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[KateH1]

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Wow! Don, you are coming up on one year!! I am so happy for you. You have impacted so many of us here, to work at our own sobriety. I for one am so grateful to call you my mentor and friend! Congratulations!!

Nancy, I respect your right to feel as you do. I also agree that we all need to figure out our own way. As most people know I am a strong advocate for being alcohol free. Yet, I have no judgment towards those that have healthy drinking habits. More power to them. But, true moderation is not about struggling with alcohol all the time in order to be able to drink moderately "sometimes".

When I first arrived here, I wanted to moderate. But, I did not want to have to really on a drug in order to do so. Just as I did not want to have to take drugs to stop all together. Again, this is just my choice for me and in no way reflects anything on anyone else's decision. My decision to live as a non-drinker is a result of how great I feel and think living this way. I really have no reason or compulsion to drink alcohol. I just feel too darn good without it! To me, being able to drink a glass of wine, is just no longer important to me. I choose to focus on so many other things that I value.

For, whatever reason, Roberta's book was the catalyst for the changes in me. The support here was what helped me to push through. For this, I am grateful and always will remain so!

Best to All!
Kate

[Accountable for Me]

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Thanks for the thread, Kate! Great reading.

I have never had the support that I find here, in my 'real' life.

MWO and it's program is where it's at, baby! It really can work, if you work it!

[KBCE]

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Thanks for your great post Kate. Although I am new, I have been so inspired by you all. I need to be AF and being here with you all has really helped me in my struggles. Thanks to all of you. Have a wonderful weekend!

[livingfree]

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Wow -- As I stop to reflect over the past 6 1/2 months of my life "since" finding MWO ... my eyes fill with tears. I found this site mid December after logging onto a different site. I never had looked to forums for information, let alone a community. But I stumbled onto this "other" site to "once again" try to find some motivation or inspiration to help me quit drinking. When I logged onto this other site and created a password - a message popped up that said - WELCOME TO YOUR FIRST DAY SOBER. It shocked me as I wasn't really planning on quitting today .... I just wanted some "inspiration" to quit tomorrow ... or the next day .... or next week .... or probably after Christmas. I received an instant message of welcome and so logged off. But that message stayed in my head. Quit?? REALLY Q-U-I-T and stop trying to quit??

I continued to drink as usual and the next desire to quit a couple of weeks later I remembered my new web site. I tried to remember my password and could not log in for the life of me. BUT on the advertised sites on the right column .... MY WAY OUT jumped out like a neon sign.

I clicked - and BOY DID I CLICK!!

I read. And read. And read. Then ordered. Just anticipating the "help that was on the way" made me make January 1st 2008 my first AF day. It was another 9 days until I created an account on MWO - and my life has been dramatically different since.

The supplements, the CD's, the unsuccessful run with TOPA, but MOSTLY - the friendships here are my success of being ALCOHOL FREE since January 1st. I didn't even know what AF meant when I first read.

Kate - you, WW, MM, Thankful, Bootsie, Believe and Mya were my very first major connection here. I can not tell you how deeply I feel for people whom I know like phone and pen pals. Many others I have also grown to love on this site.

But RJ - you are a gift from God. Your desire to find your own way out - is EXACTLY what I KNEW I would find someday. And that someday happened for me.

I can not begin to express my love and gratitude - for all of my dear friends here - and for you lovely RJ.

Kate - you always "bring it back home" - Thanks Sweetie

[Sunbeam]

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I have my life back thanks to this site - how priceless is that!??? The support here, with my daily reading and frequent posting in the hardest days, made all of the difference.

[Mags]

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OK my dear friend Kate

Fess up - how much is RJ paying you for this gig? I know you, and I know RJ. You are both pretty smart cookies. :H Ok, I'll play along, but I want a cut of the action. Do you want me to write War and Peace or to shorten it a little?

First of all, in my profession, I know a lot of very smart people but not a lot of kind and compassionate and wise ones also. That's what makes RJ outstanding and special. She is all of the above. As a result, this website is something extremely special. Very smart, very kind, compassionate, caring and wise. No other website like it. RJ keeps us updated on all the latest research (but not the crap stuff), she really, reallly knows her stuff about nutrition and supplements, but is always there to reach out and counsel and care for members individually. I honestly think she is at least 12 people. Or maybe she just has 12 heads (UGLY!). Love you RJ.

As a thirty year very hard core drinker I have been sober for over three years. And I am very happy. I wouldn't be here without MWO. I might be dead.

