Newbies Unite, June 08'

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Tina, I'm really impressed with your honesty and accountability. It would have been easy to simply not post the fact you drank last night. Instead you chose to be accountable and let those who care about you know......now, if you are like me, you have two choices. First, you could tell yourself, "well, I've already messed up, so it's okay to drink again today, then I'll start my sobriety again next week"....OR, you can start again NOW. By the integrity you showed in your post, I hope you choose to begin again now. You slipped up.....it's okay....you're still doing way better than before.....don't beat yourself up, just strive for a wonderful day 1 today...I'm proud of you.
Renewal

[JMT]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Tina, your honesty does mean alot, we are all human we make mistakes but today is a new day. Don't borrow problems from tomorrow and don't look back just focus on today. I hope you enjoy your weekend at the lake.

Cadence, 30 miles and almost didn't make he last 5, BAD head wind plus, haven't been out like that in awhile. Hope your ride went well. I could think of better ways to stimulate the econonmy, and hope your buddies don't sway you into doing something you'll regret! I hope you are doing ok.

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Good morning my little ducklings....well, it's weekend time. My first attempt AF.....big challenge just knowing my tendencies. Cuddles and Peanut, I can really relate to the headaches. I've had them constantly, except for day 3 (weird)....have one now as I type. If anybody has effective solutions, feel free to share. I find the later in the week I get, the more I'm looking forward to relaxing and 'winding down' from a busy work week. Normally, that involves sports and drinking. Tonight is 'my Friday' as I am off work Sun & Mon's....anyway, wish me luck as I plow through the next few days....best of weekends to all of you too!! Renewal

[whitemarshmom]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hi Everyone!

Glad to hear everyone is doing so well! Tina, it only pays to be honest and upfront to yourself and others..I told my husband everything last night. iover drinks on the deck. It felt very shameful, but good to get everything off my chest. Now I can stop pretending. What ever facade I have been putting on can stop now, I dont have to "hide" the fact that I am trying to stop drinking, the reasons why, I mean everything. He said he will try his best to be supportive, but we have been going through alot of difficult times so we are already somewhat distanced. We ended up going to bed together, which is something we havent done in MONTHS. I know I have to first fix myself before I can start trying to fix what is wrong with our marriage. He seems to have control over his drinking, where as I dont feel like I do anymore. I tried to moderate, and I guess I did, if you consider the fact that i remember everything. I still felt like crap this morning. We have a party to go to tonight so of course......My goal is to start Monday, no weeknight drinking, thats where I am going to start.

[Peanut]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Good for you whitemarsh!
My second goal, after my first goal of getting 30 days AF under my belt, is to not drink on work nights too - that is, weeknights. I am pretty stubborn, and after the 30days, I think/I hope/ nay - I KNOW I can do this!!! Holiday time is coming up though, but I will try to treat the "weekdays" as work nights anyways - that's the best solution I can come up with!! My 3rd goal is to try not to get so damned loaded when I do drink. That is the one that will be the most difficult for me, one that I have to work on - the moderation thing. It what scares me about drinking at all after this 30 days is over!!
So good luck tonight, and best to all of you on this thread!
No much advise on the headache front though - I just suffered through them and moaned alot!!
Peanut

[tea]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hi all, I'm a bit of an oldie but wanted to say that we are ALL newbies - otherwise we would be 'cured'.....

I feel a newbie each and every day I wake up sober - new me, new life, new day etc etcetc... We are all in this together and I love being here.

Lx

[loewe]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Day 4

:new: Going to bed now. Finished Day 4 and I'm doing okay. Still have questions about the supplements. I am taking Zoloft and Adavan for anxiety -- any danger of interaction?
:thanks:

[biscuit]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

What a great thread, thanks Renewal for starting it. I am a newbie also 10days today. woo hoo!
Good Luck to All.

Biscuit

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hello all....well tonight is the toughest yet for me....my body & brain are pooped after a long work week (tonight is 'my Friday)....I really did want to make a stop on the way home....really did!! All the justifications of why it would be okay started to form a line in my head on the drive home. In the end, I didn't stop....came home & got on the computer....I will not drink tonight...day 5 AF........
I'm new at this too folks......any little boost to help me this weekend is greatly appreciated. Thanks and goodnight............................Renewal

[Nia70]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hi peeps, Can I join here?

