Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

[Beck]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Morning All,

Thanks for the encouragement. I do feel stronger today than I have in a long time. I know my response to WW's question about why I am struggling now was somewhat ...umm...flippant. I really do know that I didn't quit drinking a few years too early - that was just my addicted brain trying out yet another approach to lure me back.

MWO2 - asking for help has always been difficult for me. Sounds like you have a great group of friends.

WIP - You are right. I hesitated to post it but am glad I did. Just a very personal thing to put in a very public forum.

Okay, I'm off to do more hard stuff. I'm told it's good for me!!!

Love you all,

[wonderworld]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Good Morning!

This thread always keeps me thinking. REALLY thinking! awesome.

I agree with what WIP said Beck. ALL of my close personal relationships have changed as a result of the AF, and it's requiring constant adjustment. You reminded me of a time many years ago when I asked my mother (at the center of a dysfunctional family nightmare) why she wouldn't go to a therapist for some help. She said she didn't want to go because she was afraid she would find out that she hates everybody (! and she "has no recollection" of saying it of course :H). She was afraid that clarity could mean losing her family somehow or make it all just too intolerable and she wouldn't be able to keep it together. I totally get that.

Anyway - I'm sitting with a few things right now that make my gut pretty squirmy too. But I KNOW that if I keep walking, one AF foot in front of the other, and do my best, whatever wisdom I need will be revealed in time. Sounds like you're on that track too Beck.

And I tell myself this old line.........

"When God closes one door, he opens another...........but it's hell in the hallway!! "


And hey hey mwo2! That does sound like a really fun night. And all the support, and the car, well..... that's just SWEEEEET !!!!. Hope you get yer Cutlass cruisin again - sounds like she's your baby :h


Hope everyone has a great day-

WW xox

[startingover]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Hello everyone. I have reached day 31 today so just wanted to say Hi

[KateH1]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Congratulations Starting Over!! Woo Hoo 31 days is fantastic and the beginning of your new life! It will be great having you on the Non-Drinker thread!

WW, sorry to hear that you are dealing with some tough stuff today, but you are dealing with it sober!

As for relationships changing when we live AF. Absolutely they do! My relationships within my family are so much better. I attribute that to me no longer trying to hid my hangovers and the fact that I was drinking. Some friends I no longer see, no falling out, no official ending, just sort of a drifting away. Quite honestly, I no longer care to meet up for happy hour or go to drinking lunches. Dave still enjoys a beer or a cocktail.....that, does not bother me a bit. He has always been a moderator, he know when to stop. He is never drunk. Drinking is my problem not his. For the first 3 months or so of my going AF, he did not drink around me, his choice. I did appreciate his support and consideration.

Have a good day all!
Kate

[startingover]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Thank you Kate, it certainly does feel like the beginning of my new life. For the first time in years (i think) I get those feelings of true happiness that don't come from anything but me!! My hubby is very supportive too, he still drinks but much less now only Sat and Sun evenings instead of daily as we used to. I don't think he has the same problems with al as I do. He can drink a lot but he is equally happy to go out without it. Also, I have never seen him in the states that I used to get :H I cannot believe the difference in me in such a short time. I REALY DO NOT WANT TO LOSE THIS.

[A Work in Progress]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Congratulations, S.O.!!!! What a great way to start the weekend!!

best wishes,

wip

[mwo2]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Yahoo!! My car got fixed, I will be Cutlass Cruisin for awhile ( fingers crossed)... crazy how the "cheaper" fix makes me so happy
My girlfriend assured me that her other car would always be available for a loaner if need be, that is a gift that doesn't need to be unwrapped. So I will walk my AF feet one foot at a time(love that WW) to go get it, 2 miles takes care of part of my workout, already did a bunch of big ball work, sit ups and such.

This al go round didn't have drinking buddies, just me. But looking forward to nuturing the relationships with my friends that I have as I will be "out" in the real world.


My one day off today til next weekend so enjoyed sleeping in but must go shower and go get my wheels!


WIP - Had a great visual of you on this big bird perch in the coffee shop:H Hope you can get on line at home soon, picture on the couch with your feet up! Glad that you make the effort to go get online somewhere else though!

and Beck "that was just my addicted brain trying out yet another approach to lure me back." Going to put that one in my memory bank it's one that I am sure I will need..

Thanks for all the sharing posts, they really do have meaning and impact in my life.

Type to ya later,
mwo2

[mwo2]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Starting over...yeah you!!!! :wave::clapclap::clapping2:

[startingover]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Thanks WIP. I enjoy my weekends now.

MWO - pleased to hear about your car.

[startingover]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

MWO - our posts crossed - Thank you !

[Thankful]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Hello, my darling AF buddies!

Startingover ~ Welcome! Congrats on day 31!! Awesome job! Looking forward to hearing more about you.

WW ~ I can so relate to what your mother means about possibly hating everyone. I so feel like that about my siblings. I wish I didn't. I might have mentioned this before, so sorry if I repeat. The reason I can relate to what your mom felt is because over 10 years ago I purchased the entire Tony Robbins - 30 Day Program. For those not familiar, it's a program that will help you improve your entire life on a number of different levels. Well, just about all of the tapes are still in plastic because by the time I got to tape number 3 or 4, he strongly stated that you had to get rid of negative people in your life. People that blocked your success in anyway or dragged you down. You get the point. It scared me for days. I couldn't think straight because I knew that meant most of my family. Problem now is that they are even worse than what they were 10 yrs ago. I have been telling myself that I need to listen to those tapes now, but still can't bring myself to do it. I really did enjoy everything else he said and I am sure the program would be great. Just a little apprehensive. Part of me says, go ahead and listen to them. At least I know what to expect at that level and it won't hit me like a ton of bricks like before. I think about the program everyday, so I know I am getting braver. A lot of gibberish there just to tell you that I understand what you mom meant! :H

Well, I hope you are all having a great day.

Love to all ~
Me
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[Beck]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Startingover, Well Done!!! and Welcome.

WW - You know I have been finding lately that if I just take care of me (AF) things just fall into place. Until the drinking crept up I was always very intuitive - beginning to hear my intuitive voice again. I too believe the answers will be there when I need them and may come from an unexpected source. Sorry you've got stuff that is making you uncomfortable.

Thankful, be brave - listen to the tapes - you know you want to seriously now, you will know when it is time.

Be well everyone,

[A Work in Progress]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

yes mwo2, fluffing my feathers, squawking, trying to bite the other customers, demanding more espresso, and throwing my bird seed all over the place... (do owls do that? sounds more like a parrot, doesn't it?).... I know that coffee shop will be glad when all this is fixed!

wip

[Thankful]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

WIP ~ I'm not sure what your logging in problems are, but I fixed a few of my chat issues by changing browsers. I noticed that when I was housing sitting for my Aunt that I never had a problem logging into chat. But I could never access the updated version of it when I was home. I had a few other minor problems also.

I downloaded Mozilla/Firefox (which is free). Once I started using this web browser, the chat problems disappeared. I have always had the most recent Java Script, but there is something about the Java console that Mozilla utilizes that seems to have just "fixed" my problem. Here's a direct link.

Mozilla | Firefox web browser & Thunderbird email client

I have no idea if this will even help, but it might be worth a try. Good luck!

Love, Me
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[mwo2]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

WIP - Well no it wouldnt be bird seed...it would be owl pellets! :H My kids and I used to check those out when we lived on a huge ranch in Oklahoma....we would find entire skeletons of the little mousies that the owl had had for lunch! Coffee shop pro. wouldnt like that!