Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

[livingfree]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Bold Moves

What a day! Mondays are my day off (we'll not really off - but I don't book any clients, so I have the spa to myself - catch up on paper work etc.) - but I only went in for awhile because we are having another snow "event". (I'm calling them that now - so that I don't become depressed with this long winter - I'm not originally from the "North")

Thankful - WOW Congrats!!!! 61 days!! LOVE IT! I'm chasing you woman (or thats assuming on my part) I'm 56 today! You gotta stay cuz were going to take this thread all the way to - who knows!! Keep pushing on ODAT for us!

KateH - Ditto on your post - I agree! Congrats on your 38! I have a great book called the solution. It gives a list of 8 questions to ask yourself once an hour
1. I feel angry that ___
2. I feel sad that ___
3. I feel afraid that ____
4. I feel guilty that ___
5. I feel grateful that ___
6. I feel happy that ___
7. I feel secure that ___
8. I fee proud that ___

You can journal them or just ask yourself them. Answer with the first thing that comes to your head - don't spend much time on any one question, but do it throughout the day. It helps with anxiety and fears. I've been doing it a lot lately!!

BCB - OK - you were reading my Journal were you?? I honestly wrote in my journal this am that I believe the sugar addiction came before the alcohol addiction for me!!! And I am determined to get it also!! How determined???? I ordered the Hypno tapes from the place were MWO gets her CD's from! I got it in the mail Friday - But I promised myself I would spend the entire 6 weeks on the Alcohol alone first to make sure I didn't relapse in that area first!!!!!!!! No kidding! PLUS - I quit smoking on November 28th. Oh yes - I am such an addict. But I believe it all goes back to the sugar addiction. So I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT. To Bad we don't all live in the same city. We could have one heck of a support club!!

Wonder - I love you wonder world, wonder woman! You are so awesome!

MM - Did you work today? How are you doing?
TOH - 47 and counting How are you doing
Believe - Maybe start with a good breakfast. I'm the worst breakfast eater in the world. I just can't seem to stomach cereal. Makes me feel depressed. Eggs - ok if its 10 am with a beer :no:

Ok - my success for today was putting in practice some of the things I need to change about myself. Like why I?ve medicated myself with sugar, alcohol and nicotine for most of my life. My new motto is ?Bold Moves?. Kind of like dealing with a new dog. You have to become the Alpha male. We?ll I exercised it today with my bookkeeper who dominates me in every way ? even by self admission but can?t help herself ... rules me like I?m a pup. Today I made my first ?bold move? ? I was the Alpha and took control of my ship! (I own the business, but the way I?ve been letting everyone treat me ? ) So just wanted to give a shout of Joy and report my success! I was so excited I called my husband to report ? He said ?Bold moves with passion, my dear!? what a guy! I have to keep practicing as It?s not my "normal" in any way. I?m the ?nice? one who everyone ?loves?, but behind the scenes I?m cussing and hate everyone I?m around!! I let everyone walk right over the top of me. No more ? that?s why I?m considering changing my orphan annie look. Maybe when I truly FEEL Bold and strong ? So when you see my Avatar change - you'll know I'm no longer "practicing"

Cheers to a great Monday night Ya'll - Stam warm and DRY
PS - I won't normally be so long and windy - sorry
Liv

[KateH1]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Hi Liv,
I wrote those questions in my journal! Thank you.........I won't be asking myself these questions once an hour........but.......I think they are good for a review at least once a day!

I have shared these thoughts with MM before.......I too am in the Spa business, I am a consultant and trainer. Every time I tell somone what I do.......their immediate reaction is to say to me.."How Fun!". Quite honestly, this remark always cracks me up! I have been dong this for a very long time and I really do love what I do, but people have no idea how very complicated and what hard work this business is! We have to practice what Cheryl Richardson calls, "Extreme Self Care"!

I love this thread!! We all need to make a promise to practice "Extreme Self Care"!

