                    I am beginning to wonder what other "wrong" things I tell myself. Hmm...

                    Good to see everyone around if only briefly.

                    You are too funny, Det - hope you are feeling better.

                    Beck
                    Beck

                    Sometimes you get there in spite of your route, losing track of your life and what it's about, the road seems to know when to straighten right out...Mary Chapin Carpenter

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                      #850
                      Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

                      wow, good line Beck: I am beginning to wonder what other "wrong" things I tell myself. Hmm...

                      we do tend to stuff our lil melons with doodoo throughout our lives. Mental spring cleaning is good for us!!

                      well, feeling better after a really good 9 hours of sleep. wow! it finally cooled a bit last night and the smoke has been a tad more manageable today...can even see the mountains. Still taking it easy just for good measure.

                      the cutest little squirrel is playing around outside the window as I'm typing...I'll try to get a picture.
                      nosce te ipsum
                      (Know Thyself)

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                        #851
                        Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

                        What up everyone. Just wanted to drop by real quick to say hi b4 going back to bed. This working nights really messes with your sleep cycle. Lol I only got about 7 hours of Battle Field: Bad Company in b4 me & my xbox crapped out. Oh well, I think I can at least double that effort tomorrow

                        Anyway, anyone gonna be on chat tomorrow? I'd like to say hi before jumping on xbox live and mercin fooz (actually I'm the one getting merced l8ly but its all good).

                        Take care all!

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                          #852
                          Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

                          Hi, everyone! Happy Sunday!!!

                          I am up for a chat today. I can work around anyone's schedule today. I will pretty much be around the house all day. Balancing checkbooks, paying bills and doing housework and I will make the great sacrifice and give all that up just for you all. That's how much I love you guys! lol

                          If there is going to be more than 3 of us, I would suggest we get a room (hehehe) and PM a password to everyone so we don't interrupt (or take over) the main lobby room.

                          Let me know who's in, when it will be and what the dress code is. I will set up a room if need be.

                          Love to all ~
                          Me
                          :l:h:l
                          Alcohol is simply the device between success and failure.

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                            #853
                            Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

                            Just checking in to see if anyones around? Hope everyones having a good Sunday.

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                              #854
                              Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

                              Ok, sorry. I did have to leave for a bit today. But I am back and should stay put for the day.

                              Love, Me
                              :l
                              Alcohol is simply the device between success and failure.

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                                #855
                                Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

                                haha missed you again thankful! another round of forum tag this week

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