Newbies Unite, June 08'

[SunDaisy]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Renewal,

You didn't mention how you were doing...Hope all is well with you...

Sun

[nugpot]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

My first post

I joined last Thursday but I did not want to post before I tried some AF time. Today is day 6 AF and this is only because of MWO. I am from South Africa and the supplements are not readily available, so I have not been able to take any. Hold your thumbs for the weekend.

[SunDaisy]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

I'll be thinking about you Nugpot. Look on line for supplement resources and try to connect with others in SA. We have other members in your area, but I'm not sure if they have been sucessful at getting supplements.

Good luck and keep posting and checking in with us. We love the newbies!

Sun

[rachel]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Today is day 4AF and I feel fantastic --I had my most intense cravings last night between 6-9pm cocktail hour but I just focused on keeping myself busy and distracted and ended the evening sitting on porch watching the sunset and journaling. I couldn't do anything in the evenings before. After I got a meal on the table I was done--amazing how tired a bottle to a bottle and a half of wine can make you each and every night. I go to bed and read now, something I haven't done in years. The other thing I find astonishing is how atuned I am to my senses; its like a viel has been lifted and I see the beauty in everything. I have lost my edginess,my defensiveness, my self-loathing. It is such a wonderful feeling and has happened so quickly. If I can do this ANYONE CAN...I have been programed to be a problem drinking from internalizing the patterns of my parents. Drinking everyday is all I have ever known "normal" to be except I knew in my heart it wasn't normal. Even though my family was very high achieving and high functioning they drank way to often and too much; mix that with a little perscription drugs and one has quite the little potion to numb out too. I slowly learning who I am being completely chemical free and although the evenings remain touch and I know I am in early days I feel so much gratitude especially for this site. Thank you Renewal and all the other Newbies who post here...I have learned so much!

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Good morning friends and Happy 4th!! Sun Daisy, thank you for asking, I am doing fine....today is day 18 AF for me....I find it amazing that I have gone that far when in the past I could NEVER get past day 1.....this 'insurmountable mountain' really isn't all that big after all.....down the road, I'd probably like to drink in moderation, should I be able to pull that off, but what these last few weeks have shown me is that it IS in fact possible to not drink every night....and really, outside of a few cravings now and again, it hasn't been a major deal....the first few nights were toughies, but now, not so much. I'd like to get to 30 days, then see where things are at. Rachel, great post. I can really relate to the 'tired part' of drinking. Amazing how I'd sit down, have a couple drinks, and was basically done for the night. Fatigue would enter in and the drinking would continue...just me, the bottle and tv.....jeez, what a waste!!
Well, gotta work on this holiday, but hope you all enjoy.....be safe......
Renewal

[debruce]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Morning Newbies,
How are you all doing?
Well I ended up having 2 glasses of red last night after being AF for a week. Was a little disappointed. I have a huge headache this morning and feel terribly hungover. I really don't think I can even have one. My body is so allergic to alcohol!!!!! Does anyone else get so sick from such a little amount. I am approaching the menopause age, and apparantly this does happen to a lot of women, they end up basically poisoning their body with any alcohol at all. Anyone else like this.
Oh well back to AF again, 1 day I will learn.
Have a good day all
xx:l

[Seacailin]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Just checking in

I just wanted to say "HI" and check in. I am due for my next dose of Ativan, and it tends to knock me out. I know that I need it just for a few days. The doc gave me a four day supply. The problems today have been mainly my stomach, nausea, pain, and no appetite. I forced myself to eat a bowl of soup, but that has been all that I have been able to handle today. I also having chills and sweats. I have had two large glasses of Gatorade and lots of water. Hopefully, I will able to eat more tomorrow. My kids forced me to go to the hospital last night. They are out enjoying the Fourth, and I'm sure that they are relieved to know that I am home and Not Drinking.

[SunDaisy]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

I'm happy for you Sea, that you are taking care of yourself. It is important that you believe that you can get better, we all can.

The withdrawals are horrible, I know. Remember that tomorrow you will feel better and it's a good thing you have the ativan to help you sleep.

Thinking of you,
SunDaisy

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Good morning newbies.....hope your 4th was safe and pleasant for you all. Hope you have a great 5th (probably not appropriate to say on this forum).....okay, a little humor. Day 19 AF today....worked yesterday, so my standard BBQ/drinking routine for the 4th was altered....probably a good thing. Work again today. Anyhow, just wanted to pop in and wish you all well....you are doing terrific.....proud of all you out there.
Renewal

[Seacailin]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Just checking in

48 hours AF. I still have to take the Ativan for two more days, but am feeling a bit better. I think I may even be able to venture out for a walk today. I have not left this house in over a week except to go to the hospital and to the pharmacy to get my meds. I think the worst of the shakes is over. The appetite is improving, and despite the Ativan, which I am tapering off of now, the head is feeling clearer. Tomorrow will be time for serious action. I wish all a beautiful and successful day.:l

[Seto]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Can I join your newbie group - sorry long post!

Hi everyone
Its just been suggested to me to join this group, so I've just spent the last half an hour reading everyones posts and wow how well you are all doing!! A bit about me...I'm 31 years old, have two beautiful daughters aged 8 months and one nearly 3 years. I have always had problems with alcohol since my late teens where I would not drink during the week but go on binges every weekend. My drinking always landed me in the most embarassing situations and I would spend the whole week regretting what I had done only to do it again the next weekend. I then met my husband and things seemed to settle down but I did still have binges from time to time. I have suffered from anxiety and depression on and off for the past 5 years, peaking when I had both my children. I reached for AL, he became my friend and my escape when things were tough. I have gone from 2 glasses of wine to 1 bottle at least a night. My marriage is suffering. Last night was the final straw for me. I binged and blacked out. This morning was terrible, I was so ashamed. My husband was also ashamed and disgusted in me and I feel I am no good for my kids anymore. So I need to change. I need to do this. Today is day 1 for me. So far it has been ok, I have slept for a couple of hours so far. I am able to eat but still feel woozy and lightheaded. I hope to post on here with you all if thats okay and share my journey with you and of course try and support you all too. Thanks for reading. SetoXX

[Seacailin]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Please Do Join Us

The more the merrier. We can all help each other, and also get advice from those with more experience.

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

We are happy to have you Seto!!! Believe me when I say, there is hope. I know things don't look great right now, but you've already made the first step. Let us help you as we are all on this journey together.
Welcome to our family! FYI, always feel free to private message me if I can be of further help.
Renewal

[rachel]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Welcome Seto; we are all in the same boat. When my kids were small I use to rationalize my drinking and call it "mother's little helper" - starting at 4pm at least a bottle or more was consumed and I thank god I was able to care for my children the way I did. I was i had found this sight in my 30's and so much of my alcohol related situations could have been avoided--you will find it a life line as you meet many people with similar stories here. Yes debruce I think many woman who are reaching or in active menopause find alcohol problematic. I think the liver has a harder time processing toxins but also due to hormonal imbalances woman have a harder time. I am AF day 6 and doing great...thanks to all of you. rachel

[Juley]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hi there. I just joined this evening. I don't drink everyday so it's difficult to even say I'm on day 2 etc. When I do drink I binge and it's a few times a week. So the remainder of the week I feel awful. When that feeling wears off, I forget how bad it was and get drunk all over again. I would love to be like some of my friends, they can go out, have a glass of wine and then go home to bed. I'm the one sneaking off to the shop for a bottle of wine so I won't be without when I get home.
I feel like my life is over at 35.