Very sad news about our beloved Bear

[Niblet]

Very sad news about our beloved Bear

Dear Mrs. Bear,
As I wipe tears away, I would like to thank-you for all the loving, comforting words you have shared with us... I will forever feel blessed having known Papabear... He always knew just what to say. I feel humbled to know him and then blessed once again to "meet" you.
Thank-You so much for coming here also Mrs. BearJr.. May God Bless and keep you.
I will plant a beautiful blue spruce tree in his memory. I've forever loved that type of tree and have never planted one.
God Bless, Hugs xxx

[Mrs.BearJr.]

Very sad news about our beloved Bear

I LOVE BLUE SPRUCE TREES!!! Thank you all for having me.

[Niblet]

Very sad news about our beloved Bear

I'll find a really beautiful spot for it where the garden hose will reach (giggle giggle) I will watch it grow big and strong just like our Bear was.
"Thank-You for being here along with us it is a source of comfort"
Hugs to you and yours, xxx

[cuckoosnest83]

Very sad news about our beloved Bear

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of MDBiker, the moniker as I knew him. His posts but even more so his attitude exuded positivity. I just can't believe it and I am so very sorry for his family. Please accept my deepest sympathy on the loss of a man so well loved and who so willingly shared his love and compassion.

[sobermom]

Very sad news about our beloved Bear

Oh No Bear

I have not visited the site for some time. Tears are streaming down my face as I realize Bear is gone . He was a regular when I started back in 2005.

Such an inspiration. What a tragic loss. God Bless you.
:upset:

[bearlady]

Very sad news about our beloved Bear

bad nite tonite can't sleep
I feel so sad because I knew only the tip of the iceberg
Bear has writen so many things on here to uplift, inspire, guide, prod and bless so many.
There were a lot of jokes he never told me and he told me a new joke almost daily.
I knew there were many nites he stayed up typing much like i am tonite.
I feel so inadequate. He had so much knowledge. He went through so many years of pain and was so good at passing on to you how he was finally blessed with sobriety. He became similar to the man i married yet so much more. Thank you again for the purpose you put in his life. I am so blessed.

[Finding My Self]

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Dear Bearlady..... Oh... I feel for you so much. The nights so long...

BUT... "I feel so inadequate. He had so much knowledge. ".....??????? Not at all; you just wrote, "Bear has writen so many things on here to uplift, inspire, guide, prod and bless so many." and you can see it, read it, recognise it so you are wonderfully knowledgable too, or you wouldn't be able to see it and say that....!

And in those things he wrote, I so hope he can be there with you, on the screen at least, for he would want you to feel them too I am sure. He cared for everyone here but he cared for you mostest...

You were blessed indeed to have had him by your side for so many years, to witness his achievement and I do hope that blessing can soothe your pain just a little and his memory, in your heart, pour cooling on your burning pain.

Thinking of you and your family as nature's nurse, time, does it slow but sure healing.
Love FMS xx

[gabby]

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So so sorry Bear Lady. I have thought about you so much since I read all this. If only words could help.

[YoungAtHeart]

Very sad news about our beloved Bear

Please remember Bearlady, that he wanted to rediscover that old Bear you used to know, as well as new parts of himself because he treasured you so much. You were his rock, and he couldn't think of losing you. It motivated his journey into sobriety so much and helped him become the Papa Bear he became around here too.

Thinking of you... XXXX

[Bloo Eh?]

Very sad news about our beloved Bear

Bearlady, if anything ever happened to my husband, I would be so grateful to find a collection of his thoughts and feelings that I had not discovered before! It would be like opening a treasure chest. Everyone has many dimensions to their lives. Bear was so good at putting things down on "paper". You shouldn't feel inadequate. We can't know every single corner of our partner's minds.

Take care.

[jane jane]

Very sad news about our beloved Bear

Dear Bearlady,

This is my first post in many weeks, but I had to tell you how very heartbroken I am for you. Your husband and I exchanged a few posts months ago (about something like bike helmets, I seem to recall,) and what impressed me was his openness, cheer, and humor.

He's still with you. You know that. Nothing can take his fine spirit and love away from you, ever.

All our prayers are with you, and will remain with you. God bless you and comfort you, dear.

[bearlady]

Very sad news about our beloved Bear

I will try to be clearer today after more sleep. I was just amazed at the amount of jokes he knew. Some made me LOL. Not necessarily good at 4am with a houseful asleep. I'm okay with not knowing everything about him. The parts I know are wonderful indeed. He often shared what was happening on this forum and we talked about it. I have heard his side of phone conversations and even joined in once with Tex. She wanted to let me know how he helped so many. He continues to help with his words. I was having a rough nite and a little pity party all my own. I am truly blessed with all the support you have given me and my family. I broke down and cried at the store today over a sheet set. Grief can be so strange. I warned you I can get wordy. I better go see what's going on outside my room.

Know you are loved,
Bear Lady

[Miso]

Very sad news about our beloved Bear

Bear Lady,

I have not been on the site much lately, due to a very hectic schedule. I learned of your loss when I signed on last Friday. It completely numbed me with goosebumps. I read and cried. I personally never corresponed with Bear, but got much wisdom and had many smiles from reading his words. He was truly a special soul. I am so glad that he was able to conquer his battle with al while he was on earth, so that he and his loved ones got to experience the benefits that came with that conquest.

I can only imagine how wonderful and difficult at the same time it must be reading his wise, honest and humorous words. In time, they will be such a special gift to you and your family. I would recommend printing them off, as I think they only remain for a certain amount of time. If it is something you are interested in you might contact RJ and she might be able to compile them for you.

Bears' story is one worth being told. His time here on earth was definitely for a reason. It's not often that one continues to impact others as much as he is, when they have left this life.

May you and your family find the strength you need to get through this difficult time.

God Bless You and Your Family.

Miso :heart:

[Hovercat]

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I am so sorry for you.

My aunt was recently killed in a car accident so I can appreciate to some extent the awful feeling of helplessness and grief of your situation.

I don't post here often but this site and all the wise and wonderful words posted here have really helped me shake off the monkey of AL.

My thoughts go to you and your family.

[brittzak]

Very sad news about our beloved Bear

Bearlady,
I remember the first time I grocery shopped after Billy died, which by the way was like 2 months later...kids thought I was insane for not buying FOOD, I filled up....bought TONS, I always do, and realized when putting stuff away at home that I had NO ONE to drink his juice, eat his fave snacks etc....I literally fell in the floor in my kitchen and cried my eyes out for about 3 hours. I screamed, hated him for dying, hated myself for letting him leave that day, hated Walmart for selling his favoriate snacks..life can be so unfair, but today I buy up the store and love life again. Each day new stuff will appear so unfair, cause Bear did them.......always did them, but you are a string woman!!!! I know you can do this, as hard as it is!!!!!! I love you MamaBear!!!!!