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    What do you think we'd use if Alcohol wasn't avaible

    Hello to everyone--This is my first post & sort of scared of posting---My mind & my thoughts often go back to when I was a child & going thru difficult situations & trying to deal with them---I was to young to drink but probably would have like to have had one or something to ease the pain----I'm wondering if it could be possible that our DNA could contribute to our problem of addiction...There must be a reason why some can drink a few & some cannot----I think it would be worth a study----We always seem to blame one thing or the other but, What if it is in our Genes? I'm not trying to make lite of alochol & the abuse of Alcohol but, something just doesn't fit....I remember when I was younger & seeing a Dr he said that I was a potential aolchol... Frankly, I nerver understood his comments but,it always bothered me---But here I am today an Alcoholic..I know that even if any of this is true I still need to take charge if I want to be AF ....My big question is what do you or anyone think of how we may have dealt with stress & dificult times in our life when alcochol wasn't available( what do you think might have been your self rescuse....
    I just think it is sad if we have a pre-disposition to have this--I don't think it is any different from the other diseases that we each face except this one is self destructable..I don't think or can image that others with other diseases feel the great whelm of shame that we feel--I feel like I have way over expressed my feelings here but, this is what goes thru my mind everday --my question is--- If there was no alchohol & it wasn't a staple in our lives . what do you tnink you would have turned to----be gently please LOL thanks for listening
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    What do you think we'd use if Alcohol wasn't avaible

    Good morning
    For me the simpler treats in life like chocs , going for a walk, listening to music may have sufficed!!!!!!!

    I tried and stuck with alcohol as i wanted to be "accepted" and i nearly ended up "unacceptable".

    If nobody was drinking and I wasnt either maybe we would be in a i more peaceful stae of mind ideally speaking.

    However i feel people will always find a mind altering substance to use for relaxtion/escapism/ or whatever their agenda.

    i dont think change is impossible for anybody..and I,m not suggesting its easy to stop the booze.

    The evidence on this site is that people who have had the most horrendous experiences caused by alcohol have made fantastic changes in their lives. Many have discussed genetic predisposition etc but still by following this programme and mutual support considerably changed their thoughts and action in relation to booze.

    So Glad you posted and I wish you good Luck.


    Regards Cassy

    So glad you have posted


    i wish you well with your personal journey

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      #3
      What do you think we'd use if Alcohol wasn't avaible

      Hi Queenie! Great first post! I think you will get lots of response to this....Its a good question. But one i can not really answer. I sometimes think i drink because i am weak. I have trouble stopping when i start!!! I don't have alcoholism in my family history so who knows if it is in the genes. Maybe i have started the troublesome gene!!!LOL

      If there was no alcohol for me to hide behind, i may have got addicted to drugs i suppose. I do so love the high that A brings and the big high that coke brings!!! The problem with Alcohol is...it is soooo socially acceptable. But when someone leans on it too much, society is quick to shun you. It sucks!!

      Anyway, wish i had more time right now to say more but.......you have set me thinking.....

      post again, Bella xxx

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        What do you think we'd use if Alcohol wasn't avaible

        Hi Queenie,

        A child going through difficult situations is a risk for risky behaviour, period. Not your fault and not necessarily genetics that made you turn to alcohol. I am in the same boat, which is why I have "atypical" (lifelong) depression. Our brains were being formed during trauma, stress, an unhealthy environment, whatever.....it's a risk....somethings gotta give, ya know?

        What else would we use, maybe sex? I know I am fearful of doing anything illegal so I overdo it in the sex and alcohol department, I also enjoy a few prescription medications, one that is addictive and I can honestly say I have never abused it.

        We are looking for an escape, that's JMHO. I always feel like I want to run away even though I love my family sometimes I just can't deal with them. I need to be stronger and I'm working on it everyday.


