Hubby quit his job

[Shikakai]

Hubby quit his job

IAD;298840 wrote: Hart...!
So sorry to hear this. I loved my job....worked at it for 35 years. The last year of my tenurer was pure hell. ( The bad part about it was I did'nt even know it.) My mother and wife both told me that thier was a big change in me. I was lucky...I could retire...and I did. I feel so much better. This does nothing for you problem, though ! I have told my children that unless you like what your doing, your 2nd job would be to look for another job. You must tolerate the abuse until you have something else !
Your husband not talking to you about leaving a job....I just don't understand that ! Does he have any prospects. Even when I retired, I had prospects. wheater I act on it is my call.
Hope you can work this out....Keep posting....Let us know how we can help ! IAD

No one would work if that were the case :H

Congrats on your retirement, IAD... you are VERY lucky!

If I never had had to work, I probably wouldn't have become an alchi.

[KateH1]

Hubby quit his job

[QUOTE=hart;298966]Thanx everyone so much. It's 3 am in the morning and after tossing and turning for hours I've given up trying to sleep. Joe, he's sleeping like a baby. L

We did drink last nite. I didn't scold him. I told him I understood his unappreciated at his job but I wish he could have waited until he had another job. He kept saying how understanding I am.

As I wrote, I have a pattern. I initially have a hot anger when bad things occur, then feel guilty for my anger, then settle into a depression. Knowing this and stopping this pattern is two different things.

On a lighter note, even though we can't afford her now, Wendy is ours and we are going to pick her up Friday. It will take about five or six hours to get to Seattle, pick her up and another five or six hours to get home. So Joe won't be drinking all day Friday, nor will I.

Hi Hart,

Great! He is sleeping like a baby and you are up half the night, writing his resume and finding potential employment for him. You have requested extra work hours, and you are happy that you did not confront him and he is happy that "you are so understanding?"

First off, this didn't just "Happen", Joe caused this to happen. He quit! Joe has an obligation to his son, and to you. Regardless of the trip to get the dog. Joe should not even be considering drinking all day! He should be working! Even if he needs to work at McDonalds until he finds more permanent employement. If Joe cannot give up drinking right now, in order to save money and look for employment, I think his problem with alcohol is much bigger than you want to admit.

Hart, Joe is a grown man. He has created responsibilities for himself. Taking those responsibilities on yourself and treating Joe like a child is truly not helping either of you.

And.....burying your feelings is not helping you at all! Confronting and issue and being honest about your thoughts and feelings does not make Hart a bad person.

I honestly hope that this all gets resolved soon!

XXX Kate

[Shikakai]

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That's the spirit, Hart... I really like how you and hubby are working together to get him back on his feet a nice highway drive sounds delightful. Glad it's working out, hon... no sense beating the man up... what if he leaves, perish the thought...

Anyway, things will work out just fine... good luck.

[poohbear]

Hubby quit his job

I'm sorry I kind of have to agree with Kate, he's sleeping like a baby and your up at 3 am fixing his resume??? Hart you sound so, so much like me, be the understanding one and fix things so that nobody gets too upset and the boat doesn't get too rocked. If I'm wrong please tell me. I just hate to see the fact that you were the one up in the middle of the night doing crap that HE should have been doing. He is the one that got your family into this mess, it's his mess to fix hun not yours. I know how easy it is for us to sit here and type out words to you as we are not the ones living your life, just ones trying to give you advice on how to live it. I don't want to give you advice on how to live your life, but I do hate seeing you be in worry and pain and him letting you be the one to do all the worrying. Again if I am wrong please correct me.

I do hope that you have a nice trip over to this side of the mountains although you may not find your trip totally snow free - even on this side!!!! Very strange weather we are having indeed.

Anyway hun just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you and worried about how your night went last night, glad to see that there was no fighting - right?? At least not that you've told. Let us know how the trip went and post pics of the new addition as soon as you can

thinking of you :heartsnflowers:

pbear

[hulagirl]

Hubby quit his job

wow. gas must be cheaper in Washington than in Hawaii. I know that you must go get your baby (look at ours, we flew to another island), but now you must consider all your expenses, as I'm sure you know. I hope all works out for you guys.

[scuppy & Hot Cherry]

Hubby quit his job

Oh! my dear!

This is a sad news, my prayers for U & your hubby is on its way.

hart;298484 wrote: Joe just cc: me a copy of an e-mail he sent to his boss, resigning. No talk to me first, no calling and telling me.......no, just a cc: to me.

I'm angry, upset, want to cry and hit someone at the same time. How dare he. How dare he quit a job w/o telling me.

I've been trying to be understanding. I know he is unhappy at work, but damn't be adult. This is the longest job he's ever held at four years and he's 44 years old. Everyone has times their job sucks. But you don't go quitting WITHOUT HAVING ANOTHER JOB!!!!! We have a car payment, a truck payment, a motorcycle payment, child support, house payment.

