what drive me

[Niblet]

what drive me

I've said it before and will say it again, " you are a true inspiration to me " Hugs, xxx and "Good on you"

[tlrgs]

what drive me

what drive me part 4

this is what drive me a day like today.yeah a regular work day and all but one thing defferent. i got phone call not just any call but a call from my youngest son .. wanting to know how i was doing and my day is going .and then he ask if i would like for him to spend the day with me at work.. it made my day to just have him around and working with me . and yes he love to work with all the tools and it was a perfect day for all of them tools to come out and play we had the framing nailer out and the finish nailer . and am just taking my time an showing him how they work and the right way to use thm and then it wa his turn and wow he did great . he was so happy..days like today dont happen all the time but when they do.. i thank god i am sober to enjoy them with my son..
peace .love and god bless

would love to hear what drive you

[time2change]

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I'm so glad you had such a great day. It really is great to spend time with the kids. Makes us focus on what is truly important in life.

[toughintexas]

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Wow, thanks so much all of you for sharing! I love knowing more about each of you, and what motivates everyone! tlrgs, we've chatted alot, but I didn't know much about you, so glad you are doing so well, and I totally agree that being sober to do things with our kids, young ones or older ones, and them being proud of us, is HUGE! Hope everyone has a great 4th! Love and safety to all!

[tlrgs]

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wow what a day

i have a story for you all .and wow i cant believe it myself..ok it all started yesterday the 4th went great untill food time .. yes luke was cooking chcken and i was cooking steak well i got the steak done way before him and that went well everyone love it sue didnt want any.. so ok with that she wait untill luke was done and it sit out side next to the grill ..so sue decides to bring the chicken in and start cutting a piece ..well luke comes in the house and said something sue and sue did not like what luke said to her so she blow a tisty fit and now come to find out he was being disrespecful to her so that was handle the best way i could . now today the 5th of july i have to do a quik job no problem and i fingure ok done with that go to the bank and deposit 540.00 in the bank so i ask sue for everything she had in her pocketbook ..but wait she only has 340.00 on her..so what to do where the fuck did that money go ..ok now we had to think of who could have got into sue purse..now we had to really think about this one.. we had 8 people sue nephew and his friend ..my two sons and one of their friends ,my exwife..now remember i have a problem with my anger..so am tinking and thinking who could have been and all this time am getting stress out and yeah am getting piss and this is when everyone starts to run for the hills
to be continue

[caysea]

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Hey T
.Don't know what to tell you to do but do know just as you what would have happened in the past if you weren't in control of the al

[tlrgs]

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well after alittle soul searching and thinking of how to approach this very careful situation. becsuae one misstake on my part could be the end.. of what i have gain..so i decided to just call there first before hand and talk over the phone and let my exwife know what was up . but told her not to say anything to them about what has happen.so by now am still alittle stress out but ..getting all my thought straighten out before i get there . and wow i did good just knock very calmly .and well they let me in i give them both a hug even my exwife and my oldest ask if everything was ok. well i said to him not really we all need to talk .. something happen last night and it gots me really stress out .. and i ask and said you both know that if you kids ever needed anything.. you know you can just ask and they both answer yes and now i said to them. i really have one question for both of you right now .. now look me straight in the eyes did any of you boys take any money out of sue purse.. now take a minute to think about it boys tony said no way and luke look away and said yes dad i did it ..but anyway there was no yelling or no putting him down for it ..he give it back and it wasnt in coins yet..we sat down and talk about what we needed to work on. as a family
now on the other hand if i was drinking all hell would have came out of this.. him with a very red ass and them being scare of me again not to say they werent scare today ..but the way i handle it was perfect and my exwife was real surpise and happy with the way i did and said everything

this is what drive me
peace , love and god bless
would love to hear what drive you and the ways you handle things now

[tlrgs]

what drive me

Will Power and Self-Discipline
By Remez Sasson

Sometimes, you wish to go for a walk, knowing how good it is for your health and how wonderful you feel afterwards, yet, you feel too lazy, and prefer to watch TV instead. You might be aware of the fact that you need to change your eating habits or stop smoking, yet, you don't have the inner power and persistence to change these habits.

