Newbies Unite, June 08'

[JMT]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Thank you Tina, yes, I'm feeling pretty bad right now amazing how fast things change isn't it?
But, I'm determined to not drink my way through this one, though horrible and tough I'm determined to TRY and get through this sober.
Again, I hope you enjoy your weekend!! :0)

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

WOW!!! You guys are quick......obviously, a few of you posted updates right after my post this morning....I just love the support you guys are giving!! A couple quick thoughts of my own. I live alone, which in some ways is more difficult with this, in that I could have a drink anytime and nobody would know (except me....)....on the other hand, I don't have the distractions or temptation that a drinking spouse may offer. Bottom line (in my opinion), is....THIS IS ABOUT YOU.....not your spouse, your friends, co-workers, or anybody else. This is about changing your future. If you wanted things to be the same, you would never have joined this site in the first place. Instead of focusing on all the reasons you can't quit, try putting your focus on why you must. If we are squeezing our knuckles every moment trying to use willpower, it will be a constant struggle. Look, I know it's hard as hell, and I'm battling it each day myself....I just don't want IT to have THAT MUCH control over every thought and action I take. I'm trying to emphasize why I'm enjoying not drinking instead of being upset over why I can't.
Look, I hope this came across okay, as I am with every one of you 100%....I know you can do this, but do it for the right reasons.....like taking care of YOU and your future.
Renewal

[Tina Desparate]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Thanks Renewal. We are supporting you too. You are doing a good job. I just have to talk about it a lot. I am okay once I get home at night because I never keep AL at home. If I buy it, I hide it or drink it before I go in. I never drink openly unless I go out.

I used to wish I could keep it in the fridge, but my hubby would never let me. I try to blame my binges on not being able to keep it at home.

Anyway it does feel good to not have a hangover for 4 days.

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

You are doing fantastic Tina!!!!
Renewal

[Peanut]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hi guys!
Just wanted to pop in and say Hi to you all!!! and Welcome!! And to say I'm so happy you are all doing so well!!! Renewal, I think it is great you started this thread a few days ago, and happy that you have managed to go AF with such strong resolve and have been such a fab leader!!! Aren't you all so happy you found this website???? It has been such a blessing!!!

I am wondering if you all have gone cold turkey in your quest for AF living??? If so, I think you are all very brave and very strong!!! I couldn't do that very well - I had all the supps, the book, the CD's all in place before I even attempted it and still struggled alot in May. I finally started the Topa on June 1, and have managed to stay AF ever since, with no problem. I have stopped all supps this past week, but started back on Kudzu and L-Glut today, as my mind has been straying toward thoughts of wine the past couple of days and I really, really, really want to make my 30 day goal!!!! These two supplements do help with cravings, in case you haven't tried them yet - the Kudzu ordered from the site is best, but the L-Glut can be bought at your local health stores. Maybe Whitemarshmom - you could try these???

Anyway - best to you all and I look forward to watching you all in your successes!!!
xoxo Peanut

[JMT]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Ok, I'm feeling better now, gotta LOVE these mood swings and emotional waves of just yeeckkkk.....
I say, to the pond we go!

[JMT]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Peanut!! Thank you so much! Yes, cold turkey for me and ugh it was no fun but I'm feeling ALOT better. Am considering the Kudzu and actually already take L-Glut for recovery after my bike rides. This group that Renewal started has been a lifesaver for me as have alot of members on here. I couldn't do this alone. Congrats on how GREAT you are doing, seeing and hearing people like yourself help us see that it can be done! Thank you.

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Yeah, thanks Peanut, appreciate your input!! I'm going cold turkey as well.....I've NEVER had success with that in the past, not even for the 3 days thus far here.....I think the difference right now is I feel held more accountable by being with everyone here. This will be my first weekend AF, so that will be a big challenge. Being an 'ex jock', weekends have always meant drinking and sports....I'll have to change that mindset....but will focus on tonight first........Cuddles, you are a success story waiting to happen!! FYI, I've also been on a weight loss mission the past few months....so what does a guy working on 3 hours sleep do....well, gonna go out in 110 degree heat in Arizona and walk a few miles before leaving for work.........wish me luck....and enjoy your day.
Renewal

[penny0709]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

new also

hello everyone....I am new here and this is my first attempt to reach out for help. I am a problem drinker. High Functioning, work, nice home, family. I know I cant stop by myself, after a few days the cravings come. I really need and want your help.