We just bought a $600 dog!!!! Do you think I would have done that if I knew Joe was gonna pull this?

I'm sick

[Thankful]

Hubby quit his job

Hart, sending you hugs, sweetie. You are a dear woman. Don't forget to take care of yourself in all of this turmoil, ok?

Good luck to you both on going AF. You deserve to this for a better life and healthier bodies (don't just make it about money issues). Keep it up. You deserve to be happy.

We are here for you.

Love, Me
:l

[Shikakai]

Hubby quit his job

poohbear;299566 wrote: I'm sorry I kind of have to agree with Kate, he's sleeping like a baby and your up at 3 am fixing his resume??? Hart you sound so, so much like me, be the understanding one and fix things so that nobody gets too upset and the boat doesn't get too rocked. If I'm wrong please tell me. I just hate to see the fact that you were the one up in the middle of the night doing crap that HE should have been doing. He is the one that got your family into this mess, it's his mess to fix hun not yours. I know how easy it is for us to sit here and type out words to you as we are not the ones living your life, just ones trying to give you advice on how to live it. I don't want to give you advice on how to live your life, but I do hate seeing you be in worry and pain and him letting you be the one to do all the worrying. Again if I am wrong please correct me.

I do hope that you have a nice trip over to this side of the mountains although you may not find your trip totally snow free - even on this side!!!! Very strange weather we are having indeed.

Anyway hun just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you and worried about how your night went last night, glad to see that there was no fighting - right?? At least not that you've told. Let us know how the trip went and post pics of the new addition as soon as you can

thinking of you :heartsnflowers:

pbear

Unfortunately, I often see this same situation where it's the wife or girlfriend who is cleaning up after the husband/boyfriend while he just kind of "does his own thing."

No disrespect to the men out there who are on the job. It seems, from what I see, to be a rarity.

I hope they have a good trip too...

[hart]

Hubby quit his job

What a weird last few days

Hi all

[memarcie]

Hubby quit his job

How are you doing Hart?

[hart]

Hubby quit his job

What a weird last few days

Hi all. Well here it was Thursday nite. Wanted to get an earlyl start to go pick up Wendy, so as I have been having trouble sleeping I took a sleeping pill at 8pm. Then....frantic call from sellers of Wendy. She mixed up dates and they sent Wendy to Seatac airport that DAY....had been sitting their since 12pm and they were going to take Wendy to Humane Society (I don't know if I believe this) if we didn't go pick her up before 12 midnite! I look at Joe....I had just taken a damn sleeping pill how was I gonna help drive. He told me let's go for it, he will drive. So, I tell lady to make SURE they hold Wendy there and get dressed (I was ready for bed) and awaaaay we go.

I slept (haven't been sleeping....) much of the way, we get to Seatac airport about 12. Run around (it's a BIG airport) to find American Airline baggage holding. It was after midnite....they were still there! Late plane. We grab Wendy and turn around and go.......Joe drove all the way although I offered to spell him.....for those who don't know, Spokane and Seattle are about 300 miles one way. So we drove 600 miles that nite. Get home about 4:30 am.

Wendy is the littlest dog I have every seen. She looks like a kitten! She's less than two pounds, and looks chubby at that 'cause she's bout 10 inches from head to bum.

I luv her already, everyone does who meets her.

Joe has been great. He's done housework, he's been so sweet, he's worked on applying for jobs.....he hates the application part, I am good at that....he rocks at interviews. I got him on Monster.com and he has several prospects......one guy wrote him to apply after viewing his resume (Laura shines knuckles against chest and blows on fingers in I rock at this) and highly encourage Joe to apply. This is a true offer, job in Spokane.

Maybe his quitting will be best thing that could happen. Just still wish he'd have waited until HAD another job, but, hey....he couldn't have drove to Seattle Thurs. nite........

Maybe things DO happen for a reason. :l

[Suzanna]

Hubby quit his job

Yes maybe things do happen for a reason. Things are looking up for you Hart, and I am so glad. Wow on the midnight run to claim your new bundle, please post a pic of Wendy. :h Suz

[memarcie]

Hubby quit his job

Hart, I'm glad to hear things may be looking up in the job department. How exciting about Wendy! I can't wait to see a pic of her!

[Shikakai]

Hubby quit his job

Yes, things DO happen for a reason!

Glad things are on the upswing, Hart... very good news and congratulations on the new addition *hugs*

[poohbear]

Hubby quit his job

I do have to say that yes you are absolutely right things DO happen for a reason we just don't always know the reason at the exact time that they happen. See you wouldn't have been able to go and get your new bundle of joy had this not happened. Glad to hear about the new job opportunity so soon. Oh and yes pls post pics of wendy asap would love to see a pic of her - what kind of pup is she?

oh and how much snow did you hit to and from? very strang weather we had here yesterday