Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

[livingfree]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Panties it is ~ I guess I'll go put some on

I am logged on and have to run an errand and will be back up in about 10 minutes!!

[wonderworld]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Hey Kaddy!

OKay on my way over to chat .......

Name of the Room: Party
Password: Panties

Gonna shoot a quick email to Kate then I'm gonna put the punch in the punch bowl and turn on the lava lamps.

See you there!

WW xox


See you in a few!

[Determinator]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Garlic breath was late but made it for a bit! Believe great to finally catch you on chat.

I'm happy, garlicky and AF.

happy happy sunday one and all

[KateH1]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Hey Gang!
I so enjoyed our chat yesterday! I love our ability to be frank and honest with each other! This is so far from the world of "Everything is fine ", even when it is not! At times it can be a slippery slope to not say what we are really thinking! After yesterday's chat, I realize that I am not alone in the things that I have been thinking about and sharing it with you guys really got the monkey off my back! I feel light again, centered! You are all so terrific!!

Oh...one more thing......there was that one pair of panties left in the chat room......I think they might belong to WW, she did leave pretty quickly!!

XXX Kate

[livingfree]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

LOL Kate!! The itsy bitsy panties? anties: Yes those are WW's.

If anyone finds these :grannypants: you can return them to me!!!!

It was AWESOME to chat and even more awesome to get some things off my chest!! :bust: I am going to be more "frank" from now on. Sorry I was a bit on the potty mouth last night. It's just not like me :H

Det I'm sorry I had to split when you arrived -- I didn't realize we had been on for 3 hours and my husband was getting really annoyed that we hadn't eaten! He must have burned 5 gallons of fuel keeping the grill going without the steaks on!! Next time we can catch up. Really ... it wasn't your garlic breath!!

Way to go all you AFers!! Everyone makes me so proud to be part of the awesome family!

[LVT25]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Hi there,

Well, it seems I've REALLY aged over night--Now I'm a Senior Citizen!!:H Surely RJ could come up with a better term--like "seasoned"!:H

I'm feeling just a bit lost around here lately. Did my 30 days with a really supportive group, but can't seem to keep our own threads alive. While this one still thrives! I don't really fit in with the ODAT either. I haven't decided to be AF forever, but I'm really liking it right now.
So if you don't mind, I might hang out here once in awhile.

I saw you all in chat the other night, but being on MST I was late crashing the party. Liv--it's just a good thing you didn't put your steaks on the barby before you started chatting!!

Gotta go---things to do while its cool outside!:h

BTW----52 days AF and NF I quit smoking March 1, and had a few slips at first. but I'm still going to say 5 months on that in August--thanks Liv. :l

[livingfree]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

52 days AF !!!!!!!!!!! Go Girl!! You fit right in here --- just stay on this thread! It will help you to connect and stay motivated!! This thread is for ppl that don't fit it!! (cuz so many are drinking still) Post away woman - and congrats

I love Ya!!

[LVT25]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Thanks Liv!!!

So, once you guys did 30 days, did you know you were going to be af for life? Or did you test the waters so to speak, first? I know this is going to sound bad, but after being here so long, and how easy this was for me, I don't think I'm a raging alcoholic. I think my main addiction was the ciggies-without them, I don't care to drink. But one day, that may change. Right now, the taste of beer especially makes me crave a smoke. So I just don't go there. I wonder if I should set a goal for 6 months, or would I be setting myself up for failure?

Right now I feel like if the situation arises, and I want to indulge, I will. But so far, that hasn't happened. Fear of hangover keeps me motivated!!!:H

Love you guys!:h

[KateH1]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Hi LVT,
When I started, my goal was to Mod. I really did not think that I wanted to give up alcohol all together. My first try at AF ended on day 28, I was only going to have a couple....thought I could Mod....I was so wrong! The very next day, I started AF again.....we started this thread just after several of us had reached 30 days.........we all kept going together....learning from each other, encouraging each other! The decision to remain AF for life has grown as my AF time has grown. Honestly, today, I have no desire to experiment, or to see if modding is possible. I simply do not want to drink, I see no reason to drink! At social occasions, I drink sprarkling water with lime and no one knows that I am not drinking alcohol unless I tell them. I am very open regarding the fact that I choose not to drink......not a big deal at all! I have more fun not drinking, then I ever did while drinking!

