Meanwhile, my father has no idea my Mom is getting married, and what he has left of his memory thinks they are still married. He misses her. But while he was well and drinking, he was abusive. Financially, it looks like a heavy chunk of the care will fall on me and my husband, and my older brother. Its very, very stressful.
I am not sure why I shared this other than I feel very compelled to share with others in this battle, that one day our children will have a "meeting" without us present to discuss our fate. I personally want to plan for my future and my children so that they do not have to go through what I am going through. My father left us nothing but a demented self, and we now have to figure out how to skim off our children's college funds, our personal savings, etc.
This has been painful, but very thought provoking. I just encourage us all to think long term.... what will the choices we make today affect the outcome twenty years from now. I'm dealing with the twenty year affect of someone who cared first and foremost about his drinking, and forgot about us. Now we as children are paying his tab.
Sorry to whine... better to whine on paper than wine on my own!
Love you guys,
P4T
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