CAN I ASK FOR SOME HONEST OPINIONS PLEASE

[Accountable for Me]

CAN I ASK FOR SOME HONEST OPINIONS PLEASE

Captnjack;314696 wrote: Now does the Tawny Frog come and shut this thred down in a splendid swoop

LOL - how very true.

[betty boop]

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I'm really annoyed about this .............

All I wanted was everyones bloody opinions ...........

[tlrgs]

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SORRY BETTY

[Beaches]

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I personally don't care what state of mind a person is in when they post as long as they are respectful to all the members.

[hart]

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((((Beaches))))

Well put! :goodjob::thanks:

[Breez]

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Accountable for Me;314670 wrote: :H WOW! Inflation, Breez? Too funny!

:H:H:H

Glad everything went well at Dr's:hijacked: just for a moment....


We are all in fact different-different walks of life, different financial situations, races, religions, ages, let's not forget sex and in different stages in either moderation or sobriety. So things can get touchy for some. Some have good days, some have bad days. Life is just like a box of chocolates....mmmm chocolates.

[stillcrawling]

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I'm new and want to learn from everyone else ... I hope to find a decent support group... I can only be open here -- yesterday while was reading and I posted once I was drinking a glass of wine ... as I prepare to become sober ... it is the reality in whch some of us live...
Liz

[sammys]

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Boop anyone who comes here asking for help like I did at one time is reaching out and anyone who reaches back to help is wonderful.


I was shall I say sick of myself, not thinking right and was so happy to find this place my life is way better now.

Sammys

[Captnjack]

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Sorry BB

[Prest4time]

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BB,
My opinion is that I think we all should be able to be vulnerable and honest here even if drinking. I remember some threads in the past where people have posted in a desperate state and almost unable to type for shaking so badly, but they needed help to get through the next 30 minutes, hour or the day. And they received wonderful support.

I think collectively as a "family" that abusive behavior should be shut down, and I also realize that a lot of times abusive behavior has happened when members were drinking, and then they later came back and apologized saying they were not in the right mind when posting. So just as we all have different ways we respond to alcohol (some get very quiet, some get slap happy silly, while others can get cruel and abusive), there is really no way to control the actions of others whether sober or drunk.

But I personally would hope that someone who was in need of help while drinking would find this site, and reach out. When I joined MWO it was late at night after making a fool of myself and realizing I could no longer continue the path I was on. I think I posted that night, but I dont remember. But it was the first step of a long, helpful journey, and I'm glad I reached out, sober or not. And I'm glad I was welcomed and found help, whether whoever helped me was sober or not.

P4T

[Accountable for Me]

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OK - I will get serious for a moment.....

"If one is so put off by someone's thread or post because they have been drinking or whatever, why does one feel compelled to reply to it??? Why not just move on and let those who want to help, reply??"

It seems pretty darn simple to me. Don't you think? If the intoxicated person takes your response the wrong way and attacks in a response back, just leave it be. (I am personally guilty of this one... I attack the attacker back in self defense.) Some thing I need to work on.

But it does seem pretty simple when you think about it. Right?

[Ripple]

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oh noo!

betty boop;314700 wrote: I'm really annoyed about this .............

All I wanted was everyones bloody opinions ...........

:upset: why on earth do you need to be upset like this? YOU wanted to further discusss, you grabbed this piece like it was an opportunity to save something, have a mint right away dear, i had one! ops: would you like to SEE :crap: that is in my BOX! :sausages: and tell me there is support here? there is shit floating here from another :toilet:bowl. Now take the mint as directed and let me know how you feel in the AM.

[LVT25]

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My opinion is, that if someone posts, especially for the 1st or 2nd time and ESPECIALLY on "The Need Help ASAP" forum, it should be answered in a supportive, caring and informative manner.

I think we all appreciate a little humor, but there is a time and place for that.

[hippie37]

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Hi Betty!!

Having empathy is useful to the newly sober person, but one needs to be aware that trying to fix someone is not often useful. Listening is the best skill we can develop and offer to each other. One of the things we need to keep in mind is that most of us are not psychiatrists, medical doctors, and marriage or relationship counselors. So my honest opinion is simply limit your well-meaning advice in areas that you are not qualified to advise people on.

There are SOME who may need reminding of this!! And a 'tough love' approach in my opinion is not useful to a struggling newcomer who is obviously under the influence; that should be reserved for those you have a history with and better understanding of their circumstances.

Love and Happiness
Hippie
xx

[tlrgs]

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see now that the negative shit we dont need. smart ass remarks . wow what happen rippy who piss you off to hate so much ... thats what am feeling from you