Have a good night all!
XXXXX Kate

[livingfree]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

How right you are

Oh Kate how right you are - opening my Day Spa seriously put me right over the edge! But I am really trying to practice "extreme self care" these days. It is the hardest work one can ever imagine! I still do services (only facials now) but still find myself working such crazy hours. It wasn't until this crash and burn that I actually let myself believe the extreme self care business! Funny how we all find each other huh! Good nite! It will be great to share and get to know you!
Liv

[bootcampbarbie]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

extreme self care. ah the thought for my day. i love the solutions believe.... hubby and i did the couples work not long ago. thank you for reminding me. and while i'm not in the spa business, when i'm not selling real estate, i'm in the transformation business. so i've been a coach for 18 years and in personal and business world helping entrepreneurs have huge success using business and transformation. so i understand that changing the context and condition comes first then the actions and practices are what falls out of this. so yes i think addiction wiring came first for me. just wired for it. sugar, nicotine. i was examining my relationship to money and outlook on life. and i'm thinking really it all might have started with taadada the abuse... seems it tripped up that wiring somewhere. as i have this deep deep nawing piece that comes up that says when is the shoe going to drop. when is it going to fall apart. and in some ways throwing that little signal out to the world generates it. so i'm really focusing in on how to complete that as well. and i do want to use lenair to rewire me again. because it was so amazing how we simply took out of existance the wiring for al i know if we focused in on the wiring for the others then i'd be completely a different person. and oddly hubby said last nite that we have hardly argued since i came back almost two months ago. today i have 58 days. and i said really, so it was me being crazy and yes i can see how other relationships have become easier. there isn't that much drama in my life. and i am not fueling what drama there is and making it bigger. so, hummmm no al equals less drama.

[KateH1]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Living, looking forward to getting to know you too!

Bootsie, no pressure here but......2 days away from 60!!!!!!! Wow! Wow!

Let's proclaim today "Extreme Self Care Day!!!!"

Love to All!
XXXXX Kate

[livingfree]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

good evening to all

Checking in
Hi Bootsie & Kate I'm about to head home to extreemly take care of myself -- what a day!! Thankful - MM- Wonder Believe -Livinglost - Mya - eveyone else who checks this thread - good day to you all. I had a dream last night that I drank. I've got to figure out what is making me dream such crazy things. My Kudzu is giving me hot flashes the way it is I think!
Word for the night: Rest; Extreem Rest
Liv

[Thankful]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Just checking in folks. So friggin tired of drama. People just don't get it, you know? Of course you do.

Believe, if you're lurking, hang in there buddy!

Love to all!!

Love, Me
:l

[bootcampbarbie]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

ah the drama. i came out of a building today downtown with my clients and just in time to see them put his car on a rack and attempt to tow away. god we were running and saying heyyyyy well 140 later to not tow. 70 each for tickets. uh yeah we should have read the signs. i felt so bad. i wanted to pay for it. he said no. i said you know most people would have made me wrong for that. but nope they said let's continue on with day and go and look at places. so i said okay well this is your housewarming gift coming out of my commission. i'll take photo of tow truck car and frame it along with a check. hahaahahahaha i can't believe they didn't make me wrong. weird. so many bumps and bruises but no thought of drinking only thoughts of surrendering to extremem self care. i love you all and am thank ful to be alive. hubby just came in to tell me how much he is happy that i'm sober that i'm home and that he loves me. it makes him feel whole. gosh, can you just say grateful........ yep, it's the little things. so extreme self care today means surrendering all the things i simply have no power to control well i surrender them over to the universe..... now, go get em angels i could use a little help here. so i'm calling in all guides and angels to assist me in creating a powerful new me and abundance and health. i'm committed to a breakthrough and not feeling this dread and overwhelm. love you all. believe i'm fancing that behind it all lies a very powerful goddess. yepppppp still waters run deep they say. thankful... you are a precious peach.... wonderbread where are you???? okay off to bed. 4 a.m. comes early

[meditation mama]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Well, helloooo!

Sorry, I have been AWOL the past few days.. quick check in around the boards.. wanted to post on some threads as there was some "needed helps" and I only had a few moments.

It is getting hectic in my life.. meeting with contractors for the new place, buying new furniture, arranging for movers for FRIDAY - a sick kid, oh, and trying to work! It's a bit crazy, but I feel really good and centered.. I SWEAR it is the "L-TRYPTOPHAN"!!!!! I stopped taking it last week when I had my little mental breakdown.. but I'm back on and I am as calm and happy as a clam - even with this crazy week swirling around me.

My staff bought me a $200 gift certificate to a great clothing boutique yesterday - how adorable! They just love me.. I just love them. It was to say how proud of me they are for going through this whole mess I am going through right now and losing, now 13 pounds! The new me - new duds... yeah!