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[JMT]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hi Penny!! I'm glad you are here, Renewal started this awesome group and we are all literally "newbies" or "ducklings" as someone pictures us....cute huh? LOL
I'm only on day 3 and have had a rough go of things today but I'm taking it one MINUTE at a time and thank GOODNESS for the wonderful people here or I would have been hitting the bottle already with the morning I had but didn't after encouraging, caring, KIND words from people here.
High functioning, work, family doesn't it amaze you what we can pull off when we are drinking? Just imagine what we can do sober and happy?? We are all here, all new, all fighting, struggling, crying (well I have been ALOT the past few days..LOL) but we are making progress!
Anyway, welcome, there is ALOT of support here the first step is difficult and scary and a gazillon other things but if we can do it, so can you! :0)
(((HUGS)))

[pipper]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Whitemarshmom - I understand how hard it is to get one day AF. i too am struggling with this. I have been doing better with cutting down, but that varies with the day. Sometimes I wonder if the problem is that I don't want to. Let's face it there's a reason we all started drinking in the first place. However, I do realize I will take many years off of my life if I continue this way. I just don't understand why I choose alcohol over a full happy life. I just keep putting it off. One more day of drinking. Just one more glass of wine. I try to imagine if I only had one day to left to live, would I want to spend it drunk??

[Tina Desparate]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Whewww that is one way to put it. I would not want to spend my last day drunk. I want to spend my last day being alert and living life sober. I have a new camera that I have only used once. I plan to wake up early on Saturday am and take pictures of birds and then download them on the computer. I am going out early on the boat tomorrow and take my 2 crazy fun loving dogs.

[Cadence]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hey all I'm new, my now ex-grilfriend left the book behind so I read it while I was bored. She is pretty bad off, I had to ask her to move out after she hocked alot of my stuff to buy her booze. I know I drink too much, but being in the military it's pretty much the norm and is expected. I just got back a few months ago and I drink mostly at night with my buddies but it's getting old. You all sound like great people, I'd like to say I have X hours sober but I can't. Maybe tomorrow.
Cuddles, I noticed you said your husband is in the military I feel for him I had to cover for my girlfriend when she did stuff while drunk on base. It's tough. I see you bike, I do to hence the name always keep it 100+ yea? Anyway, hopefully tomorrow I'll feel like going out to ride, haven't since I've been back can't ride over there unless you like getting shot at. LOL
Have a good weekend.

[penny0709]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Thanks Cuddles and Renewal for your support. I have a little spark of hope now, where this morning I did not. I am learning a lot in my short time here. What I see most is courage, how open and truthful people are by telling their stories.

[whitemarshmom]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Pipper

No of course I wouldnt want to spend my last day drunk, although if i knew i only had one day left to live, it would be so depressing I probably would drink. I am one of those only in the evening after work and even more on the weekends. Only smoke when I drink, but can def down 10 smokes in about a 4 hour period. I realize too that if i continue this way, I wont be long for this world. and I really want to see my children grow up. I started late having children that is.. I am 41 and have been drinking for at least 20 years. My daughter is only 10 months and I have a 3 1/2 year old son, both of whom I love dearly.. I keep thinking I will stop when they get older, they dont realize yet. But when i wake up from a drunk night, and wonder if I did something to hurt my children, It sends a panic thru me, and I jump up heart racing to check on them. I think that comes from the fact that I grew up with an alcoholic mother, and my dad later told me she tried to suffocate me with a pillow. Hearing that was pretty traumatic I guess, it sticks with me. My children are my life, and I would never ever do anything to hurt them, but that thing with my mom just gnaws at me. sorry TMI.. I have my first therapist appt on Weds.. Good thing! Typing this is so surreal, doesnt seem like my life, but guess what? it is..and only I can change it..( with help) Ok its almost 5pm Sat night, the beast is calling me.. I have to go to Target (store) for Formula before I can allow myself to have anything, I definitely draw the line at drinking and driving when I have my children.. We all have limits right .....I dont think I can go cold turkey.. Lets go for some moderation tonight , tougher moderation on Sunday, and nothing during the week. Ok Talk to you later Have a great night, I ordered the book, and have an appt on weds.. lets take it from there