Does this sound familiar? How many times have you told yourself, "I wish I had will power and self discipline"? How many times have you started to do something, only to quit after a short while? We all have had experiences like these.

Everyone possesses some addictions or habits they wish they could overcome, such as smoking, excessive eating, laziness, procrastination or lack of assertiveness. To overcome these habits or addictions, one needs to have will power and self discipline. They make a great difference in everyone's life, and bring inner strength, self mastery and decisiveness.



Definitions of Will Power and Self Discipline?
Will power is the ability to control unnecessary and harmful impulses. It is the ability to overcome laziness and procrastination. It is the ability to arrive to a decision and follow it with perseverance until its successful accomplishment. It is the inner power that overcomes the desire to indulge in unnecessary and useless habits, and the inner strength that overcomes inner emotional and mental resistance for taking action. It is one of the corner stones of success, both spiritual and material.

Self-discipline is the companion of will power. It endows the stamina to persevere in whatever one does. It bestows the ability to withstand hardships and difficulties, whether physical, emotional or mental. It grants the ability to reject immediate satisfaction for something better.

The human being is full of inner unconscious, or partly conscious, impulses. People sometimes say or do things they later regret saying or doing. On many occasions people do not think before they talk or act.

By developing these two powers, one becomes conscious of the inner subconscious impulses, and gains the ability to reject them when they are not for his/her own good.

Will power and self-discipline help us to choose our behavior and reactions instead of being their slaves. Don't think that life will become dull and dry in this way. On the contrary, you will feel more powerful, in charge of yourself and your surrounding, and consequently much more happy and satisfied.

How many times have you felt too weak, lazy or shy to do something you wanted to do? You can gain inner strength, initiative and the ability to make decisions and follow them. Believe me, it is not difficult to develop these two powers. If you are earnest and are willing to become stronger, you will certainly succeed.

In this article you will find some exercises and techniques for developing these abilities. These simple, but effective exercises, can be performed everywhere and at any time. Go slowly and gradually, and you will see how you get stronger and your life start improving.

There is a misconception in the public mind regarding will power. It is erroneously thought to be something strenuous and difficult, and that one has to exert and tense the body and mind when expressing it. It is a completely wrong concept. This is one of the reasons why people avoid using it, though they are conscious of its benefits. They acknowledge the fact that the employment of will power in their life and affairs will greatly help them, and that they need to strengthen it, yet they do nothing about it.

Will power gets stronger by holding back and not allowing the expression of unimportant, unnecessary and unhealthy thoughts, feelings, actions and reactions. If this saved energy is not allowed expression, it is stored inside you like a battery, and it becomes available at the time of need. By practicing appropriate exercises, you develop your powers the same way, as a person who trains the muscles in order to strengthen them.



Developing Will Power and Self Discipline
An effective method for developing and improving these abilities is to perform certain actions or activities, which you would rather avoid doing due to laziness, procrastination, weakeness, shyness, etc. By doing something that you do not like doing or are too lazy to do, you overcome your subconscious resistance, train your mind to obey you, strengthen your inner powers and gain inner strength. Muscles get stronger by resisting the power of the barbells. Inner strength is attained by overcoming inner resistance.

Remember, strengthening one of these abilities, automatically strengthens the other one.



Here are a few exercises:
1) You are sitting in a bus or train and an old man or woman, or a pregnant lady walks in. Stand up and give up your seat even if you prefer to stay seated. Do this not just because it is polite, but because you are doing something that you are reluctant to do. In this way you are overcoming the resistance of your body, mind and feelings.


