Hubby quit his job

[sammys]

Hubby quit his job

Hi, I would be upset also you know he could have started looking and got some serious offers before quitting. Well now its his turn to have the house in tip top shape, dinner made for you.

Hows that???

Sammys

[Victory]

Hubby quit his job

Open ears and heart please

Hart dear, it?s very clear to me that hubby is struggling with his own issues and hasn?t spoken to you about it. As you know by now, that is a man thing. Not a good idea to smack him in the head, [not that you said you would] he needs help. Ask him how he really feels, then take a seat, you may be shocked. If you love him? Your ears and heart will be totally open to his pain. Love to you Aunty Vic :h

[IAD]

Hubby quit his job

Hart...!
So sorry to hear this. I loved my job....worked at it for 35 years. The last year of my tenurer was pure hell. ( The bad part about it was I did'nt even know it.) My mother and wife both told me that thier was a big change in me. I was lucky...I could retire...and I did. I feel so much better. This does nothing for you problem, though ! I have told my children that unless you like what your doing, your 2nd job would be to look for another job. You must tolerate the abuse until you have something else !
Your husband not talking to you about leaving a job....I just don't understand that ! Does he have any prospects. Even when I retired, I had prospects. wheater I act on it is my call.
Hope you can work this out....Keep posting....Let us know how we can help ! IAD

[Determinator]

Hubby quit his job

Hart, you will overcome! you are smart and resourceful. Wishing you the very bestest

[lucky 2.0]

Hubby quit his job

I think Joe is getting an Ass Whoopin tonight, as he should!

[IAD]

Hubby quit his job

Lucky...
I was trying to be graceful when I posted my last thread, but to tell you the truth......I would'nt come home anytime soon if I were him....things will be flying and your not going to need an Exocist to take care of the problem...IAD

[lucky 2.0]

Hubby quit his job

IAD,

I hope Joe is as smart as you, but I have my doubts.

[Not Happy Hour-Happy Life]

Hubby quit his job

Hart~
Thinking of you and hoping all is well :groupluv:.... hug that pup for me!

[MyHeartIsDrenchedInWine]

Hubby quit his job

hart;298513 wrote:
I feel sick. That's my way, I may get angry then the anger seems "wrong" and it turns to depression. I feel numb. I feel sick. He already bought me beer..........yes, I'm going to drink. Yes that is not mature........

Hart,

He is not mature! What grown adult quits their job without checking with their spouse? I've been through your thought patterns myself and the therapists advice to me was "get mad", just stay assertive and not aggressive.....that will help. Stop the "anger feels wrong". Why does it feel wrong?....because you deserve to be treated like crap?....I don't think so.


Good luck my dear :h



Myheart

[tea]

Hubby quit his job

Oh Hart, I'm so sorry for you. We all feel like walking out of our jobs at times, many times lately I wished I had the means to just put my coat on, stick my two fingers up and go home BUT unfortunately like the majority of people I work because I need the money... I know you will be in shock but could you consider emptying your bank account if it is joint? Cutting off his supply of cash so he is unable to 'treat' you and himself to beer or any other 'luxury' goods that he could only afford while employed might shake him up, also having to ask you for cash might shame him into realising what he has done.

Don't get me wrong please, if he had 'lost' his job that is a completely different situation to choosing to just leave and obviously just expect without any thought your partner to 'keep' you while you look around for something else, wouldn't it be lovely to just have that choice...... sorry to sound hard but I have had this done to me also........ hope you feel the strength I am sending you to be in control of this.

Lxx

[hart]

Hubby quit his job

Thanx everyone so much. It's 3 am in the morning and after tossing and turning for hours I've given up trying to sleep. Joe, he's sleeping like a baby. LOL Oh well. I found his old resume I had him do for the gvmt, and now I have the regular resume I updated the other day for him. I can't find where he stored the old one so I have to type it all up. Oh well, keeping me ocuppied. Joe said he would work on his KSA's (knowledge skills and apptitudes) for the gvmt job opening I found him, before I knew he was going to up and quit.

We did drink last nite. I didn't scold him. I told him I understood his unappreciated at his job but I wish he could have waited until he had another job. He kept saying how understanding I am.

As I wrote, I have a pattern. I initially have a hot anger when bad things occur, then feel guilty for my anger, then settle into a depression. Knowing this and stopping this pattern is two different things.

I thank you all for your kinds words and support. It really means a lot and THOSE AREN'T WORDS. I mean them.

On a lighter note, even though we can't afford her now, Wendy is ours and we are going to pick her up Friday. It will take about five or six hours to get to Seattle, pick her up and another five or six hours to get home. So Joe won't be drinking all day Friday, nor will I.

I hope I can sleep better tonite, because I'm sure I'll need to spell Joe on some of the driving.....and I do enjoy hiway driving anyway.

We are not going to Ireland this year. Even if Joe gets a job right away (PLEASE), he would have no vacation time accrued. And I have a feeling he will have a stop gap job at best. But I could be wrong. This could be the best thing that could have happened to us. But right now, it's hard to see.

Again, thanx. :thanks::l

[Flyboy]

Hubby quit his job

New Start

Hi Hart,Sorry to hear about Joe. Well here is a wild one for you!! You have to first look at your situation and if you think your income will cover for awhile talk to Joe about using
this time to go AL free,kill the monster!Then get back into life the way it was supposed to be without the drug!!

The best to you!! Just kick my ass if you don't like !! Jeff

[hart]

Hubby quit his job

Now how am I suppose to be able to kick a bee's ass? I talked to Joe. I said with him out of work we really can't afford the money we spend on beer. He said what do I want to do. I said let's go AF, he said fine tonite? I said yes. So if we don't go AF tonite it's on me. It makes total sense to quit at this time. I also know unlike the usual times I go AF and can't sleep, with the lack of sleep I have I should fall to sleep easily tonite.

We'll see. Thanx Jeff, and everyone.:thanks:

[keeta]

Hubby quit his job

Hart,
I just now caught this thread.
As I began reading, I became worried about how your evening might unfold.
As I caught up, even though you both drank, it seems that even though things are not all coming up roses, it went as well as could be expected.
I am glad for you that there was no fighting. You really took the high road here, and should be proud of yourself! Good job, girl!

I am sorry he up and quit without atleast explaining what has been going on with him at work. (why do men hate to share feelings so much?????)
I hope everything works out in the end. Sometimes forced change is good...a change we might not be brave enough to impliment if we thought it through!
You are in my thoughts, and I can't wait to hear all about your newest family member!

much love and hugs,
K

[Shikakai]

Hubby quit his job

I'm glad you're okay, Keeta... you had many people scared last night... we know the road is paved with rocks, but stay with us and the path should smooth out, hon...

Now, let me go see what dear Hart has to say.