Days 1-30: Hello Sober Living

[KateH1]

Days 1-30: Hello Sober Living

Ollie,
There are so many statistics out there. How they are gathered and tracked can render them true of useless. Read here, many of us are living with some "Real Sobriety",proving, we can do this. No one knows what the future will bring. All we can do is continue to not drink, one day at a time, and truly work and rebuilding our personalities and our lives to remain non-drinkers. Yes, AL is a powerful nemesis.....but we can be more powerful.......we just need to work at it and outsmart AL.

Consider Not "Trying", but "Working and Comitting" to remaining sober. Remember, no Gold Medal Winner ever "Tried" to win a medal!!! Sober Living is our Gold Medal! We need to commit, train, prepare and WORK.....to own our goal!

xx Kate

[Ollie]

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I know you are right, Kate. Sometimes it just seems so daunting. I'm just feeling very overwhelmed right now.

Ollie

[Peanut]

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Hi Ollie,

What is it you are feeling overwhelmed about right now?? Is it a desire for a drink at this moment?? Or is it your fear of wanting to dink later, or tomorrow or for the rest of your life??? If it is right now - is there something you can take to stop the craving?? L-Glut?? Something?? Just take it an hour, a minute, at a time. Remember - just because there are statistics out there, doesn't mean you have to comply and become a part of them. Statistics schmatistics!!! You are not a stereotype - you are unique and different and stronger than all that!!!
Please - try to be positive - get and out run around and try to think about something else!
I'm with you!
Peanut

[Thankful]

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Hello all. I know many of you may be too new to have crossed paths with our beloved Bear, but I want to post a quote here from him.

Ollie, I hope it helps you as well as everyone else who is trying to come to grips with this battle. You must not let the negative thoughts remain in your mind. If you think you will fail then you will. So stop thinking like that!

"If I were trying to pick out a word to describe why I am able to stay sober and my cravings are gone it would be SURRENDER. Quit trying to control something, which is uncontrollable. Become a new person. Drinking is not an option for me. Nothing is more important than my sobriety. NOTHING. Everything in my life I love and cherish would once again be nothing if I were drunk again. If I have to give up my job, my house, my car, even my wife; I must not drink. If I were to start drinking I would lose them all anyway. This sobriety is the kinder gentler way."

QUOTED BY MDBIKER aka BEAR


Love, Me
:l

[jessie]

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Hi Ollie,
I'm the last one to say,(after my slip) but I truly believe that we can have victory over this beast. Just use every single tool that is available.
X Jessie

[Ollie]

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Thanks for the encouragement all. I'm tired of failing and feeling sorry for myself. I'm tired of the endless amount of Day 1s.
And I think, Thankful, that that is what has me in such an emotional state today. I'm am surrendering. I've known for a long time that I have problems with Alcohol. I always talk the talk but do not walk the walk. I'm ready to do some walking but I'm so scared I will fall.
I'm so thankful that I have you great group of people to spill all my anxieties to!

Enough about me...
Good job to everyone piling up the days. You may not know it, but you really do give a lot of people hope!

Ollie

[Peanut]

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headache

Just keep trying Ollie - it's all any of us can do.

I do have a question about the supps, if anyone can answer it. I know headaches are common when starting this program. I have been on it since May 1, with a couple days slip-up, during which I had a UTI. I stopped the supplements for a couple of days because I was concerned about everything going through my bladder, and the headache stopped. I am wonder if one of the supplements could be causing the headache. It is there almost constantly, first thing in the morning before I even open my eyes. I must take some time and look them all up individually, as there was a small info sheet with the supps when they arrived that said what possible side effect each of them could have.

Any input or ideas would be fabulous!
Off to the acupuncturist with me! Will check in later!
Peanut

[LVT25]

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Peanut--I was concerned the supps were causing my headaches, so I quit them all, and still had headaches. In my case, I'm certain it is a sinus issue combined with neck problems. I started a thread is you search headaches, there might be some helpful info there. Most said they hadn't experienced any headaches though. The acupuncture really helped though.

[Loppy lugs]

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Sorry Peanut can't help with the headaches bit.

Have had the most odd day myself so if no-one minds I'd like to share.

Yesterday evening I had a few (strongish) words with the hypnotherapist I mentioned before (I won't be going to her again) so was very confused when I got home so decided not to post until my thoughts were a bit clearer.

When I woke up early as usual I swear that if I didn't know I hadn't had a drink in 14 days I would have said it was a hangover.

I'm normally first up so sometimes I start the thread on one of the other boards. The first thing I saw was the news about Bear. For the life of me I couldn't start the thread.

I have never read any of Bear's posts so I don't know him at all, but all day I have been weeping. I truly feel for Mrs Bear. I have no idea where all these emotions are coming from and I don't know what to do about them. I am normally so in control of my emotions but I just can't stop crying.

Until 1 May I would have smothered them in alcohol but I shall never again do that. What do you do to make it go away?

It can't be normal to feel like this.

[Thankful]

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Quoted by Ollie

I'm ready to do some walking but I'm so scared I will fall.

Ollie, I can't beg you enough to please try to rid yourself of all these negative thoughts. I know I'm sounding like a broken recond right about now. And I also know that it's easier said then done. But the right attitude is everything when we have to rely on our own determination and willpower.

I hope these blues pass for you soon. Because this can be a wonderful journey if you are willing to give it everything you have. And when you think you have nothing left to put into it, then reach deeper within yourself. You are stronger than you think. Stop worrying about what might happen. Start giving yourself some credit for the steps you have taken. Chin up! Head high! It's all up to you.

