Newbies Unite, June 08'

[sweetnell]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

:new:Can any of you help me figure out how these threads work? When I post a reply does it go to everyone? I've had several replies to my cry for help, but don't know if when I post a message it goes to everyone. I posted a reply on the general forum. Have not yet received my supplements & CDs , but anticipate them any day now. Any help would be appreciated.

[sweetnell]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Also, how does the buddylist work? I have two added, Jessie & JMT, but don't really understand the mechanics.

[LVT25]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hi sweetnell,
When you post reply, it shows up at the bottom of the thread for all to see. I don't know about the buddy list though.
Welcome!

[sweetnell]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

LVT25, Thanks for the info. Eventually I will figure out this site. Time for me to go to bed. Work at a very metropolitan hospital and have been called in at 3:00 a.m. for the last two mornings. Two local hospitals in our area closed and we are swamped. Gives me less time to drink, and much more time to work which may take my mind off my upcoming challenges!.

[ready2quit]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Well, I've made it four days but I'm supposed to go to a friends house on Friday who will for sure want to drink some wine. I'm thinking of canceling. I've made an agreement with my hubby to go a year without alcohol. We have some friends coming over in a week and I want to be able to offer them something to drink but I have a feeling my husband is going to say we're just not having alcohol in the house. I feel terrible that I'm so weak that I can't at least offer friends a drink. I'm hoping he'll at least have some beer and wine and I will just not drink. He is out of town and it is so tempting to drink. My 19 year old daughter is here and I'm trying to be accountable to her. She hates it when I drink. I really would have loved a drink tonight, but luckily I made it without...but did eat a bunch of chocolate. I guess that's better than the alcohol. I think I'll always struggle...it's so frustrating and angers me to no end. I just would like to get through a day without thinking about it constantly.

[jubilee]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

I'm on day 4 as well. It has been surprisingly easy. I had some terrible personal news yesterday, and drinking was not even on my radar...what a difference. I think it's helped me to not think about it in terms of "slipping" or counting days too much...just thinking I'm trying to get healthy. I'm SO HAPPY to be past those first scary days of withdrawal....it wasn't bad at all. Now I feel a little tired and shaky, but mostly clear headed and proud. The reward of doing this after not missing a day of drinking for years is enough to keep you going....YOU CAN DO IT. And if you slip, who says you have to be at "day one" starting all over again. You can be at day 5 and just missed a day. Everyone seems to be so hard on themselves. this is such a tough thing.......you should all be proud you are trying so hard.

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Good morning friends....well, I made it through last night without too much trouble, so today I embark on day 10 AF......yeah, it's only a week and a half, but the thought of going 'double digit days' AF was beyond my imagination 2 weeks ago.....hadn't done it in 20 years.
Welcome AT....hanf in there and stay plugged in to your support here...you too Ready2quit. I know it's hard. It will get easier though the longer you can go AF. My first few days were hell. Now, a week later, not nearly as bad. Push through these first couple weeks....for your daughters sake as well as your own. Jubilee, you are doing great. Glad it's getting easier for you. I think it's different for everybody, in terms of those first couple weeks....the goal for us all is the same however. Happy you're not focusing too much on days, etc...and you're right, we are all way too hard on ourselves. Give yourself a break!!...yep, I know, you made plenty of mistakes, and have regrets about your drinking.....NOW, be able to give yourself credit for what you are trying to accomplish here on this forum. Takes guts....I respect all of you for the genuine efforts you are making. Have a wonderful day.
Renewal

[patricia]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hi everybody

Renewal - you're doing well - congratulations - and you are right we are too hard on ourselves - its the guilt thing - I think because we are guilty about drinking we think that we're guilty of everything else or that the booze affects it - it might do but I'm sure that most people don't think like we do - I'm about to get through day 24 night - I started out on a 30 day challenge - I won't say its flown past nor that I haven't wondered what to do with myself from time to time but it's been okay - just have to decide where to go from here - the jury is still out on that one! Anyhow, good luck to all - Good thoughts and wishes winging your way. Px

[SpiritGirl]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hi fellow ducklings -

I am now on Day 3 - since joining MWO (and Lord knows how long before that - at least 1 1/2 yrs) I have not been able to make it to Day 4. I was so tempted last night. I am ready-ing myself and kids for vacation and, as I stayed up until 2 a.m. doing laundry, a crisp glass of wine sounded so good. I found myself continuously thinking about it - contemplating. However, I made a pot of coffee and did not give in. My daughter got in from YoungLife camp at 5 a.m. and it felt great to not be peeling myself out of bed lethargic from too much wine to go pick her up. As hard as it was to resist, I am SO thankful that I did. I am hoping to make it through the vacation AF. I have Antabuse that I trying very hard not to need. I really would like the strength to kick this the way you are, Renewal. Surrounded by supportive people and sheer determination. I understand the need for meds, I'm just trying to make that my last resort. I know my personality - I'm afraid that I will rely on the Antabuse. I bought the book "Drinking - A Love Story". Anyone else read it? Can anyone else suggest a good read? (Doesn't have to be AL related). As you can see, I believe that "failing to plan is planning to fail" - so I am going on this trip armed with Perrier and limes, maybe even O'Douls Amber - just in case I have a craving. Not much of a beer drinker, but sometimes fishing and boating brings out the Corona-girl in me.

Thanks again for this thread. Renew - please feel free to PM me also. I think you are very inspiring to everyone here....

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Way to go spiritgirl!!! Day 3 today, eh? Guess what? You're gonna get to day 4 too.....how do I know that? This is something you haven't accomplished in quite a while....an early milestone in this journey of yours. Rather than focusing on your temptation and all that, put your focus on getting to day 4 for the first time in a while and how much that means to you....don't over analyze the whole situation, just DO IT! I've got faith in you and I'm rooting for you. Give us a report tomorrow.
Renewal

[AT]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Thanks for welcome Renewal. Its good to know that I'm not alone. And its sooo right about the guilt thing, I was feeling so guilty about my drinking I felt guilty about everything. My husband was home late last night and I had a few drinks after I put the kids to bed. I feel bad but I told him this morning and I'm going to start again today! My goal is 7 days to start with then I want to continue to 30. He was very supportive.
I have a question, do you have to take the topa, I am on the supplements and am waiting for my book and cds to arrive to Aus. :new:

[ready2quit]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Ok so I made it another night..day 5 but I ate all the ice cream and candy in the house. I guess it's better than the alcohol, but now I have to stop having ice cream and candy in the house. I wonder what will be next!!!

[AT]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Good on you for day 5, don't worry about what you are eating at this stage it is far better than alcohol!

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Good morning my little ducklings......well, reached double figures (10 days AF).....still have some cravings at times, but I feel different than I thought I would. Yeah, I'll have the occasional headache, but overall the feeling is soooo much better than I imagined.......don't care who you are out there, you CAN do this. I NEVER thought 10 days AF possible....hell, never could go 1 day.....it DOES get easier once you're past those first couple days. Would love to hear how everybody is doing today.
Renewal

[JMT]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hello all. Well, I can't do it, I can't leave you guys, you've all helped me WAY too much. So, I'm here to root you all on and some rooting my way is always welcomed! :0) It sounds as though everyone is doing so good. I'm on day 9.5 we'll take half a day off for my little slip last Monday.
I hope everyone has a GREAT weekend. I'm feeling really really good, almost scary but I like it! :0)
Goodmorning Renewal always good to see you!
(((HUGS)))))