Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

[wonderworld]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Awwww....... Thankful :l:upset::l. Love you honey. The early part of this week kind of kicked my ass too. And stop wandering away!!! I miss you.

WIP - I hear you too sister! This is uncharted territory for me too. I also had couple of long AF stretches with AA and then without it for a few years. And then a perfect storm of circumstances got me back in the soup last year al-wise.

So - - maybe we can build together what it is we need right here on MWO. Why not? We are all depending on each other and supporting each other, so why the F not create our own little sober universe long term? RJ would be thrilled I know for this site to grow and develop in that way. MWO is still pretty new.

And Beck - yeah - I was thinking the thread should probably be in long term abs now too. I mean, after all, we're getting very, um...... grown up . But - can you "move" an entire thread to another forum? maybe codemonkey can do that? Does the group think it's a good idea?

mwo2 glad you're here too! Seriously! Aren't we getting an awesome crew going here? And add to the above: Doggy and Kate and Det and Mags and Liv and LVT and Believe and BHOG sometimes, and a few more here and there - I think we're rockin' !

Woo hoo!!!

WW xox

[wonderworld]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Beck -
What's happening that 's making you feel like you're struggling right now? Can you say? And I know what you mean about the feeling of being in a room full of sober people. No matter how you feel about the AA program I think that feels very reassuring too. You could always go to speaker meetings for a while where you can just sit in the audience and relax. Do they have that format of AA meeting near you?

WW

[Beck]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

WW -

I'll just say that now I am dealing with all the stuff I used to drink about. Okay, I'll be a bit more specific - my marriage worked better when I was a drunk. Actually had the thought Tuesday that I quit drinking a few years too early as my youngest is only 7. Not a pleasant realization and with my kids being away, I nearly acted on it. Went to AA instead. I've got my head back on right now. Tons of AA meetings in my area. Even one at noon - convenient as I'm not working right now.

You can count me in for the long term. I do think it is needed. Bet there are others out there who don't post. I do think moving the thread is a good idea.

[CS04]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Beck, I am struggling with these very marriage issues. I started a thread on "spouses who drink" -- have you read any of those posts? I am having a hard time communicationg with hubby about some important and dificult issues (money being one of them) and it is even harder to communicate when I am not drinking. I know that sounds crazy. But i feel like I am kinda stuck.

[Beck]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

CS - It doesn't sound crazy. If I were better at communicating my needs I probably wouldn't be in this situation. I have read some of the posts on the thread - my husb is a non-drinker who has the occasional drink or two. Some of it is applicable to me, some not. If you want to be a non-drinker, you are just going to have to dive in and start talking about the issues. If he is unresponsive at least you know you have tried. Expect to try more than once. Don't go back to drinking thinking it will make things better, it really won't. The thing about being a non-drinker is you have to learn to do everything sober - some of it is just harder than others.

[KateH1]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Beck.....three words..You are Awsome! You just figure out how to take care of yourself and stay sober!
Reading your posts I just keep seeing you getting stonger and stonger.....you make me smile!!

xxxKate

[Thankful]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Originally Quoted by BECK

The thing about being a non-drinker is you have to learn to do everything sober - some of it is just harder than others.

I love this! I just may have to quote you on many other future posts! Such honesty and truth in that one simple sentence.

You've come a very long way Beck. I know I tell you this often, but I can't help myself....I am so proud of you!! I am so glad you came to this thread.

Love, Me
:l

[KateH1]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Thanks, Thankful for pointing out that quote by Beck....powerful!! And thanks Beck for writing it!

That is the absolute truth! When I think of the many really tough stuff that many of us on this thread have gone through....how grateful we are that we chose not to drink our way through it! Lif will always have challenges, some are and will be very tough....but choosing not to drink will always remain the best choice for moving foward.

xxxxxxxx

[mwo2]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Hello All,

I think the name of the thread says it all "31 days and beyond "Hello I am a non-drinker"".... I also think that it should be on the general thread so that newbie and oldies alike can see that there is support for being totally AF with the mwo program. That some people do choose to go past the 30 days. When I first started here, seems like eons ago, I did not really "look" at the long term ab threads...why would I, I did not know what a long "31 days and beyond" are crystal clear.

