Upset my daughter..'bout to have a heart attack over it!
Beth you are awesome. Here's the deal.....daughter only knows of the Meadows, from the counselor, the counselor, herself, told me, my daughter called her, and she (therapist) told her, that I looked awful, the last time she saw me,( which was right after I'd been sick, and have posted it many times), and thought I needed inpatient treatment, or my daughter, whom I pay for her, to see said therapist, for all kinds of issues, least of all, my alcohol abuse, which isn't on a reg. basis in 3 yrs., told her to "blackmail" me into it, (going to the Meadows, or never contact me again), the therapist told me this, (now remember, she was an alcoholic, Rx addict, went to Meadows, and hubby a high level executive, forced to Hazelton, and they are now "Recovery Resources").. anyway told daughter ....to "intervene"....this is a 22 yr. old, that has never held a job steady, that has had every whim catered to, has a home nicer than I ever lived in first married, paid for, all bills, a new car, ins., and whatever else she wants, given to her, that has never paid the therapist a dime!....that is one reason, I thought the counselor, that I'd seen forever, would sort of address my daughters need to kinda do her own life a bit,.....my daughter goes separate from me, to the therapist, I don't ask questions, just pay the bill...we have gone together on the alcohol thing...and thought we'd hammered that out....she is with us tons, knows this is an isolated incident,....she has had it made, and has been arrested for "overindulging" herself, but I wasn't supposed to address that, or tell on her, or make demands, because "I'm not perfect either"....I take FULL responsibility....and I do understand she is scared....but she wouldn't know what the "Meadows" is, nor do I, (heard of Hazelton, Horizons, the Betty...lol...), but the "therapist" put this idea in her head...this is the first time, she's known of in over a yr., and that time, it was vacation, and we were all a bit "touched", that I've had too much in 3 yrs.,... so, she has been brainwashed into thinking I'm going to die, by the Nazi AA person....I totally understand I scared her, sent her back....but her cussing me, and blackmailing me, never having had to have a real scary day herself of worry without support.....its unacceptable to me, and I just think its bunk. I guess I really am stronger today! LOL I do need to be more "perfect".....but my daughter and the therapist need a bit of work also! I need to find one that is not replaying old tapes of their own! I really do think, I do need to have my own life outside my "kids" demands, funny thing is, not a one of them is perfect, and 2 are steps.....lol....guess that's why we are all forgiven for our sins! I found a cool site today....from Saddleback Church, Rick Warren, its called Celebrate Recovery....you can go to their site, its great....search your area if it appeals to you, I loved the testimonial from the pastor that came up with the concept! Love you all! Tons and bushels!
Beth you are awesome. Here's the deal.....daughter only knows of the Meadows, from the counselor, the counselor, herself, told me, my daughter called her, and she (therapist) told her, that I looked awful, the last time she saw me,( which was right after I'd been sick, and have posted it many times), and thought I needed inpatient treatment, or my daughter, whom I pay for her, to see said therapist, for all kinds of issues, least of all, my alcohol abuse, which isn't on a reg. basis in 3 yrs., told her to "blackmail" me into it, (going to the Meadows, or never contact me again), the therapist told me this, (now remember, she was an alcoholic, Rx addict, went to Meadows, and hubby a high level executive, forced to Hazelton, and they are now "Recovery Resources").. anyway told daughter ....to "intervene"....this is a 22 yr. old, that has never held a job steady, that has had every whim catered to, has a home nicer than I ever lived in first married, paid for, all bills, a new car, ins., and whatever else she wants, given to her, that has never paid the therapist a dime!....that is one reason, I thought the counselor, that I'd seen forever, would sort of address my daughters need to kinda do her own life a bit,.....my daughter goes separate from me, to the therapist, I don't ask questions, just pay the bill...we have gone together on the alcohol thing...and thought we'd hammered that out....she is with us tons, knows this is an isolated incident,....she has had it made, and has been arrested for "overindulging" herself, but I wasn't supposed to address that, or tell on her, or make demands, because "I'm not perfect either"....I take FULL responsibility....and I do understand she is scared....but she wouldn't know what the "Meadows" is, nor do I, (heard of Hazelton, Horizons, the Betty...lol...), but the "therapist" put this idea in her head...this is the first time, she's known of in over a yr., and that time, it was vacation, and we were all a bit "touched", that I've had too much in 3 yrs.,... so, she has been brainwashed into thinking I'm going to die, by the Nazi AA person....I totally understand I scared her, sent her back....but her cussing me, and blackmailing me, never having had to have a real scary day herself of worry without support.....its unacceptable to me, and I just think its bunk. I guess I really am stronger today! LOL I do need to be more "perfect".....but my daughter and the therapist need a bit of work also! I need to find one that is not replaying old tapes of their own! I really do think, I do need to have my own life outside my "kids" demands, funny thing is, not a one of them is perfect, and 2 are steps.....lol....guess that's why we are all forgiven for our sins! I found a cool site today....from Saddleback Church, Rick Warren, its called Celebrate Recovery....you can go to their site, its great....search your area if it appeals to you, I loved the testimonial from the pastor that came up with the concept! Love you all! Tons and bushels!
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