XXX Kate

[livingfree]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

hi Mimi

When I first started here I knew I was probably not a candidate for modding - however the book gave me hope that I maybe could later down the road ... so I started off knowing I wanted to do 30 days -- and then see..... After the 30 days - I was shocked that I had actually gone 30 days without drinking. About this time -- my husband and I had a serious talk about my drinking. He didn't think I had a drinking problem. When I confessed that I drank sometimes in the morning for the past year -- Everything changed. He became my #1 supporter of abstaining - for life. He and I both agree that once you cross that line -- your chances of escalating right back to that point are HUGE - or worse.

Also a persons reason for wanting alcohol may play a role -- me ... I drank to cope. Not to party. I NEVER was drunk (not since I was in college anyway). I always seemed in control. I didn't even go to bars, except for social events. My husband and I are very "high profile" in our community, and there isn't anyone who would have thought I had drinking issues. I ran a multi million dollar company for 16 years before I went back to school - got licensed and opened my own small business. All while drinking every single day of my life.

So the bottom line is - you have to decide what is best for you by knowing that if you EVER drink and feel bad, wished you hadn't, say something hurtful, etc. etc. - you probably should not test it. If not - you may just be the natural modder! Remember .... the key is "Butter"

PS - sorry about the bold print. I just wanted to bold butter but now I can't change it back and don't want to start over!!

[wonderworld]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

yes Liv! please stop screaming! geez........
but seriously - I like so much what you said. Kate too.

And so good to see you in these parts LVT!!! glad you showed up and hope to see more of you. What a nice group here all around! I hope this thread continues to grow.

And I was so bummed to leave early from chat on Sunday. That's why I had been lobbying for an earlier start time - I knew that that phone call was coming and that it would be long. Sounds like you guys had such a good talk'. Next time I'm not leaving......:upset:

see you soon-

WW xox

[Determinator]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

so is was WW that dropped her drawers in chat. hmmmmmmmm.

LVT, congrats on the AF time and glad your feeling well. i can only guarantee this: if you stay AF life will present fewer nasty surprises, and your health will never be in jeopardy by this toxic alkaloid we know all too well. If you do decide to mod then there are no guarantees. I won't judge you either way...just wanted to share what little I truly do know for sure

[LVT25]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Thank you Kate, WW, Det and LIV,

I truly appreciate your input. Food for thought. It's late, that's all I've got to say about that for now.


Liv, I thought the big type was very thoughtful. :H Just hate eye strain!:H:H

Love ya! :h

[BELIEVE]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

LVT25;368260 wrote: Thanks Liv!!!

So, once you guys did 30 days, did you know you were going to be af for life? Or did you test the waters so to speak, first? I know this is going to sound bad, but after being here so long, and how easy this was for me, I don't think I'm a raging alcoholic. I think my main addiction was the ciggies-without them, I don't care to drink. But one day, that may change. Right now, the taste of beer especially makes me crave a smoke. So I just don't go there. I wonder if I should set a goal for 6 months, or would I be setting myself up for failure?

Right now I feel like if the situation arises, and I want to indulge, I will. But so far, that hasn't happened. Fear of hangover keeps me motivated!!!:H

Love you guys!:h

Hi LVT.

I would submit that if you're looking at your af time in terms of when you can drink again, its probably not a good idea. IMO (and this is really is just my take, I'm no expert or anything) successful modding and af living look a lot alike. If your focus is on being af with al popping in from time to time (and yeah, hangovers truly suck) you might be ok. If your focus is actually on drinking, you got work 2do.

Not sure how much of this applies to you, if I got you wrong then sorry, disregard the post. Best of luck either way.

[KateH1]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Hey Believe,

I love the way you put that! It makes perfect sense! As long as we are still focused on drinking, we will indeed be defeated!

It seems that over the past few months.....the IDEA of Mods has taken over. Mod meaning everything from cutting back the number of days in a week to drinking less every night. It seems that the MWO description of Modding has gone by the wayside. The only reason that I feel badly about this is because the entire MWO approach is completely lost here. Alcohol is so tricky, we will tell ourselves almost anything in order to keep drinking. I hate to see people here think that they are "failing" and that this program does not work, just because they have "Wrong Information".