2) There are dishes in the sink that need washing, and you postpone washing them for later. Get up and wash them now. Do not let your laziness overcome you. When you know that in this way you are developing your will power, and if you are convinced of the importance of will power in your life, it will be easier for you to do whatever you have to do.

3) You come home tired from work and sit in front of the T.V. because you feel too lazy and tired to go and wash yourself. Do not obey the desire to just sit, but go and have a shower

4) You may know your body needs some physical exercise, but instead you keep on sitting doing nothing or watching a movie. Get up and walk, run or do some other physical exercise.

5) Do you like your coffee with sugar? Then for a whole week decide to drink it without sugar. You like to drink three cups of coffee each day? For a week drink only two.

6) Overcome your laziness. Convince yourself of the importance of what is to be done. Convince your mind that you gain inner strength when you act and do things, in spite of laziness, reluctancy or senseless inner resistance.

7) Sometimes, when you want to say something that is not important, decide not to say it.

8) Don't read some unimportant gossip in the newspaper, even if you want to.

9) You have a desire to eat something not too healthy. Refuse the desire.

10) If you find yourself thinking unimportant, unnecessary, negative thoughts, try to develop lack of interest in them, by thinking about their futility.

Never say that you cannot follow the above exercises, because you certainly can. Be persistent no matter what. Motivate yourself by thinking about of the importance of performing the exercises, and the inner power and strength you will gain.

Trying to attempt too many exercises when you are still a beginner, might end in disappointment. It is better to start training yourself through easier exercises at first, and gradually increase the number and difficulty of the exercises. Practice will improve and increase your power, giving you a lot of satisfaction.

Most of these exercises can be practiced anywhere, anytime. You do not have to devote special times for them. Believe me, they are very effective. Practicing them enables you to be strong and exercise will power and self-discipline in everything you do. This power becomes available whenever needed.

If you practice weight lifting, running or doing aerobics you strengthen your body. When you need to move something heavy, you have the strength for it. By studying French each day, you will be able to talk French when you travel to France. The same thing happens with will power and self-discipline. By strengthening them, they become available whenever they are needed.

It is important to remember not to choose exercises that might affect adversely your body or health. Deny and give up what is not necessary, futile or is harmful, but not what is vital for your well being. Always use your reason and common sense, so that you do no damage to yourself.

If for the sake of an exercise, you stop doing something that you usually do, and overcome the inner resistance concerning it, you may resume doing it, if it is not harmful. For example, if you love drinking orange juice, and for the sake of an exercise you switch to drinking apple juice, after doing so for some time and after it makes no great difference for you, you may go back to drinking orange juice, if you still like it. The point here is to develop inner strength, not make life difficult for you and continue doing things you don't like to do.



Advantages of Possessing Strong Will Power and Self Discipline
You need both of them in order to rule your thoughts and to be the boss of your mind. The stronger they are, the more control you have over your thoughts, and consequently your powers of concentration get stronger.

When you are the master of your mind you enjoy inner peace and happiness. Outer events do not sway you, and circumstances have no power over your peace of mind. This might sound too unreal for you, but experience will prove to you that all the above is true.

These abilities are essential for self growth, spiritual growth and meditation. They give you control over your daily life, help you improve your habits and behavior, and they are the keys to every success.

Practice the exercises presented here earnestly and persistently, and you will go really far.

things like this.. help me to go even further in my personal growth

[Thankful]

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T - thanks for referring me to this. I need to read it again tomorrow when I am a little more alert. I am going to print it too! This so reminds me of my old Tony Robbins tapes! I need to dust them off and listen to them. I paid so much money for that set and most of them have not even been open. How stupid is that???

I actually have a sticky note on my computer monitor that where I wrote a little reminder for myself....
"If you want to make an easy job seem hard, just keep putting it off".

I really liked your story about how you handled your boys and the missing money. You have come a long way. I am so proud of you.

You are always so sweet and you always have an encouraging word. I appreciate that so much. You are the best!

Love, Me
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