Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

[Izzi]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

That's wonderful, I'm just getting started and can't wait until I have such an accomplishment!

[LVT25]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Thanks guys!! Mine is def a "hardware" issue. I think while we were gone, the guys residing the house unbolted the dish to side under it!!! Ooops! $95 to re-align it! :upset:

Izzie--learn from my mistakes and be sure to go at least 30 days AF before youtry to drink in moderation--I hope you've read the book--it's awesome!

[LVT25]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

I have to watch my little green light and when it's on, I might have about 5 minutes......then out it goes!!

[mwo2]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

To infinity and beyond.......

phew...had to have my friend here get this thread to the top !!!


Hope your little green light is on and staying bright for you LTV.

Livingfree - still throwingt that computer away:H

It is so odd how the computer has become such a thing for me this summer. I guess not odd, but I have never and I mean never gone online and been in a group before. This place has so helped me make this the summer of the new me. I am starting to feel some trepidation in regards to the end of summer. My kids will be back on Monday and my free time will be no more. So I need to start thinking about staying in touch in smaller amounts of time. Also I am so FIRM with my kids about where they go online, what they do when online and the dangers of becoming friends with online people. The predator factor is huge. So while I don't want to be secretive, I will probably read and post at night after they have gone to bed, and before they get up in the morning. That is one thought. The other thought being, although we have never verbalized my drinking, most I did when they were gone, but there were those times...I do know that they are aware. Have been left a couple of notes and did have a conversation with one daughter, said I was wrong, wouldnt do again. uuggh , cringing now. Anyway the other thought being talk to them about it and how I have a support group that I have joined based on mwo book and the supps and cds. Or say that I have joined a support group to help me make healthy choices in my life. They do know that I am drinking carrot juice w/ allone and am working out and that I listen to a cd to help me when I sleep.
Thoughts, thoughts, thoughts...I am listening....

Gratitiude and Love
mwo2

[A Work in Progress]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Hi, mwo2, I do understand the "cringing," even though I don't have kids... I have "been there" with friends, and it is awful even at that level. With kids... worse. BUT my strong preference and suggestion about this question is always to be as open as possible about this stuff, because to treat it as a secret is to treat it as shameful... and that gives the kids a poor understanding of you, and of alcohol abuse... and it also keeps you (in your own mind), at least to some extent, in a place of shame. I would suggest the "support group for healthy living, including choices about alcohol, nutrition, and exercise." And telling them (and showing them) that it is actually a lot of work to establish and maintain health and wellness is a good thing... watching you take all these steps will be something that makes them feel safe and secure (Mom is going to be OK!) although of course they will probably never say anything... they will absorb the lesson. So your online sessions can be billed as something akin to "homework" for your "course in healthy living," as opposed to "playing online."

wip

[Beck]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Hi MWO2, I don't know how old your kids are but mine are daughters are 15,13,12 and 7. the only thing I would add is that your kids probably know more than you think they do about your drinking and if you tell them your on-line time is solely about alcohol, they will tell their friends. I can just imagine my 13 year old telling one of her friends - "I'm sorry I couldn't email you last night my mom was online with her alcohol support group". And while there's no shame in it, your kids friends might not be coming around as often.

WIP, you are beginning to make me really uncomfortable which I suppose is not entirely bad.

[livingfree]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Beck;383104 wrote: I can just imagine my 13 year old telling one of her friends - "I'm sorry I couldn't email you last night my mom was online with her alcohol support group". And while there's no shame in it, your kids friends might not be coming around as often.

LOL - this is too funny. My kids are in their early 20's, but I can hear them at that age .... What a hoot.

I'm trying to catch up on all the great reading here. Some great stuff. Since I had to go back and read an entire weeks worth of posts ... I won't reply to all ... but GREAT STUFF.

Believe - you have really grown little bro. I am amazed at your mind set and your ability to express yourself. I honestly think you will turn out to be our "true" modder. I think your getting a grip on this at your "younger" age is a key factor ... although I was 37 when I had a 8 1/2 month AF run ... and thought I could mod - and never stopped again until this year. So it's to late for me to even THINK about EVER modding - but I am so glad to see it can be done. You just keep remembering "BUTTER". :H

Beck - I am SO glad your guardian angle came to your rescue in the store. Wow. These lessons are so valuable in your new tool box!!

LVT - hang in here baby! Maybe your internet and mine are on the same wave! I am back in business - and still don't know what happened. Maybe it was MY guardian angle keeping me from a response I WANTED to make to a post last week ... I am learning how to control my "rackets" (a great tool I learned at a LANDMARK forum).

Speaking of Rackets .... WW & Thankful - I can totally hear what you are saying with your Mom/Family. I think our families can teach us so much about the mind set of aging and relating to life. We need to take what we love and hold it in our hearts ... and let go of the rest. Thankful - I really don't think you need to take Tony Robbins literal from the "ridding" your family. I think He teaches how to "let go" in a healthy way and build a "bridge" to those negative people in your life without letting it "change you". YOU change and then they don't affect you in a negative way. You might be a great candidate for the Landmark education. Look it up on line. I went through the first class back in May and it was the turning point on my mind set with drinking, my life, etc. I am going to the advanced class next.