I did manage to get sober for over a year before finding this wonderful place but it was an unhappy and probaby unstable sobriety. I was so alone despite some AA meetings. It would have never stuck. I found this site while desperately searching for an AA meeting which I really didn't want to go to but was so desperate.

I downloaded and read RJ's book and my life changed. I had never heard a woman like me talk to me on a personal level about alcoholism. What a mind blower. "My Way Out" - that title meant I finally had power over my alcoholism - power to think about things analyticallly and read and do research and make my own decisions. WOW! Nobody ever told me that before! DUH! To me, it was a revolution. I was trying to follow everyone else's preset rules for too long. They never worked.

There was information - so much information - I had never seen before. So well presented and useful. And most of all, there was flexibility. Not you must do this - follow this step, then this step, etc. Hello! We're in the 21st century, not the 1930's. People can educate themselves and make decisions. And big news. We now have medications. Some pretty good ones. We don't treat cancer with leeches anymore. Alcoholism often has physiological components, so why not treat it physiologically when appropriate? (along with other psychological and other treatments) Once again, it is a matter of choice and education. MWO gives you that information, honest discussion forums for those matters, and then lets you make your choices. And oh yes, no judgements. That is so nice.

The most important part of MWO and the reason that I am sober today has not been metioned yet. The fellowship, the friendship. I often tell people I am trying to help that no one ever does this journey by themselves. If I were by myself I would have failed long ago. I was always alone because no one would ever let me laugh. I really do like to laugh. I have always believed that there is an awful lot of healing in laughter. Yea, OK, we tell all the horrible sad stories, and we have to do that. I do it myself sometimes. That's all I heard at AA meetings. But OMG I have never heard so much genuine laughter and friendship in my life than I have here at MWO. 've never laughed so hard. This is a funny and sweet and often sad place. A place of love and of life. What a gift.

I know I disappear at times for whatever reason. But I know I'm here for the long term. Because I'm sober for the long term. And this place keeps me sober. Period.

Thanks for the the thread Kate. You owe me $25 :H But I meant every word of it.

[nancy]

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wow mags-- that was beautiful and right on!

[Captnjack]

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Great thread thanks Kate!!!! Nothing more to say really but ........... I just want to say RJ and people like you are a wonderful gift to us struggling with alcohol addiction thank you so much
love always cap

[Dolly Sunshine]

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I never would have gotten sober without MWO- especially the book and this site. I'd tried detox, outpatient rehab, AA and serveral alternate methods. This has been THE only thing that helped me. Thank you to RJ and every single person who posts here. I may not always agree with you but I value you.

[Beaches]

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Mags and Kate, thank you. I really can't add anything more than what the two of you said except thank you RJ for helping me change my life.

[Blondie45]

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Hello everyone, I am brand new here, and I am SO inspired. Thank you for all of your heart-felt sharing. I am going to buy the book today and start on this adventure to wellness and I look forward to being part of this very "real" group. I feel touched in this moment.

I joined up two weeks ago while I was out of town on business, and was very drunk and alone in my hotel room. That's when I found MWO and got into a chat room with the most wonderful people. I went from desperation and fear to reaching out to another member. It was transforming.

I feel you already have my back covered.

With love to you all...

[KateH1]

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Blondie, we are so happy that you found us! So glad that you are getting "the book", it will give you so much insight, knowlege and the road map for your success! The board will give you all the support that you need to find "Your Way Out"!

I will look forward to seeing you around!

Best Wishes!
Kate

[Evie.Lou]

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Already had my will changed.MWO is my main concern.All I have would be gone without you.
Thanks again RJ.

[maxie]

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:new:

I just joined the program tonight. Very scared, but know that it is time to do something about my problem because it has adversely affected my life for the past 10 years. I kind of did this backwards - have'nt read the book yet, or tried any of the supplements, but I did go into the chat room for about 3 hours. Everyone I "met" was very compassionate and made me feel welcome, and I thank all of them for that.

I know that this is going to be a difficult journey, but one I have to make. I am thankful to have found this wonderful resource.

[Barefoot]

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Getting Ready

thought about doing something about my drinking for a long time. I am going to be a grandmom in six months so the time postpone is over. At a party Saturday night i had too much to drink and my daughter really let me have it. I had already decided on your program but it was time to go to my family and tell them what i intednede to do. I have an appointment with a Dr. on Friday to get my RX and will order the cd's and vitamins this week-end. My start date is April 6th and I am looking forward to it actually. I truly hope this will work to get me to be able to socially drink. I drink every night when I get home from work and have for years. I have noticed it takes more for me to feeel relaxed and sleep and in social settings I tend to over indulge. I was able to quit smoking using hypnotherapy so I hope this is as easy.