I arrived today after deciding today would be day one of no drinking. Its been ok so far but Im not used to being sober for too long and think last nights might still be in my system

I honestly admire anyone who can drink in moderation, Im not too sure Ill be able to ever.

[whitemarshmom]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hi

Renewal you are right, you started this amazing thread, but we have to remember that you are struggling too. Day 5 for you! that is fantastic. Keep it up

I cant wait to get the book, so I can understand more of what the process is.. Is that you have to stop drinking for 30 days and then go from there? I will find out soon should be here tomorrow.

Tina Desparate How did you do with starting back at day 1?

Everyone keep up the good work. Today is Sunday, back to work tomorrow. I should consider this a weeknight, ( it is) but it really is still the weekend..I am cooking an eye round on the grill and making some Maryland Crab Soup, and going to pick up some corn on the cob. I am already looking forward to a good meal and a beer ! Wow this is tougher than I thought. I just keep putting it off and putting it off, I really DO have a problem!

[JMT]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Mornin'! Well, I'm still "cuddles" but my username changed to JMT as I requested a username I thought for blogs but it changed my username totally.....and I'm SOBER, guess I have lost some bain cells in the past years!
Renewal, I'm sorry last night was a struggle for you, but you made it!! I'm on day 5 so, you are day 6 yes? How are you feeling today? I hope you are able to be getting some rest. Weekends and beer have been my staple for the last 10 years so it's tough for me to. I know how difficult it is on the drive home..that voice always pops up, the evil "voice of reason". I'm so proud of you that you were able to not listen to it. You have been such a voice of support and help and since I met you the first day I was here, you've been such a wonderful cheerleader for me I cannot thank you enough.
Nia, welcome! So many times I've quit then think...Oh, I'll just have one, out at dinner or with friends and family and I always end up back in the tank. I've learned (though unfourtunate but true) I have to abstain totally after 10 years of trying to moderate, it's not working so we'll FINALLY try something else!LOL But welcome a GREAT group of people here!

Well, yesterday was ok. Worked out got a TON done around the house, it hasn't been this clean since I had that "nesting" urge before I had my daughter. BUT, I started back on the Wellbutrin on Tues (1st day sober) and I think that is where the headaches and HORRIBLE, VIOLENT dreams are coming from. Last night I could not get to sleep, my body was twitching and I finally dozed and woke up screaming holding onto my husband because I though I was dying! My whole body was shaking, it was HORRIBLE. I finally fell asleep about 2AM but had a dream that was so awful and violent that I feel just awful this morning. I called my Psychiatrist she told me to stop taking it immediately and I am to see her this week. BUT, I'm REALLY happy I'm on day 5 a little worried about cravings coming back going off the Wellbrutrin but we will see. I really would like to find a "natural" way to curb cravings as I do not like to take medications. I already have to take b/p med and thyroid medicine so the less the better.
Well, talked ya'll ear off enough, sorry, I'm long winded this morning. Beautiful weather here today (as usual) so we are off to take munchkin to the park. I hope everyone has a good day, and I'm rooting for you all!!! :0)

Oh Cadence, how'd things go last night?? LOL

[JMT]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

:disco: Renewal, you started this group and I know I would have been lost on here have you not started this thread. Again, I have to tell you thank you and we are all behind you 110%!!
Whitemarshmom, way to go!! Good to see you this morning!! I wish I would have known you needed the book, heck I would have sent you mine. Hope your weekend ends on a good note! Oh and what time is dinner??

[Nia70]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

OK a quick question for my first day of AF..Ive nearly made it too YAY!

My appetite has got huge and I am also quite sweaty, is this normal?

I dont actually feel too bad though, not climbing the walls and my daughter has told me I have done really well today, she said Ive been relaxed and chilled out.

[JMT]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hey Nia!! YES, day 1-3 for me were pretty tough as far as wanting to eat everything in sight, especially sweets and I normally don't like sweets. Sweating, yes I also had that to with a constant dull headache just in general felt like I had a mild form of the flu. But today on day 5 I'm feeling pretty good finally. Outside of some insomnia and strange dreams, everyday it gets a little better!

I hope everyone here continues to do well, I wish you all nothing but the best!