More rackets: Kate you spoke my mind when you said "it pisses me off when people come here looking for attention and sympathy when they BLAST those of us who are not drinking. I really believe everyone needs support, love, advise, and even sympathy ... BUT when it comes in the form of "you guys love some and not others" - I beg to differ. What is really hard it coming on a site and having some success with the program and then becoming an "outsider" because you are accused of discriminating those who are not successful. I wouldn't be on this site if I didn't want to help others while I am still "trying to do it myself". This has been the HARDEST thing I have ever done in my life - yet the most rewarding, successful, learning, growing experience. Since MWO IS THE FOUNDATION of my daily sober life -- It makes me really sad to get blasted for it. With that said ...........

I love and welcome all comments - in the open - as this is where I've learned my most valuable lessons here. When everything is done in a "PM" - people are not able to learn from mistakes, mis-steps etc. I learn the most from some of what we are all calling "drama". During my early sobriety I stayed sober BECAUSE of reading the drama/issues ...

Ok - enough ... But I (like Believe) think it's healthy to stand firm and not roll over and be beat up. Being sober has made me love being able to express myself with a clear head ... which gives me a "clear conscience" when I am able to express myself without Alcohol speaking for me ... which I always ended up with "regrets".

No regrets here - I love you all and I love the activity on this thread. (xxxxx to ALL that post here.)


It's going to be a 'busy' weekend with family in town. So I will put on my armor and be ready for anything!!

Love to all my mwo cyber family.

Liv

[LVT25]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

GREEN LIGHT--GO!!!

Hi everybody!! Still waiting for satellite repair man to call/show up. I have a feeling it might be awhile since he and I "didn't hit it off" when he installed the satellite in the first place. Maybe more on that when I have more "time".

Liv, I like what you said about sticking up for yourself. I HATE conflict--the codependent in me I guess. When I see drama, or disagreements here, I kinda cringe and just keep reading. I will say, I think some things perhaps get taken out of context at times here. Or we take offense to something that wasn't intended to offend. Someone mentioned that it is hard to tell how something is "said" when you can't read body language, tone of voice, etc. I say this because I've read comments that obviously were offensive to someone, and I didn't see it that way. Make sense??

Anyway, I am also learning from life, it's a new journey for me, I want the rest of my life on earth to be the best it can be. It's up to me to.

Have a great day everyone. "See you next time my green light comes on." :h

[Determinator]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!

[LVT25]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Ok, now the codependent in me is worried I said something wrong!??!?@!

My green light has been on all day! Maybe I won't have to see Hector after all!!:H

Looks like the timing was good though. Missed some BS I guess.

Hope everyone is doing well. I am starting to feel more comfortable socializing. The kids and I went out to an event last night. There was a lot of great food, normally I would have drank instead of eating. This time I ate instead of drank (al). It felt great!!!! I feel great!!!

Thanks everybody!!:h

[Izzi]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

That's great, it gives me somehing to look foward to

wonderworld;269271 wrote: Hey Kids-

Since I passed that 30 mark, I have been aware that all of you are out there in the 30 to 60 group too (and maybe there are others!?!?!). While I am not really focused on my day-to-day count this time (I am a non-drinker ), 60 days feels like the next benchmark and I like having that as a gentle goal.

So I just wanted to say hi - and touch base with my day mates. Everyobody okay?


wonder xx

[livingfree]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Hi! Long weekend - but good - just dropping a hello in. LVT - you haven't said anything wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I loved your post --- Thanks!

Love to you all! WW - "day mate" turning into "night mate" :l

Have a great weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeek (Det)

[mwo2]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Hiya All,

So went grocery shopping today, kids coming back tomorrow, yahoo!
Have not done that kind of shopping all summer, ouch....my pocketbook is still in pain....but I did very good as far as keeping my better eating habits in mind as I shopped...the kids are in for a little surprise! We do a good job of balanced meals, except for breakfast, so no more sugar cereal or oatmeal for them...homemade from now on.... they do like eggs also going to make better protein balanced with fruit, grains etc... and no more boxes at night...mac n ch... etc going to do it fresh... Anyway I am excited picking them up in the morning and going to be one heck of an AF MOM !! Will talk to them about my new healthy lifestyle and ALL the components in it !

Gratitude and Love in me,
mwo2

[Beck]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

MWO2, Sounds great. Your kids will benefit so much from the new you. One of the best things that has happended since I got sober is that my kids no longer ask me if I am going to participate in family outings, etc. - they just assume I will. (I used to bag out to drink or to recover). Being present is such a gift. My kids always thought I was a good Mom - but now I know I am.

One thing that I have learned recently is that I may have been able to get sober for my kids, I am going to have to stay sober for me. When my kids were away those 2 weeks, my world just sort of tilted and I allowed myself to get way to close to the edge of the abyss. Much better now...making adjustments.

Hi Liv, Det, LTV and all

[Determinator]

Day 31 and Beyond: Hello, I'm a non-drinker

Beck, so glad you recognized your feelings and are maintaining that awareness/consciousness.

MWO2, as a fellow foodie I heartily concur on the "real food" plan. bravo!!

a wise soul once advised when shopping at the grocery store to only buy things your great grandparents would have recognized as food. hmmmmmmm....