First Timer

[skippiks]

Well This is my first thread and its 10 to 12 in the morning I am having a beer my freinds have been saying i have a problem and it just make me want to drink more i'm in love with one of my roomates and she doesnt feel the same way. My other roomate thinks i will end like her dad and neglect a future family or children and i know in myheart that i could never do something like that but the fact that people i love think that of me makes want to drink more. I like to drink and admit that drinking before work is a sign but i dont see what the problemis with having a couple of beers wheni get home from work should i be made to felt guilty??

[Accountable for Me]

First Timer

Welcome skippiks! Do you feel like you have a problem? Drinking before work, in the morning, is a definite sign of having a drinking problem. Having a 'couple' of beers after work is not a big deal, I believe.

I think that your friends care about you and see something that could potentially become a problem for you. Try not to look at is as being made to feel guilty. Look at it as genuine concern.

What would you like to do? Where do you see yourself right now?

[betty boop]

First Timer

Hi Skippiks and :welcome: to MWO ......

If I am honest then I think that anyone who has to ask if they have a problem proabably does ......... however by accepting that you know that you can beat this ...... you are obviously cared about a lot by your roommates or they wouldn't mention it to you ........

Read and post here and download RJ's book .........

All the best ........

[bestlifeldms]

First Timer

Skippiks,

I would like to welcome you to MWO, too! You are very lucky to have people who care enough about you to bring their concerns for your well being and future to your attention. Friends are priceless!

It is very common for us to become defensive and angry when our problem is mentioned to us by others. I know I reacted in the same way! Ouch, those words hurt! But deep down in my soul, I knew that they were right. Outwardly admitting that was the harder part for me.

You have come to a great place with all the support and good advice to help you reach your goal. Good Luck, and I hope to see you often here.

:h Best

Happy to be 30 days alcohol free!

[Thankful]

First Timer

Skip ~ Welcome!

I have to agree with what has already been said. A member posted something on a thread last week that I feel applies to your issue. "A true friend will tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear". I may not have that word for word, but the meaning is the same.

It's hard when someone else points out our flaws. But, how do you really feel about the situation you are in as far as drinking goes? Seriously give this some thought.

No here will judge you. Remember we have all have been and some still are on that very same road that you are on right now.

We are here for you.

Love, Me
:l

[skippiks]

First Timer

Thank you all for your advice I do you realize i have good friends in that aspect right now i am just at a fork in the road and need to make a conscious decision soon before habit makes it for me. I just dont think i could stop all together i know i can cut back. It sometimes feels like its an all or nothing thing and not quite sure how to deal with that i guess that why i am here :thanks:

[maasai]

First Timer

hie skippiks,
its good you realise and take your roommates critisism positively, dont rush into any decision making weigh your future and your status right now and know exactly where you stand, remember this, there are some parts in our lives that we ourself dont know but our friends out there know and can see them and its upon us to find out from them,
welcome to mwo again for sure you have support you need here

[bestlifeldms]

First Timer

skippiks,

I have thought about you since responding to your post yesterday. Your response above is so, "Right On". I can only speak of my own experience, but if it can help others, I will gladly share. I came to MWO in July 2006. My intention was to moderate. I too, could not imagine a life of complete sobriety.

When younger I was able to drink in moderation, and even quite entirely for 5 years, when my children were young. But as I aged and used alcohol to either celebrate or numb myself to life's many pains and traumas, my habit decided for me. Despite my intentions to only have 1-2 drinks, I would never stop as planned. I always continued until I was drunk, plain and simple.

I had no choice, the choice was made for me. I either need to quite entirely and commit myself to an alcohol free life, or continue to let alcohol destroy my physical and mental health, my relationships, my career and my finances. And it would have, I know it! So, I choose to quite. Today is 31 days of sobriety for me.

I'm not trying to convince you. This is a place of information and support. We are here for you. I hope you reach your goal, what ever it may be.

:h Best

[lorisunshine]

First Timer

Good morning Skip,
and :welcome: to MWO. There is little that I can ad to the valuable advise by the members who have responded before me. Please download the book and read as many posts as you will find time for. We are all here for the same reason, we have a problem with alcohol. No one will judge you but you will be able to take a good hard look at yourself and many of the stories here will ring true to you as well.
It is wonderful that you have friends who care enough to point out to you what you may not be able or be unwilling to see.
Please come back often and let us know how you are doing.
Hugs.
Lori:h

[blondechicktoyou]

First Timer

When my family opened my eyes that I was starting to act like my Aunt, who died from AL, that is when it brought back the memories of seeing her, not being able to walk, having a 5 gallon bucket for her to urinate in and her not eating, but drinking that nasty cheap beer. I made a choice, do I want to drink and go down the same road she did, or do I want to quit and better myself and be there for my family, daughters, grandchildren, etc. It was not a tough choice, but for the 1st 3 months of unemployment, I was her, waking up, instead of coffee, 6-8 bud lights, then lunch, nap, wake up and 6-8 more bud lights. I realize now, how I have hurt my girls. At least if I didn't do right for my 16 year old, I plan on doing it right for my 10 year old. 11 days AF