That being said ...

:upset::upset::upset::upset: My car is broken (my dd words) it is either going to get fixed for $600 or I will have to get another car. The next fix after that would be $1,110.... I bought the car for $800 2 years ago....Finally got my ex to respond to the issue of him being largely behind in child support and he going to get on it, he has the money....anyway enough about that part...the scary part was TODAY I HAD THE THOUGHT...OH TO GO HOME AND HAVE A DRINK:upset: But I have learned from you all to not do that...

The Beck quote was right here waiting for me...
...and I am going 31 days and beyond! It is hard, but you know what? I would not have been forcefully proactive w/ my ex. or with just what will my next steps be if I wasn't going for AF always.

Going to pick myself up and go to my planned Music in the Park, meet my school work/friend mates...and talk to them about. They will help me figure it out....why? Because when I am AFHF I have the courage and the grace to ask for help when I need it.

Tough, yes... will I feel the love...yes.

Thanks,
mwo2

[KateH1]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

MWO2...Wow! You are doing great! You should be so proud of yourself. You, know, there will always be reason and excuses to drink, as long as we want to continue drinking. But, when we decide to stop and really hold ourselves to it.....our lives begin to transform. That does not mean bliss all the time, it does not mean that we never have serious problems and worries. It means we are fare better to deal with everything that comes our way!!

I agree. This thread should stay in General. This board was created by a brilliant woman who created a way to stop drinking in an abusive manner. This board is about Recovery. This thread is primarily about long term recovery. I think that newbies and anyone wanting to know what past 30 days AF looks like, can come here to this thread and hopefully they, like you, will get hope and determination.

Thanks! mwo2!
Kate

[Thankful]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

MWO2 - so sorry you are having a tough day, but BRAVO for how you are handling yourself!!

I am so proud of you too!! Fantastic attitude!! We need more of that on the boards that's for sure! Be proud of yourself, hun!

We are here for you always. Sometimes with the "tough", but always with the "love".

Love, Me
:l

[Determinator]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Hello, I'm Determinator and I'm a non drinker

[mwo2]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Hey All,

Feel better, calmed....the music was great... Music in the Park is a Thurs. night Aug. thing in my town. Tonight was the Village Voices, A great group led by Jon. Jon plays the guitar and sings all the rest of the group play different intruments and sing....
The rest of the group are adults with special needs, they practice every week.. Some of the adults have been thru the program that I work at, at the high school here... very fun and uplifting.

My work/friend mates were very supportive, I knew they would be. One of my friends just got a newer vehicle a few weeks ago, she still has her old car (one that was given to her) and she is going to let me use it as long as I need it....:upset::l:upset:. So I will have wheels no matter what... still hope that my cars get fixed. I really love my 87 fake woody oldsmobile cutlass cruiser station wagon. Plus I need something big enough to haul the double bass that my son is starting to play....but for now I am goooodddd..

Now must go look for a certain something for a journey that is always ongoing...

Thanks for the support!

[KateH1]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Sounds like a wonderful evening mwo2! Music outdoors is so magical. Music period is such a soul expander. glad you had such a great time! It sounds like you are quite the musical family, how great!

Wow! That is so great about your friends car! Now you have transportation and you can take some time to figure out things with your other car. I love hearing stuff like this!

Thanks for sharing!
Kate

[A Work in Progress]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Good morning all, from my usual perch in the coffee shop (still can't log in from home/office)... Beck and all, YES, one of the hardest and least talked-about aspects of recovery from alcohol is that we sometimes find that our marriages... our jobs... our friendships... are no longer work-able, or at least they require a lot more work. We wake up, see things clearly, become more who we really are, and it unsettles a lot of dynamics... both for us and for those around us. Sometimes we have to make big sacrifices to get our lives and our true selves back.

be strong, be clear, best wishes,

wip