Here comes my big trigger!!!please pray...

[Evie.Lou]

I was having a wonderful day until about 10 mins. ago when the phone ran and it was my baby brother phoning me from the road.He lives 12hrs. away and he was phoning to tell me that he and his drinking buddy were half way here for a suprise visit.He wants to spent time with me because i am the closet thing he has to a mother.i raised him after our mom died .He has Hepititis from all his drinking and druging and I do not think he has long to live.I am on the verge of running across the street for beer.I want to feel numb.He pushes all my buttons.My mother made me promise to watch over him before she died.I have done my best but he is the saddist excuse for a man that I know.He was a very sick kid who went thru hell(raped repetely as a little boy)by a family member.He is completly self destuctive.When I see him it brings back all the nightmares.I am so afraid.I do not know how long he is going to stay but 1hr.is too long for me.It sounds like he is planning alot longer than that.......Pray for me to be strong and somehow get thru this...PLEASE....I need help to get thru this...Still Sober,at least for now.....EVIE

[Thankful]

Here comes my big trigger!!!please pray...

Evie, I am so sorry your sobriety is being threatened right now. But no one can make you drink. Remember that.

You let him know that absolutely no booze is to be brought into your house. First, this will keep you from being tempted. And second, I bet they have no desire to stay long if they can not drink.

Stick to your guns! You raised him as best as you could. Your job is over now. No guilt! You have to take care of you now!

Keeps us posted, hun. And run right here if you are in trouble. We will be here for you.

Love, Me
:l

[brittzak]

Here comes my big trigger!!!please pray...

Oh Evie, I am so sorry. Remember your last hang-over and remember how good you have felt lately? Triggers will never go away. You will be SO proud making it through this one. You can do it.

[Accountable for Me]

Here comes my big trigger!!!please pray...

Oh, Evie. You are on what, 22 days now? You are 'resolved' to stay away from alcohol no matter what, right?

There will always be times that we encounter situations that are out of our comfort zone. It is part of the AF process to learn not to pick up that drink to get us through it. You know?

It sounds to me that your brother has been through hell and back. I am not surprised he has a substance abuse problem. Many of us here have been through hell as kids, and look where we are now......... trying to stop numbing ourselves. Not much different than him, if different at all.

Be strong. Lay down some ground rules. Ask him to leave if things get too unruly for you. Your sobriety comes first no matter what.

[Noelle]

Here comes my big trigger!!!please pray...

Praying for you Evie......you can do it!!!!

[hart]

Here comes my big trigger!!!please pray...

Oh Evie, I'm so sorry hon. If you do end up drinking, don't beat yourself up. Just get back on the wagon as soon as he's gone. I hope you can stay strong but whatever happens we are here for you and believe in you!!:l

[CS04]

Here comes my big trigger!!!please pray...

Evielou, this is a rough time of day for all of us, but thanks for sharing your trigger. I have had a rough week too. Listen to all of the great suggestions that everyone is offering, and have some alterna-bevs for yourself so you are armed and ready when brother gets here.

[Dolly Sunshine]

Here comes my big trigger!!!please pray...

Try to stay strong. tell yourself you don't want to end up like him or throw away the progress you've made.

[Peanut]

Here comes my big trigger!!!please pray...

Sending all the positive vibes I can - we are all with you, you know that. Make a picture in your mind of all your friends here, rooting for you. You are not alone in this!!!
xoxoxo peanut

[cuckoosnest83]

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Evielou, just so sorry you have to deal with this now. Try to get a talisman to put in your pocket to remind you not to cave in. Anything you can just physically touch to try to remind yourself to be strong.

Will be thinking of you.

Cuckoo

[KateH1]

Here comes my big trigger!!!please pray...

Evie, You have come so very far over the past couple of weeks, really, you are doing so well. Read your recent posts. Drinking is not an option for you. I know how difficult these things are, someday, I will share. But, regardless of what your brother has been through and no matter what your mother made you promise, you cannot allow your brother or anyone to destroy your health and happiness.

Perhaps you can have your brother to dinner and then offer to put he and his friend up in a hotel for the night. Whatever you do, you need to set bounderies that are healthy for you. Your brother makes his own choices, you have no control over those choices. But, you do have control over your choices.

And,, Evie, do not even think of slipping and not beating yourself up, you know why....because you will anyway. You are comitted to sobriety and a slip would break your heart!

Hang in there.....we are all here for you!!

Love,
XXXXX Kate

[Evie.Lou]

Here comes my big trigger!!!please pray...

You guys are so wonderful,you make me cry.I am running around the house like a chicken with my head cut off.I broke down and asked Hubby to get groceries so Im not tempted at the store.He also said that he will tell them no AL in our house.That will really help I think.My brother is so pitiful and it is hard to be with him.We have just come up with a plan,if he is planning on staying for long,we are going to get out the paint and keep ourselves busy by painting the house.That way we will not have to sit around and hear all his sad stories.He hates to paint so between that and no AL in the house he should not stay long.At least that is what I pray for.Guilt is the main emotion that kept me drinking and I feel guilty about the way he turned out(i did my best but I am only 9yrs.older and still so young when Mom died).He was wild and I could not control him.Thanks for your caring.I have a wonderful husband but he does not understand how powerful AL can be.He would still love me if I drank but I would not.I do not know what is going to happen when he gets here but I will keep posting my way thru it.I love you all......Evie

[Thankful]

Here comes my big trigger!!!please pray...

Sounds like a good plan, Evie. Deep breaths. Try to relax. I think telling them no booze is the key point there. Either you'll inspire him or he'll leave. But either way, it's his decision. So no guilt, hun.

I too have a little brother who is killing himself (and has Hep also), heck all my sibs are. But I can no longer think it's my job to help them. Two of them are older than me and I have always been the mom since our mother passed. I feel for you.

You have to make yourself the priority. That's not being selfish. That's common sense when you think about it. You can't help others if you are not in the best state that you can be in.

Take care of you!

Love, Me
:l

[beatle]

Here comes my big trigger!!!please pray...

Good luck Evie. You have shown how tough you are. You can keep it up. You will keep it up. Think about how happy you will be tomorrow when you can tell us all that you stayed the course. Think how happy we will all be.

And btw, what a creative plan-- painting the house! Ha! Not so easy to guzzle beer whilst balancing on a ladder, holding paintbrush in one hand and ladder in other, eh?

[mickyshell]

Here comes my big trigger!!!please pray...

I totally agree with thankful....no booze in the house, I really feel for you, You'll be in my prayers, and just keep reminding yourself that yuo'll get through these days better without any drink. Thinking of you and like peanut sending strong posotive vibes. X Show your brother how strong and in controll you are sober.