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[tlrgs]

what do you fear the most about not drinking

the pros and cons

this will help us all to understand alot more about ourself
so is anyone up to it challenge

[universal]

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I fear the questions of "why are you not drinking?" I fear the stigmatism of "oh, she is an alcoholic, she can't drink because she can't control it", I fear the social stigmatism that follows..........

that is my fear.......

[Ripple]

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its been too much work with sleeping, eating and emotions. so staying away from alcohol for me is gonna be fine. i tell people, i don't drink anymore....simple. not that i will not ever drink again, don't know. for now until the shit clears, i stay AF. no fears, until all my work is done, then watch out, off come the clothes. :H

[FallenAngel]

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tlrgs;293876 wrote: what do you fear the most about not drinking

I feared many things when I first quit drinking...basically, how the hell was I going to cope with what life threw at me without a drink in my hand. That included the confusion of how one relaxes at the end of the day..... to how I handle social events...... to how I was going to face all the emotions that I had bottled up inside.

But as the months started to pass by, the biggest thing I have seen is that FEAR is no longer controlling my actions like it used to.... and all its companions such as anger, resentment, & hostility have also lost their front row seat.

I see now that my alcohol addiction needed to keep me in fear's clutches so that I thought it was the only thing I had to help cope with life. A deception I have lived with for most of my life..... but no longer.

[morrison]

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Simple. Relapse. I'm worried that years down the road, I'll relapse and go through all the horrible shit again. That fear will probably always be there. Maybe that is a good thing.

[Prest4time]

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FallenAngel,
You worded exactly how I feel. I am afraid of life without it. I am afraid of who I really am without alcohol on some sort of a regular basis, even a moderating level.

Morrison, I think that is a universal fear with all of us... we never want to go back to square one.

Thanks for a thread where we can be honest.

P4T

[FallenAngel]

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Prest4time;293949 wrote: I am afraid of life without it. I am afraid of who I really am without alcohol on some sort of a regular basis, even a moderating level.

P4T~
and the ironic part is....what we thought would help take away our fears, was the very thing that put them there in the first place.

[Ripple]

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morrison;293942 wrote: Simple. Relapse. I'm worried that years down the road, I'll relapse and go through all the horrible shit again. That fear will probably always be there. Maybe that is a good thing.

Yes, the fear for me of the first sip....NO!

[CaptJBean]

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i fear ripple

[Croft]

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I fear that someone will know that I am a problem drinker and think less of me. That is why I hide out here and try to get better before someone finds out.

[nancy]

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Having thought about it a lot, I am not as worried about society at this point.

Since there are lots of new members now and few oldies I must push my favorite book again, EasyWay to stop drinking by Alan Carr. He really puts society's mythology in its place.(Name is sometimes Easy Way to control alcohol but don't be fooled, it's about abstinence.)

My biggest fear is lack of release from the angst and what I myself think, that I myself want to be in control.

[tlrgs]

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thank you all for your replys to this thread is there anyone else
well for now enjoy your day and be happy

[FallenAngel]

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nancy;294025 wrote:
Since there are lots of new members now and few oldies I must push my favorite book again, EasyWay to stop drinking by Alan Carr.

Hi Nancy~
Thanks for the book suggestion
I knew that Allan Carr had the book "Easy Way to Quit Smoking", but I didn't know he had one on drinking.. I will definitely look into it.... thanks!
Although I didn't read his book on smoking, I did take a free online course that is very similar to his approach. Taking that course, doing all the steps & internalizing them, made all the difference in quitting smoking.... it took me from not smoking because of sheer white-knuckling & willpower, to where I was joyous about being an ex-smoker.

[trixietrack]

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I fear becoming dependent and making AL my everything. that is why I respect the drink and don't over indulge.

[tea]

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I fear being totally boring in social situations.... but then I remember what a disgusting drunk I am and then I welcome being called boring for not drinking, and you know what - I AM NOT BORING....now!!

Lxx