Well.. I will check in with everyone later... sorry I can't post to everyone individually right now.. gotta go check on little sickie princess then bolt off to meet with my bookkeeper...

But I love youy all and am VERY proud of EVERYONE!!!

xoxoxoxoxoxo

MM

[meditation mama]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Liv~

1. I feel angry that ___
2. I feel sad that ___
3. I feel afraid that ____
4. I feel guilty that ___
5. I feel grateful that ___
6. I feel happy that ___
7. I feel secure that ___
8. I fee proud that ___

Putting them in my notebook in my purse... Sometimes I get stuck... this will help...

:bow

MM

[wonderworld]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Good Morning!!!!

MM - I think the tryptophan is awesome (and I got the Source Naturals one you recommended). I'm going to keep it up too. That is SOOOOO sweet that your spa ladies gave you that gift certificate. wow. I'm not surprised that they love you!


Barbeeflower - I'm right here silly! Yes - no more dread and overwhelm (for me too please). Hows your cleanse going? Glad hubby is expressing his gratitude. Good HH .
You have been paddling REALLY hard Boot, swimming against the current - AL, your health, career changes, it's all enormous, but I FEEEEEEEL the energy momentum tic, tic, tic, building, turning, growing, getting ready to FLOW BABY FLOW!!!!! This time next year, you will be blissfully surfing the tops of those currents on your super cherry Barbie board.

I think (hope) we will see Believe here soon!! "Coming.... to a thread near you.......just close your eyes and .......... BELIEVE!!!" Let's bang the drum, maybe he will hear!!! BONG BONG BONG BONG (wait, am I smoking weed? )

Good morning Liv and Thankful and Kate and Believe and Mya and Buckle and Noelle and BHOG and anyone else who might stop by!!!! Love you guys!!!!

WW xx (one hour late for my shower. dirty bird.)

[KateH1]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Good Morning, Dear Friends!

Yesterday was a mixed bag for me.......my daughter and I had an appointment with a new client, we own our own Interior Design business........everything went great! The client loved everything we did for her and even hired us for a couple of additional services! I love working with my daughter.....we are a great team!

But, I am still very weak from this damn flu bug and I was feeling a bit down after all of the crap here.......I nearly.....stopped and bought wine!! Argh!!!! But, I didn't!! Yeah! I was still feeling a bit shaky and so, I reached out to a friend here and bless her heart!........she helped to walk me through the crisis!

The conclusion that I have come to is this, we are a huge group, from all different back grounds......commen denominater is Alcohol abuse. We never will all agree, but in the big picture, it is pretty darn amazing that things go as smoothly as they do most of the time here. Really! The other thing is this, conflict is not always a bad thing, as long as it does not become abusive. There were some here who wanted to scold anyone involved in the conflict, but, conflict and disagreement are a part of life. In the old days of drinking, I am sure that most of us dealt with conflict by drinking and pushing it under the rug. Now, we must deal with it head on!! But, at least when we deal with confict with a clear mind, the conflict gets resolved and does not linger!!!

Sorry if I was a bit long winded......just needed to get that out!!

Well, off to get some work done!
Love you Guys!!!!!
XX KateH

[Thankful]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Aww, the peace and beauty of simply worded postitive posts. Oh, how much I look forward to them.

You all sound so awesome today.

MM ~ hope princess is feeling better soon.

Kate ~ good job - no wine!! Yay!! Btw, you noticed I had your back yesterday, sis? lol

Wonder & Booties ~ you need to bottle some of the positive spirit and send it my way!

Living ~ hope you and all the "thread friends" are doing well today.

I think I spoke too soon the other day when I said I was finally starting to feel well. Bad chest congestion starting up again. Feels like my chest is on fire again. :bigcry:

Oh, well at least my mood is improving since the past few days.

Love you all. Stay strong!!

Love, Me
:l

[BELIEVE]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Hi all. I'm back!

I hit some turbulence the last couple days but I think everythings going to be ok now. It was a struggle though and I did have pretty strong cravings that drove me to reach the bottle which is bad news. The good news I guess is that it was a Kudzu bottle I reached for. So, I forgot how many days AF I am by now, but I'm still AF.

[Thankful]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Welcome back! Your words of wisdom have been missed on our little family thread.

You scared me with that "drove me to reach for the bottle" crap! Thanks for getting my heart racing!!
:H

Proud of you for staying AF. Good job!

Love, Me
:l