        :welcome:


        Myheart
        Patience has its limits. Take it too far, and it's cowardice.
        - George Jackson

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          What do you think we'd use if Alcohol wasn't avaible

          Hi Bella & all---thanks for your response----I guess what I am really getting out of the forums is the honesty-----that to me is the most substancial (ms) effect we will ever know----Here's what I'm feeling is that your guys have been born & raised but you feel maybe you don't have any direction----that's understandable so don't freak out !!!!!!! I am very distrubed ( mentally yes too) but more than that----I think when we pass thru the mentality test we have learned a new venture of a good life in america....Don't let life cheat you !!!!,,,But no matter what we all try to think , the government wants us to have insurance & to be somewhat healthy. Who are they di8ctate our lives & make us feel like we are just a piece of shit.. sorry, but I just read my comment & it sucked------
          I do have a lot of feelings but I guess I'm just not being connected-----

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            What do you think we'd use if Alcohol wasn't avaible

            sorry but, I'm very sad right now----I just can't seem to connect to anyone ----

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              #7
              What do you think we'd use if Alcohol wasn't avaible

              [I] know my heart I just can't find a connecctio----

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                #8
                What do you think we'd use if Alcohol wasn't avaible

                Hi again Queenie! I hope you are okay and that you find this site useful to you....give it a chance and you will find there are lots of people here who will understand. Bella xxxx

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                  What do you think we'd use if Alcohol wasn't avaible

                  Queenie,

                  It will take some time and maybe a lifetime to sort out what's driving your need for AL. You are currently connected to AL because AL is so good at erasing those feelings of stress, self-doubt, anger and disappointment we all have to deal with on a daily basis. AL brings us together with others who enjoy AL's company for the same reason and we become connected, even hard wired to that wonderful euphoria of an emotionally care free existence. For those few hours, days, weeks, years, AL numbs out our accountability to those feelings as we slide along through life. Those highs are high and the lows are low.

                  Going AF is not a picnic and for me I have to now face and come to terms with all those feelings, emotions, fears and desires that have been swept away for so long by AL. Having an AF buddy mentor has helped me immensely. I have connected with his sobriety and the meaning of hope it has brought me. MWO and everyone here provides support and contrast to the experiences I am currently going through.

                  I even connect with you and your struggle, it really has meaning for me in my awareness of my own. You are in the right place at the right time, connect with it, you will be glad you did. PM me if need be, it will be OK.

                  Jay :welcome:
                  Is Addiction Really a Disease?
                  Watch this and find out....
                  http://youtu.be/ekDFv7TTZ4I

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                    What do you think we'd use if Alcohol wasn't avaible

                    ditto!!!

                    Just what "he said!" I agree w/ what 4theboyz said, stay close, stick w/ it and you can beat this thing...........you will find help here on the boards as I have..........only 12 days for me (GOD willing if I make it through today, which I am determined to do!) but it has been a promising 12 days, as I am using ALL my tools, MWO, AA, counseling and books..........along w/ exercise, and now Yoga!! WOW, it really works if you want it to...........


                    Good luck Queenie!!:goodluck:

                    Hope to see you around alot here!

                    MA:l
                    :rays:My happiness is my greatest gift to others:rays:eace:

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                      What do you think we'd use if Alcohol wasn't avaible

                      Since quiting alcohol I've gained 10 lbs-so food!
                      I'm trying to replace it now with exercise and healthy eating. It's getting close to bathing suit season!

                      Congrats on your first post! Keep posting/reading and you'll find yourself connecting with everyone sooner than you know it!
                      :flower: Change a life; make someone feel important. ................. ........................ ..................... ........................ ................. ....... sigpic

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                        #12
                        What do you think we'd use if Alcohol wasn't avaible

                        I honestly can't see anything wrong witht the sex idea. As long it is with hubby ... or yourself:H
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                        Thoughts become things..... choose the good ones. ~TUT

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                          #13
                          What do you think we'd use if Alcohol wasn't avaible

                          Did somebody say sex!!!
                          Is Addiction Really a Disease?
                          Watch this and find out....
                          http://youtu.be/ekDFv7TTZ4I

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                            #14
                            What do you think we'd use if Alcohol wasn't avaible

                            Hi Queenie...believe it or not, you ARE connecting. Just keep posting and then post some more. We're listening.
                            Noelle sez "Do want you like, like what you do. Life is Good."

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                              What do you think we'd use if Alcohol wasn't avaible

                              4thboyz - you are such a man! LOL
                              Noelle sez "Do want you like, like what you do. Life is Good."

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