We are here for you every step of the way, but you got to be the one walking.

Love, Me
:l:l:l

You get extra hugs today. You sound like you could use them.

[Thankful]

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Jessie ~ I like how you think! Keep up the good work!

Peanut ~ what are you taking for supps? Remember that if you are drinking and taking Kudzu it can give you a weird feeling and it may cause headaches in some. I have not experienced any negative effects from supps. I agree with LVT, you might want to check out some of the threads in Holistic Healing. You will find a lot more info there. Feel better soon, hun.

Loppy ~ sorry things did not work out with your hypnotherapist. Perhaps it's easier and cheaper to just use the CD set from here. Many people praise them. As far as the emotional roller coaster, I'm here to tell you that it is very normal. So many of us go through it and I'm not sure why. Maybe it is because we used to drown all those real feelings before. We just went through life numbing everything. I was soooo emotional. I was crying all the time. Cried when sad, cried when happy, cried at commercials and TV shows. I was a giant mush mellon. It will pass, sweetie. I promise. We damaged our bodies for a lot of years. We can not heal over a few weeks. It takes time. But please see it through. You won't regret it.


Love, Me
:l

[Thankful]

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Quote By Peanut

Thankful - thanks for your thoughts. We all do what we can, yes?? I keep thinking that maybe you work for MWO!!! Could this be possible? You are just so darned good at encouraging and giving advise - thankyou!!

LMAO!! Oh, my, how did I miss this before? Thank you so much for the kind words. I am laughing because when I first got here I thought everyone was making commission if they were the one that talked you into buying something. I was so apprenhensive and I didn't trust people at first. It was always "Buy the book" "You have to have the CDs" "You simply must get all the supplements". Of course on some level they were right, but I felt like it was a big pressure sell. I thought I was not going to find help here if I didn't buy something. Boy, was I wrong! The fact that someone would think I work here is hysterical! Although, now I would be truly honored to be part of such a great organization. I really would.

Again, thank you for your kind words, but I'm really just trying to "pay it forward" that's all.

Love, Me
:l

[KateH1]

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Hi Loppy Lugs, I agree with Thankful, what you are feeling, are normal feelings that you used to wash down with alcohol. I think this is why the first 30 days or so are such a mixed bag. We expect to feel close to perfect, but our emotions are suddently all over the place. But, it is so well worth it, in the long run. What has really helped me with this is sam-E, B-vitamins and Omega 3,6 and 9. Keep up the great job you are doing!! WooHoo 14 days and counting!!

Thankful....you have me LMAO!!! OMG! You thought we were on commission???? Too Funny! And, thankful, you are a Huge Part of this Organization!! I love you dearly!! You are so wise, and endearing.......

XXX Kate

[wakupmom]

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Hi all,just checking in what can only be described as a truley sad day on MWO.I am sure i speak for many in that the loss of Bear is huge one.
Peanut,Looks like you are doing great.Sorry to hear about those headaches.I also had them,not as bad this time.I just put it down to the withdrawal,although i did think there could have been a connection with the supps.Could you try to ommit one at a time to see?I am sure they will subside soon.If not you may want to see your GP,Its worth just getting them checked.Remember too that this process can be unknowingly stressfull xx
Kira,You must be on day 23.Which is fantastic-almost there xx
Wooflet,Congrats on your halfway mark,infact you will already be over the hill,Down Under.Yes i can so relate to the feelings of sadness.I think the walk on the beach with your pupppy was the best therapy.Animals and the elements can be soo comforting.May be your"Higher power"Live and savour those moments they are so specail.Isn't it nice to REALLY apprieciate them for what they are.xx
Olli,Sorry to hear you are feeling so low.You are not alone.I too have felt that same hopelessness,and feeling overwhelmed.For me i take a look at the alternative to give up,and just accept my life with AL.it is no life,Please dig deep and ride it through it WILL pass,just try to be patient xx
Thankfull,How intuative of you to post that quote of Bears.I remember it well.Its funny how some words just strike a cord,and that one was so special for me too.Thankyou xx
Loppy Lugs,Yes Darlin you are NORMAL.I think what you are feeling are real emotions without the anaesthetic.I know that Bear was the trigger that maybe sent off some other cuts.I am sure they will heal better with natural treatment.Well done to you too for being AF since 1/5. xx
Hello to Jessie,1More,and LV25,hope you are all ok
I am off to bed now at the end of day 15.I am really liking being in the real world,and yes i am counting the days,but what is more important is the pleasure i get from them.Life is short and we must cherish every moment.
Good night,Sleep tight.XX

[Loppy lugs]

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Good morning all,

Once again thanks for all the support from everyone, Thankful, Kateh1 and Wakeupmom thanks for letting me know that I am perfectly normal.

Still terribly tearful but realise that it is about everything. This mornings was started by seeing a cat in the garden who had caught a bird. Too late for me to do anything about it. So feelings of helplessness. I guess all these emotions have to come out but I can't wait for it to be over.

Hope you are feeling better today Ollie sounds like you are having a really rotten time.

Thankful, wish I could use the MWO cds unfortunately the site won't accept my credit card. I know I am particularly IT challenged but I type in my real address and hit proceed. Where on most sites it comes back and asks for some of the characters from my password, on MWO it tells me the card isn't registered to that address. I've tried several times but always the same thing.

Hope everyone has a good Friday, I am so looking forward to this weekend.