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[CS04]

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Spouse who drinks

There were several posts last night I think with people dealing with hubby/wife/BF/GF who drinks, while we are trying to stay AF. DOes anyone remember what thread? I think this is a BIG issue (it certainly is for me) and I thought about starting a thread dealing with exactly this.

Sami, welcome! I was all gung ho on July 31, then caved on Aug 1! But I was AF on Aug 2 so here we go. Also remember that August has 5 weekends (I just realized that today) and we all know weekends -- especially holiday ones -- are the hardest to get thru. So drink lots of water and jump on board!

[tlrgs]

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yeah sami welcome aboard

[LookingToGrow]

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Welcome Sami. Alot of us missed August 1 but that doesn't mean we have to wait for September 1. Make any day Myself First 1

[mwo2]

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aaarrrgggghhhh !!!mateys!!! Pirate Penguins unite!!

We can do this!!

[SpiritGirl]

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Sami - welcome!! Anyday can the the 1st!! Glad you're here - drinks lots of water today and look forward to some GREAT days ahead!

CS - I think that sounds like a great thread... My BF is a moderate drinker and an occasional "over-doer".. Although he supports me, I would still find it advantageous to discuss my feelings about being around him (and others - friends, mom etc...) that drink around me....

[lukalee]

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I love the pirate penguins!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Sunbeam]

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CS04, we talked a little here about our drinking hubbys. I would like to discuss it more on a separate thread, where more people could contribute. I think my husband is handling it well by putting his wine in a coffee mug, keeping open bottles in the basement refrigerator (which we don't use much except when company is coming). Sometimes we want them to also be our counselors, which isn't them. Guys often just aren't good talkers, with many exceptions, but that whole "it's not a guy thing" is true for this too.

[Nurseindistress]

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Another Penguin Down

2 days AF--then am blowing it today. Just seemed too depressed. I am feeling though, like one of the plastic blow up penguins that is weighted on the bottom. I plan on just popping right back up and starting over tomorrow. I really need to get getter at dealing with what goes on in my head and that "tight" feeling when I am distressed. I have never known how to deal except to drink. I know I should exercise , blah, blah, but have not forced myself. Maybe I will have to try in increments--see if I can last out 15 minutes, then the next day 20 minutes, etc, until I can handle the stress without drinking. Does that sound familiar to anyone? Anyway, I am going to try not to beat myself up, but to get right back on the horse. Those first 2 days were fairly easy!

[Sunbeam]

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Hi Nurse,
There are certainly a lot of things to try when you feel that craving. One I'm pushing for myself is AF beverages. Create the moment, but without alcohol. I always exercise (swim, bike etc.) early in the day. The cravings hit when I'm tired and want to unwind. Use the same glass you have been using for alcohol. Sit in the same chair. Take a load off.

I biked to the grocery store yesterday in search of these beverages. My carrying pack is up front. I bought five bottles of different taste delights, in beautiful bottles. It was harder steering on the way home, but not because I'd been drinking...

[A Work in Progress]

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Hi all, I'm home from Book Club, and glad I went. I took some bottled green tea, and some chicken wings, and nobody made any kind of issue about my not drinking... of course, some of those women have known me for 20 years, and are probably delighted when they see me not drinking! Good friends, anyway. We watched a film: The Age of Innocence. Fantastic.

Nurse: Sorry to hear you are having a hard time but GREAT to hear that you are resolved to start up again tomorrow, learning about your triggers and urges, and how to successfully work with them. It is plenty do-able! Pick up some of the suggestions you are hearing around here, and start putting them in place BEFORE the urges get terribly strong... in other words, plan ahead, knowing there are times and situations that will be especially difficult...

best wishes to all,

wip

[Noelle]

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Come on y'all..........push through. If you need to be in the middle of the pack of penguins, let us know! The fox will be banished!!!!!

Come on.....we can do it!!!!!!!!!!!

:h

[Noelle]

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I had one beer.........does that count? Do I go to hell? I'm having a really hard time with daughter. Should I go back to day 1?

[Noelle]

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OMG, this is hard!!!!!!!! Am I the only one feeling this way? Come on Penguins!!!!!!!!!!

[lukalee]

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Sorry Noelle. Hang in there!!!! What are you feeling? Think about how shitty AL really is.

[SpiritGirl]

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No Noelle!! It's not just you - much like "Spiritual Warfare" - I call this "AL Warfare"... It's going to attack you... Like the fox going after the weak... You certainly are NOT weak, but you are having weak moments - and AL is sniffing you out... Keep on keeping on!! No matter what ... Do NOT give up - that is the ONLY way the fox wins...

I am thinking of you and Nurse... You are surrounded by us... If this were easy we'd all be sober and there would be no MWO or threads to rely on...I, for one, am glad to have it in my life....

Tomorrow is Monday. The weekend is over - it's a hard time for all of us... Let's have a great week...