Newbies Unite, June 08'

[Living in Hope]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

I,ve just joined up today so it will take me a while to get to know all of you on this thread. You all seem so determined and so positive and I hope you all reach your goals. Alot of you talk about how hard the 1st day etc. is. I can go days without drink...then the craving hits. Its like this urge that comes from my toes and the decision not to drink then is so hard. When I drink then, I stay going till I pass out, probably after making a fool of myself into the bargain. I have started to drink the morning after as well. One drink now means the loss of 2-3 days in the week. I have to stop. This is day one and hopefully with all your support I can start living my life again....talk soon.

[ASH]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Cuddles - You were the first awesome person to respond to my desperate first post and you made me feel so good!!! My heart aches reading your post but wishes that the good feelings will stay with you a little bit longer today!! I haven't tried this before so i have no idea what I'm in for but you're encouragement means so much and I want to be there for you too.... You have a wonderful husband... do this for you and for him cause he wants you around for a long, long time!! HANG IN THERE!!! Time for me to get some work done!! Will check back later!!!

[tlrgs]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

jst wanted to say hi and welcome to you all
you can all do this it juat takes time. reading and learning the best way out for you all .
do your best. dont give up.
peace love and god bless

[whitemarshmom]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

It will be today

I have picked today as my (second) 1st AF day. I am not giving up, I went to the bookstore and looked for the MWO book, of course they didnt have it, I spent some time in the AL aisle reading and trying to determine what book I could buy until the MWO comes in. I picked "" Drinking" A Love Story. It compelled me from the 1st couple of pages, and driving back to work i wanted every light to stay red a little longer so I could keep reading. Already the stories are my own. I cant deny my problem anymore, especially when its printed right there in black and white. Some other books I picked up Horrified me. Some had questions in them where you could determine what stage of the disease you are. I didnt like what I saw. You really have to realize drinking can and will kill you in the long run, at least the way we are using. I'm surprised I'm not dead already. I'm done today
Best Wishes to everyone
Hang in there :thanks:

[Tina Desparate]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hi Living in Hope,

I know someone that does the same thing as you. I think he has even gone months without and then it hits him. He can be down for days at a time. He does pretty good as long as he is not around his girlfriend. I know you can kick this thing.

I am binger and get up and go the next day type of drinker. I will sneak too. But I have done none of that going on my 4th day. I just hope I can keep it up. I want to do it for myself more than anything. I have been drinking off and on for almost 8 years. IT STINKS!!!! I use to have so much fun without it. My son was active in sports and I was there for every sport and game he played. I went through a divorce and started to party and drink.

Well I am having some thoughts of drinking today but I will just keep myself busy when I get off work. I have to pick my daughter up and my mothers and go to the grocery store. I will try to focus on buying good foods. See there I go again, replacing drinking with shopping. Oh well if the drinking did not break me, then surely the shopping will not.

It is 3:40 in Georgia.

[CS04]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Whitemarshmom,
"Drinking: A Love Story" is an excellent book; I have read it several times. If you don't want to wait for the MWO book, for $12.95 you can download it as a PDF and you'll have it immediately to print out. Glad you are trying again for day 1 AF. I'm on day 16 but have been struggling a long time. Good luck and keep posting.

[JMT]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

((ASH)) glad you came here, alot of wonderful people here to listen and help. Heaven knows to try and do this alone is virtually impossible, well for me it is.
I hope everyone's day is going ok :0)
Well, I went to lunch with my mom, and she ordered her "usual" wine and I ordered and ice tea and water. "Staying away from the sauce huh?" she said. I told her I'm back on the Wellbutrin and I can't drink on that which isn't a TOTAL lie. But I have to admit, it was tough. Sitting right there by the bar, seeing big cold frosty beer mugs, yeppers it was tough but I did it and feel better for it. I still have the shakes today and am quite on edge and that little voice tells me "You know how to make it go away" but I can't open those flood gates anymore. So, we left and I bought like 3 boxes of Asian "detox" tea, figure if I drink a few gallons I'll be better!! LOL
Anyway, hope everyone is doing ok.

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hey everybody....well, I'm off to work now....be back at midnight....great support and conversation here....you guys are the best! Have a fantastic night tonight....you can do it!!!!
Renewal

[Thankful]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Renewal, what an awesome thread!! Great job banding together. I can't tell you how much it helps to have people to go through this with. There have been a couple of threads started just for that purpose and they prove to really help people succeed! The fact is that we all (the entire MWO community) is going through this together but it's a little different when you get together with a group that is going through what you are AT THE SAME TIME. That is so key in helping with your recoveries. I don't know where I would be if I did not have my thread of friends who stuck by me through think and thin. I am forever grateful to them.

Kudos to you and to all who join in as well! I wish you all the very best.

Welcome!!!


Love, Me
:l

[Chief]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

You guys are doing great......stick together and be accountable to yourself and eachother.

Think of the first couple days as having the flu......a little unpleasant, but certainly nothing you can't get through....Take it by the hour, or the minute if you have to....just don't drink. My first few days I lived on MWO.... reading, posting, and chatting. We got eachother through it, and so can you. You are forming friendships here that will be unlike any you have known......take advantage of eachother.

Not having booze in the house helps....and telling your partner also is important. It helps you remain accountable. Don't give The Beast any wiggle room. Don't set yourself up to fail. Take an aggressive approach to beating The Beast....don't just lie around waiting for it to get tough. Make a commitment to yourself and eachother that you will not drink today, no matter what. Tell yourself there is nothing that can make you take a drink....nothing.....and then be brutal and stubborn. Who's in charge of what you put in your mouth?.....You or The Beast?

Keep positive and stay engaged.....this is a battle, so treat it as such. Fight to win. You only want to go through the first few days 1 time.....keep telling yourself this.

You're doing great....

Don

[JMT]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Don,
AMAZING words of encouragement and empowerment I thank you so much for that. Yes, the flu, ugh but I figure it's my body paying me back for what I've been doing to it, it's only fair.
Again, thank you for taking the time to say what you did, it means the world to us "ducklings". :0)

[adair]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

fourth day a.f. first time on this site


I want new friends.my old one (red wine) stains me and drains me!Emotionally and financially...........every "sleep " gets a little easier....sleep well my new friends ....:thanks:

[loewe]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Day 2

Yesterday was also my first day. I thought I would slip today, but I'm doing fine. It helps reading the posts and knowing that others do understand.

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hello all....it's after midnight again & just got home from work on night 3 AF.....had some cravings at work and on the drive home....wanted to stop at the store, but didn't. Didn't have the headaches like I did the 1st 2 days......this whole thing is a process, not an exact science. What I do know is I will not drink tonight. That's 3 days now which is the longest stretch I've had in quite a while (at least a few years). I'm noticing that once I get home, drink water, grab a bite and begin typing on here, I'm fine. It's the triggers at work and on the way home that set me off more. Like I said, we're learning as we go.
I'm proud of all of you (my ducklings, so I've heard) for your efforts. I'll catch up on more posts in the morning, but sincerely hope you all had a good night. Feel free to let us know how it went.
Goodnight,
Renewal

[tawnyfrog]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hi all newbies - this is a lovely thread.

If I may add another little trick that I've used in the past - when you've ignored your usual triggers and managed to get to within about two hours of going to bed but your thoughts again turn to booze - brush your teeth. There's something weird that happens in your head once you've brushed your teeth. The thought of passing a beer or a gulp of red across a toothpaste mouth is actually quite horrendous. Try it if you're struggling. It worked for me.